Simple happiness is to accompany your children. Dad, please be sure to accompany your children until they are 10 years old.

A friend works in the emergency room of a children\’s hospital. After working for a long time, she found that there are four situations in which parents accompany their children to see the doctor: The first type: Mom, dad and the elderly come together, and everyone has a clear division of labor. You line up, I hold the baby, and the father is responsible. Lift the bottle. The second type: both parents are here, the mother is responsible for holding the baby, and the father is responsible for running errands, which is warm and not hectic. The third type: The mother came with the old man. Because the old man has limited legs and feet, the mother will be more tired, but at least she has a helper. The fourth type: the mother is alone, queuing here and paying orders there, holding a bottle with one hand and holding the disobedient baby with the other. This is the worst kind. Often the child cries heartbrokenly and the mother is so aggrieved that she wants to cry. As for fathers taking their children to see a doctor alone, I have almost never seen that. She summed up with a smile: My mother has the highest attendance rate, almost perfect attendance. Dad’s attendance rate is the lowest, only half. It can be seen that the most \”free\” person is mother, and the most \”busy\” person is father. If you think about it carefully, this is really the case. I have only heard of the parenting mom group, but never the parenting dad group; 80% of those who pick up their children at school are mothers; the people who take their children to interest classes and tutoring classes are still mothers; even if their children are sick, there are a lot of fathers Say \”You can do this.\” As for dad, he is either busy with work or socializing, or he is too tired and needs a rest. A mother online said that what she couldn\’t stand the most was not that her husband was busy at work, but that he would rather go drinking with his friends than spend time with his children. After finally returning home, he was still playing mobile phones and games. When his children came to him, he dismissed them with \”Go play with your mother.\” The \”2017 Chinese Family Parent-Child Companion White Paper\” shows that only 12.6% of families have fathers who can accompany their children. On one side is the mother who works 24 hours a day, on the other side is the father who is always absent, but the most hurt is the child who longs for his father. Liu Yong once said: Many fathers have no hands in their children\’s pictures. Because fathers are too \”busy\” at work and rarely spend time with their children, in the eyes of their children, fathers are like a shadow that they can never catch. Fu Seoul has a good saying: Since you are so busy, why did you race against time to give birth to him? Not long ago, a debate topic in \”Qi Pa Shuo\” sparked heated discussion: If a father spends less than 12 hours a week with his children, should the title of father be revoked? Among them, Yan Rujing’s speech made many people cry. She said, \”12 hours is too long, isn\’t it? The one-minute conversation I had with my dad felt a bit long.\” \”He wanted to stay with me for 12 hours, and I didn\’t know what he was going to do.\” Why did dad stay with me? 12 hours, instead of being happy, you feel at a loss? It\’s not that companionship is unimportant, but because Yan Rujing\’s father has never been with her since she was a child and has been absent. Gradually, father and daughter became the most familiar strangers, and they didn\’t even know what to say when they picked up the phone. The book \”Fatherhood\” writes: The absence of a father is the misfortune of the family, the sorrow of the wife, the sadness of the child, and the depression of society. Research has proven that children who have little contact with their fathers significantly lag behind in height, weight, movement and other aspects of development. They are generally anxious, have low self-esteem, are autistic, willful, hyperactive, have poor self-control, and are dependent.Sexual and other issues are called \”father\’s lack of love syndrome\” by experts. Long Yingtai said: Parents also have a \”validity period\”, and it is very short, only 10 years. After the child is 10 years old, no matter how hard the parents try and compensate, it will not help, because you have expired, which is cruel, but also very realistic. Many things in this world can be repeated, but there is no chance of repeating the growth of children. Don’t wait until your children grow up, become estranged, and have many problems, then you will regret not spending time with your children properly. There is a consensus in the education community: 0-12 years old is the \”golden validity period\” for parents to accompany and educate their children. At this stage, children are most dependent on their parents, and it is also a critical period for shaping their character and outlook. Psychologists have found that 20% of those who achieve great achievements depend on personal efforts, and 80% of factors depend on the influence of their father. Cultivating children who are rich at heart is inseparable from the company of their father. Dad will make his children feel more secure. My daughter follows me to the amusement park. She is very timid and dare not go to any place with many people. But if her dad is around, she can have a great time every time. Later I realized that in the hearts of children, father is a representative of strength and hero. With father\’s company, children will have more confidence and courage to face an unfamiliar world. If the father is absent for a long time, the child will develop feelings of inferiority and fear, and this strong sense of insecurity may bind the child for life. Dad makes his son more like a man Yang Lele once told her husband Wang Han’s experience of raising children: His son was timid, so Wang Han encouraged his son to be brave and then took him to climb. Wang Han also specially made a small bookcase for his son. Later, when his son saw his father reading, he also took out a book from the small bookcase to read. Children will always have the shadow of their parents, especially for boys, who need to see the perseverance and bravery of a man in their father. He will imitate his father\’s behavior and let himself grow into a man, which is something his mother cannot give him. Dad makes his daughter happier There is a question on Zhihu: Does the father\’s speech and behavior directly determine the daughter\’s future mate selection criteria? The answer with the most likes is: \”My father said that the thing he is most proud of in his life is not how successful his career is, but that his daughter wants to marry someone like her father.\” Dad is the first contact in his daughter\’s life The company of a man and a father will help a girl understand what love is, and will also subtly affect her daughter\’s criteria for choosing a mate. And those girls who have rarely or never been accompanied by their fathers will lack love in their hearts and will spend their lives pursuing being loved. Because we don’t understand what love looks like, we can easily encounter inhumane people and get hurt. Obama said: \”As the father of two daughters, I know that being a father is one of the most important jobs for any man.\” Even when he was running for president, he never missed a parent-teacher meeting with his daughters. Being busy is no excuse. No matter how busy a father is, he can still accompany his children to grow up. There must be a sense of ritual when accompanying children. I once read a post on the Internet: If I had to use one word to describe my father, then I would use \”hero\” to describe him. Because of work, my father has been away from home for more than ten years, and he may not come back during the holidays, but every time I have an important day, he comes to visit me.You will definitely appear dressed up like a hero. On my birthday, I went to kindergarten, graduated from kindergarten, went to elementary school, graduated from elementary school, and graduated from college. No matter how busy I was, even if I was about to leave after attending the graduation ceremony, he would rush back without hesitation. Every time I see my dad in the audience applauding me, I feel like I am the happiest girl in the world. The small sense of ceremony actually contains the deepest love of my father. And these warm moments are the warmest foundation in a child’s heart as he or she grows up. To accompany your children, you need to have exclusive parent-child time. Li Ka-shing said: \”No matter how busy we are at work, our family will have a meal together every week.\” In addition, Li Ka-shing often takes his son to take the bus to see ordinary people. Life. Under his guidance through words and deeds, both sons have excelled. In the hearts of the two sons, the short time spent eating and taking the bus were the most tender memories of their childhood. No matter how busy you are, you should take time to spend time with your children, take them for a walk, chat with them, and play games with them. Maybe it\’s only 10 minutes a day, but in the child\’s heart, that\’s the most beautiful look of his father. When accompanying your children, don’t forget that the best gift a mother or father can give a child is a mother who loves her children. Remember to take the initiative to take on part of the housework after work, take the initiative to care for your wife, understand her difficulties, and love her well. These times are not only a demonstration, but also a sense of security and nourishment for the children. Countless facts have proven that a father\’s company can make children brave, independent, strong, more enterprising and responsible, and at the same time, they will have more confidence and confidence to face the ups and downs in future life. Dads, stop being \”busy\” and never go home. Father is also the most important career in your life.