Should I attend early education classes?

Too many mothers asked me in the background and in the WeChat group, \”Should we enroll our children in early childhood education classes? Is early childhood education useful for children\’s growth?\” I, a person who has never enrolled children in any early childhood education classes, should talk about this topic. I\’m afraid of being biased, so I\’ve been avoiding this topic. But everyone is still asking questions as always. Especially the day before yesterday, a mother said that she wanted to enroll her three-month-old child in an early childhood education class because a friend of hers said that the child must develop intelligence as early as possible, otherwise he will not be able to keep up in the future. What I felt was the amplified anxiety of a new mother who loves her children, and I felt the need to have a good chat with her. I want to talk to you today. I will try my best to speak from an objective perspective and say something sincere. The article is relatively long, but it is purely informative, so read it patiently! Ask yourself first, why should you enroll your children in early education classes? To make your children smarter? If you don’t have time to spend with your children, is sending them to an early education institution a solution? Other families have enrolled their children, and I want to try it too? Anyway, it is beneficial and harmless. Learn more and feel at ease? If the elderly at home don’t know how to teach, is it better to go to early childhood education instead of at home? Want your children to have an educational place suitable for their growth? …I can think of the main reasons above. It’s just the early childhood education class that everyone talks about. Is it suitable for your actual situation? Please answer this question internally first. If you deviate from the original purpose, you will just be kidnapped by your own anxiety. Or enroll your children in early education classes for utilitarian goals. I advise you to stop and reflect for a moment before you sign up your child with such expectations. After paying an expensive fee, I found that my child\’s problems still existed, and my own problems had not changed. This anxious heart will only be smashed to pieces. There are some things that early education cannot provide and are even difficult to change. For example, parents’ hot tempers and bad family atmosphere. These require self-reflection and courageous changes, as well as the efforts of all family members. Should we do early childhood education? Of course you have to do it, but you don’t have to do it in an early childhood education class. For example, the reading enlightenment I often tell everyone is actually an important aspect of early childhood education. Parents\’ reading aloud stimulates children\’s hearing. The expressions and intonation of parents when reading can make children feel the changes in emotions. The pictures, graphics and colors that children see themselves will stimulate their visual development. Stories told by parents can infinitely expand children\’s memory, imagination, and logical thinking abilities. There is also nature education. Friends who have followed the official account for more than a year must know that I have always advocated letting children return to nature. Even in the city, you should bring your little ones to touch more branches, soil, fresh outdoor air, feel the wind and sunshine, look at the clouds in the sky, observe small ants and other insects on the ground, pick up stones, or find a few leaves. bring home. There are also music, graffiti, and aerobics for the children. The games you play with your children at home are all part of early childhood education! And what I just mentioned can be done at home with parents accompanying you! In fact, we sometimes mix the two concepts of \”early education\” and \”early education class\”. Early childhood education is the abbreviation of early childhood education and is an important stage of children\’s education. The core of early education is not to learn how much specific knowledge,It depends on whether children\’s minds grow healthily. The key lies in the educator\’s educational philosophy and educational methods, as well as the environment in which education is implemented? The purpose is to help children gradually form an independent, positive, stable and healthy personality, emotions and thoughts. Many early childhood education institutions use this brand to provide training, saying that they can help parents achieve this goal. And there is a problem here. If we simply talk about helping children, we ignore the children\’s most important caregivers and family environment. Can this really be achieved? This is one of the reasons why I feel that early childhood education classes cannot achieve the educational effect they promise. What\’s more, many domestic early childhood education institutions have become nurseries or learning tutoring classes. It is too far away from this goal, and many parents have trouble finding a suitable place despite all the trouble. The best early education should be at home. The best early education teachers should be parents who are peaceful and constantly improving. Let’s talk about some of my core understandings of early education: The early parent-child relationship determines the child’s sense of security. If you want to know how to make your child feel safe. The best training stage is the early stage (0-1 years old), allowing children to have an initial sense of security, which is more important than any intellectual development. At this stage, children will go through a special psychological growth period – \”the formation of self-awareness.\” Careful parents will find that when their children are six or seven months old, they will be very afraid of their parents leaving their sight. Although we keep saying \”I will be back, just for a while.\” Children will not understand. They realize that they are separated from their parents, and they are afraid that if their parents leave that door, they will really never come back. So I remember when my son was this old, when we were eating, he would lie down at the dining table and see his mother to calm down. And when children gradually become independent, they will not be so attached to their parents when they reach the early childhood stage. But separation anxiety will still exist. That\’s why every year when kindergarten starts, many children cry as if the sky is falling. Children who are often insecure are more afraid of separation. Parents not only need to tell their children: \”I will always love you and will never leave you.