Should you listen to your teacher at school? This mother gave a different answer!

Parents born in the 1970s and 1980s must remember that the most common sentence they heard from their parents when they were young was: \”You must listen to the teacher in school.\” In our era, teachers are the authority, so we take it for granted that everything the teacher says is right. of. Parents often lament that even ten sentences they say to their children are not as good as one sentence a teacher can say to his students. Now facing the children born after 2000, should we still repeat the wise words of the older generation of parents? I think we should look at it dialectically. On the first day of kindergarten, after holding hands with my baby daughter and entering the campus, I knelt down and said to her: \”Baby, starting today you will be playing and learning in a new environment. There will be teachers and children here.\” When playing with you, teachers are right most of the time, but they are also human beings, and sometimes they are wrong. So, baby, when you feel that there is something inappropriate about the teacher, you have to talk to your mother about it. Mom will help. You make the decision and help you coordinate, okay?\” The daughter nodded in understanding. I watched her young figure walk into the classroom. Even though I was extremely reluctant to leave, I knew that she would definitely have her own judgment. In the blink of an eye, the baby entered elementary school, and I still repeated that sentence, but the tone and wording were slightly different. \”Baby, you have grown into a primary school student and will get to know new classmates and teachers. You must be friendly and helpful to everyone, but you must also stick to your own principles. Teachers face so many children every day, and sometimes they are annoyed. It\’s normal to be angry, and you have to understand that sometimes what you say doesn\’t sound so good. Everyone makes mistakes, but the starting point and stance are different, and the results are different. If you have any problems, you should communicate with your mother in time. I believe we can find a good solution together.\” My baby\’s grades were particularly outstanding when he first went to school, but after a year of growth, the gap between all the children has narrowed. In addition, after I gave birth to Xiaobao, I paid less attention to and communicated with her, and my baby passed the test. A period of trough. The baby said to me: \”Mom, the teacher said that I used to be top-notch, but now I can hardly tell when I stand in the crowd. Mom, am I stupid?\” I held the baby in my arms with love and affection and said: \”Baby , the teacher is actually encouraging you, saying that because the teacher particularly likes and pays attention to you. Besides, everyone is making progress. It is normal for you to become less outstanding, but as long as you work a little harder, you will definitely become more OK!\” To be honest, I have never seen a better teacher than my child\’s class teacher. Sometimes children will understand the teacher\’s words without adding any preconditions or following sentences. Because I have been in contact with teachers, I know that there is no teacher who does not want his students to become better. The teacher’s starting point and stance are good, but each child’s tolerance and understanding are different. This requires parents to play a role in communication, not only to allow the children to think positively, but also to establish the teacher’s authority, so that she can understand every time gain positive energy from the experience. Therefore, as long as you teach carefully, communicate carefully, let your child learn to think independently, and gradually use her own judgment to solve problems, she will grow up happier. So whether to obey authority depends on the situation. The key lies in the growth of independent mind and judgment. Text | Yue Han