Should I hire a confinement nanny?

My sister-in-law is pregnant and will give birth in half a year. As early as when she was 3 months pregnant, I asked my brother, \”Have you decided to have a confinement nanny? It\’s hard to find a good confinement nanny on the market, so you have to arrange this in advance!\” You want to eat, sleep, and spend a lot of money to find a confinement nanny?\” The younger brother obviously didn\’t understand this suggestion and didn\’t take it seriously. So, I exposed my scars and told him about my confusion and grievances about not having a confinement nanny when I gave birth more than ten years ago. After hearing this, the younger brother did not express his position at the moment and decided to inquire from various sources before making a decision. A few days later, he came to me and said: After discussion, he and his wife decided not to find a confinement nanny! ! ! When I heard the news, I was a little surprised. After asking carefully about the reason, I found out that my sister-in-law had just been promoted to my mother\’s best friend. After the confinement period, she had already changed her confinement nanny for three months. Finally, they came to a conclusion. Conclusion: Wouldn’t it be nice to save tens of thousands of money and spend it on mothers and children? 01 In those years, I regretted not having a confinement nanny. During the confinement period, I had a confinement nanny. I don’t know when this practice started quietly. In short, my mother’s generation didn’t do it, and my cousins’ generation (in the 1970s) didn’t hear much about it. But it was my turn (in the 1980s). It seems that there is a \”monthly sister-in-law trend\” quietly going on. You wouldn\’t know if you didn\’t ask, but you would be shocked if you asked, almost all the mothers around you are asking for a confinement nanny. That was still the market situation more than ten years ago. In Jiangsu and Zhejiang, it cost 81,000 yuan to hire a confinement nanny to serve the confinement child. During the Chinese New Year, you had to stuff a red envelope, and the confinement nanny only took care of the children and the mother, and did not care about anything else. . When I got married and had children, I was financially strapped and struggled for a long time about whether to hire a confinement nanny. Finally, under financial pressure, I only called a confinement nanny for a week while I was in the hospital. After I was discharged from the hospital, I went back to my husband\’s house for confinement, and my mother took care of my daily life. Maybe it was the psychological gap, maybe it was postpartum depression, the tiredness of having a child whose daily routine was reversed, and the early days of marriage when she was still in the running-in period with her husband and in-laws. The period of confinement became a \”dark time\” in my memory. Unknowingly, the regret of not having a confinement nanny in those years actually made me a \” confinement nanny supporter\”. 02What is the use of hiring a confinement nanny? As a \”conservation nanny supporter\”, I have had several long conversations with my own mother on the issue of \”should I hire a confinement nanny?\” My advice to my mother is: save money, worry and effort to avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. At first, my mother firmly supported this proposal, but after asking around and being influenced by the opinions of her brother, sister-in-law, she was completely \”betrayed\”. Of course, there are real cases to support it – my mother\’s good sisters gave their own opinions. . When her daughter gave birth, the aunt was still working. In order to keep her job, she hired a confinement nanny to take care of her. However, she found that the confinement nanny did nothing but ate all the good things she bought for her daughter. Bare. When the aunt saw this, she was so angry that she drove away the confinement nanny and took care of herself for the remaining half month. My aunt told my mother with her own experience: During the confinement period, the child only needs to eat and sleep. Don’t hold the child if nothing happens. You can do it yourself, so why spend so much money! It is better to reward the wife with the money for a confinement nanny and spend it on her own family, and everyone will be happy. Let’s get back to the point, during the confinement period, please have a confinement nannyWhat\’s the use? Although I have never hired a live-in confinement nanny, judging from the personal experiences of the hospital confinement nanny and friends and girlfriends around me, the main job is to take care of the children, eat, drink, and defecate. Sleep together when the child sleeps, make milk powder and change diapers when the child wakes up, and give the child a hug when he is fussy. If you meet a better confinement nanny, she will help the mother to wipe her body and start breastfeeding. It is worth noting that it is difficult to find a confinement nanny who is truly skilled. My husband\’s cousin gave birth to a baby and found a nanny. The baby praised her aunt for the first week, but after half a month she started complaining. It turned out that the confinement sister-in-law knew little about it, but my cousin suffered from \”mastitis\” unexpectedly. She was still in the confinement period, but she went to the hospital several times. In the end, a long needle was inserted directly into the breast for treatment without anesthesia. It hurt. She burst into tears: She had never felt so painful when giving birth! It is said that the confinement sister-in-law has been fired before the confinement period. Now that I think about it carefully, the biggest role of a confinement nanny is that when the child wakes up in the middle of the night, she can make milk and change diapers immediately. The most difficult part of the confinement period is that no matter day or night, the child will always wake up every two or three hours to drink milk. Especially at night, it will disturb the rest of the mother and her family. Therefore, if the family has enough manpower and reasonable arrangements to take care of the child\’s daily life, then \”hiring a confinement nanny\” is not a necessary option. 03 If you don’t invite a confinement nanny, what preparations should you make? \”Are you really ready not to invite a confinement nanny?\” I confirmed to my brother again and again. After he presented the facts and reasoned, I finally agreed with his decision. So, if you don’t hire a confinement nanny, what preparations should you make? 1) Let the mother be in a good mood. My younger brother analyzed my obsession with \”confinement nanny\” and pointedly pointed out: \”The main reason is that you have postpartum depression and don\’t know it.\” When he said this, it seemed that it was really the case. In fact, whether or not to invite a confinement nanny is not the key issue. What is important is that the mother is in a good mood. If we look more closely, a mother\’s good mood actually comes from two aspects of support: material support and spiritual support. That is, after the child is born, there will be no financial pressure. At the same time, the mother\’s mood can be understood by her husband and family. . 2) Someone is helping me. Almost every month, the child\’s schedule is reversed. He sleeps soundly during the day, cries from time to time at night, and has to get up every 2 to 3 hours to feed and change diapers. The mother is weak after childbirth. Although she needs to breastfeed during the confinement period, she must have help changing diapers and coaxing the baby. Whether it is the caregiver or the mother herself, due to poor sleep at night, it is best to have someone on duty to allow the mother and the caregiver at night to catch up on sleep during the next day. 3) How often should a child with knowledge eat milk? Why does the child cry after feeding? How to tell if your child is full? What should I do if my child is confused? … Another reason why novice mothers hire confinement nannies is because they are “first-time mothers and have no experience.” The reason why confinement nannies are expensive and difficult to hire is because they have more experience in raising children than mothers. much practical experience. However, the problem of raising children has both common problems and individual characteristics. In other words, whether it is a confinement nanny or a mother,After all, it is all based on experience and needs to be treated individually by individual babies. Since there is no confinement nanny to make early judgments, the mother must be a \”learning\” mother and learn some common parenting knowledge in advance, so that she can make good judgments when taking care of her baby, making parenting scientific and easy. When giving birth to a baby, is it necessary to hire a confinement nanny? After understanding the above questions, do you have your own answers in your heart?