\” They also need to take practical actions to accompany their children, instead of sending their children to nurseries or early education classes early. Early education classes cannot help when it comes to cultivating parent-child relationships. The natural attachment between parent and child is irreplaceable! If you can\’t even provide the most basic sense of security, does it make sense to talk about other so-called intelligent development? And this requires parents to water it with love. Grasping the sensitive period of children\’s growth is the prerequisite for early education. Only by understanding children can we love them well. Everyone will agree with this statement, but how many parents really try to understand their children? Many parents still follow their old routines. I remember I wrote about understanding children’s emotions in an article before, and a father directly left a message: “Why do you need to understand your child’s emotions? The more you give in, the more you give in, the more you give in. No one understands us when we were young, and now we are not living as well as usual. , according to me, three good words are not as effective as a stick.\” However, children\’s growth follows the same rules as plants and trees, and each age has its own special growth characteristics. Montessori calls this a sensitive period. The sensitive period is like the spiritual flame for a child’s growth, MontessoriIt describes \”children who are going through a sensitive period, their helpless bodies are being commanded by a divine command, and their little minds are also inspired.\” Parents should respect the behaviors and movements given by nature to children and provide necessary help. So as not to miss out on the special vitality that only comes once in a lifetime. Parents should work hard to understand some of the sensitive periods in their children\’s growth stages, so that we can better understand their children\’s behavior. I believe that countless children have troubled their parents like this: the person they designate must come to pick up things, otherwise, they will cry! The right foot must be put on first when putting on shoes, otherwise, it will make trouble! The designated person must be responsible for drinking water. Pour it, and the others are determined not to drink it, and they still make a fuss! This is when the child enters the order-sensitive period (3-4 years old). This sensitive period is something that every child will experience. For example, why our children must put the cup in a fixed place, why they must wear the left shoe first, and why Dad must not be allowed to sleep on his right side but on the left side? Why must he open the door? Many times, we think this is because the child is willful, but in fact it is not. This sensitive period poses great challenges to parents! When constructing the special quality of a sense of order, children\’s excessive needs are often considered \”willful\” and \”crazy\”, sometimes to the point of being unreasonable. Moreover, children will naturally be happy because of order, and they will lose their temper because of disorder. For children who are in the order-sensitive period, as long as the items are out of their supposed places, they will quickly notice and ask for the items to be returned to their original places. Parents need to patiently observe their children\’s behavior. The key is to understand and adapt. Understand and help children develop their sense of order. When we understood what was going on, we were relieved a lot! But if some problems really exist, then you need to help your children do some purposeful training. For example, a problem of sensory integration disorder in early childhood has become common now. Some studies have found that children born by caesarean section are more likely to have this condition. Because the child is not squeezed by the birth canal when he is born, he will have congenital deficiencies in sensory integration from birth. But will children born by caesarean section definitely suffer from sensory integration disorders? I had this worry before because my son was delivered by caesarean section. Practice has proven that parents can make up for their children\’s congenital deficiencies by giving them enough sensory stimulation. I give my children enough stimulation from the very beginning, some even a little adventurous. I remember when my son was five or six months old, there was a game where he held his two hands and swung them left and right a few times on a swing. The old man was afraid that I would break the child\’s hand. I said how could it be possible? If our hands can\’t bear our own weight, what\’s the use of these hands? It is completely safe as long as you do not twist or squeeze it with force. Of course, this game is more dangerous, so please do not imitate it. Later, he was encouraged to do somersaults on his own, drill into the paper cave I made for him, and walk on the short guardrails next to him to do balance exercises. To be honest, this is much more fun than the balance beam. Many children born by caesarean section are sent for sensory training. It is because parents have already recognized this label in their hearts. In fact, parents can try more and observe more. See what\’s going on. If parents understand the reasons for their children\’s behavior, they will not be anxious.consider,. It can be done through your own observation, thinking, and some methods, and in ordinary company. The last one discussed about the family environment and the role of family members is the core of early childhood education. Because the best early childhood education place should be a happy and relaxing place. And this is what parents need to work hard to create for their children. Real early childhood education is daily companionship at home. For example, some physical games between parents and children. Early skin-to-skin contact. A family atmosphere filled with love and laughter. These early education institutions cannot provide it. In fact, many parents who are struggling with whether to enroll their children in early education classes have already begun to think about these aspects. It\’s just that I\’m not sure enough or confident enough. When you see people around you saying yes, it doesn\’t matter if one person says yes, but if three people say yes to you, you will be shaken. There is no single answer to whether to go to early education classes or not. The key is to see whether it is suitable for your family situation and whether it is suitable for your children. If you are carefully accompanying your child to grow up, you want to make your child\’s life richer. It is also okay to accompany your children to early education classes to experience life, let them make some friends, exercise their courage, and improve some skills. Don\’t be superstitious, don\’t be gullible, and don\’t just hand your child over and ignore it. Parents who have not enrolled their children in early education classes should see if they can provide their children with high-quality companionship. Can I have time to recharge my studies? After all, it is necessary to take the time to read a little. If so, don’t worry about it. It’s the same with your children’s enlightenment at home. No matter how you choose. Don\’t lose yourself, have your own thinking. What makes you waver is not other people\’s persuasion or tempting advertisements, but that your own heart is not firm enough. And no matter what you choose, it’s the right choice, because if you work hard enough, the result will not be bad.