Since giving birth to her second child, Dabao has completely changed. Her mother said she couldn’t believe it.

That day, Xiaoxin took out his five small pencils with only the tip left to do homework. His father saw it and grabbed it, saying how could it be used if it was so short? It’s not like there are no new ones. I originally thought that he must have asked for a new pencil directly, maybe he just forgot to change it, but he seriously told his father that he can still write, why should he change it? If I can\’t write, I will change it myself. Dad calmed down. This reminds me of something my husband told me a few days ago. Their father and son went shopping. On the way, Xiaoxin found a dime coin and picked it up. His father questioned him and said what is the use of a dime. Xiaoxin still told his father seriously: A dime is money and can be used to buy things. My husband said he was taught a lesson by his son. Xiaoxin is the eldest son of our family, and he has been pampered since he was a child. Although the family\’s conditions are not rich, as long as it is something he wants, he will almost always be satisfied. As an only son, he enjoys the favor of the family. But that didn\’t seem to be a good thing, and around the age of three, we started to see problems. Since he was young, we all thought that his temper, cleverness, and coquettishness were cute. Because he was small, everything about him seemed annoying. But when he was three years old, the characteristics of an older child gradually became apparent, and his height suddenly increased to one meter. Above, looking at his \”cute\” traits, it seems to be very different. I found that he is selfish, squeamish, can\’t afford to lose, has no love, has no patience for work, has no sense of adventure, no sense of responsibility, is unreasonable, and has no What thoughts? All day long, all I have in my heart, mouth, and hands are toys, toys, toys. During those one or two years, we were extremely disappointed with him. He had a very bad temper and was stubborn, so he was often beaten. Although we all knew that corporal punishment was wrong, we seemed to be unable to control ourselves. When he was four years old, his father spanked him because of his unreasonable behavior and endless crying. In the blink of an eye, he disappeared. We looked for him for a long time, and when we were about to call the police, he returned home angrily. , and said to us: If you do this again, I will run away from home and never return to this home. When you get old, I will throw you away. You are so bad! At the age of four, he ran away from home for the first time, and said something like this. I had heard from friends that children would run away from home if they disagreed, and threatened their parents that they would throw them into the trash can and feed them garbage. , I think what kind of parents and children must have such thoughts. I never thought that my baby would be like this. I have held it in my hands and cared for it since childhood, and actually thought that my parents were so bad. After thinking for a long time, he realized that he had been wrong for so many years. It was because of his meticulous care that it became a matter of course in his eyes. Everything was only caused by the parents themselves. The pampering was the foreshadowing, but how could this situation be reversed? But there was nothing we could do. I gave birth to a younger brother. When Xiaoxin was four and a half years old, I accidentally found out that I was pregnant. We received the only child certificate and originally planned to have just one child, but over the years we have read some stories around us, which show that being an only child has many disadvantages. When I told Xiaoxin about my decision to have a second child, he was surprised, but he just said it was up to you. Then I slowly started showing unkindness to the little one in my belly., although I still love him so much and dote on him, and I still carry him around with his weight of more than 30 pounds despite his big belly. He still says from time to time that he will throw it into the trash can after his younger siblings are born, but I believe that when the time comes, He will love his younger siblings because he has no idea how cute little babies can be. When he saw his brother for the first time, he was very excited. He went home and showed off loudly to his friends: I gave birth to a brother. When I came back from the hospital, the neighbors were all laughing at his words: I gave birth to a younger brother. He has changed, he has become careful, caring, compassionate, and responsible. He seems to have a sense of accomplishment. It seems that his younger brother is a prize that proves that he is better than others. He loves his younger brother very much. Is this still him? Since the birth of his youngest son, Xiaoshuai, Xiaoxin brushes his teeth and washes his face, dresses and shoes by himself, eats and sleeps by himself every day. He has become independent, takes care of himself, has more and more interests and hobbies, and has become friendly and understanding when getting along with friends. In order to share, he realized all this by himself, and he enjoyed it. He was never jealous of his younger brother. On the contrary, he took good care of his younger brother. All our previous worries disappeared on their own accord with the arrival of our younger brother. Listening to him repeat to his younger brother the same advice we had repeatedly told him like a little adult, watching him trying to protect his younger brother carefully, the tenderness in his eyes , sparkling happy eyes. Sometimes I don’t believe it. Is this still him? In a blink of an eye, Xiaoxin is in the first grade. Last semester, because his pinyin pronunciation was not standard, I often changed from a lady to a shrew in a second during tutoring. I felt that he was hopeless in his studies. By the next semester, I started to ignore him. I told him to figure out his own homework and look through the materials when he couldn\’t think of anything. I couldn\’t accompany him to do his homework forever. During this semester, his grades suddenly soared. More than a dozen of them jumped directly into the top five in the class, or even ranked first. I am glad that I found the best tutor for him, and that was himself. Xiaoxin usually idles around and doesn\’t seem to focus on anything. He just likes to play. No one believes that he can study, but it turns out that as long as he wants to do it, he can do it well. From now on, I plan not to force him. It’s best to let him do whatever he wants. Learning is his business. As long as he works hard, even if his grades are not excellent, I will give him recognition. Now I am thinking carefully about why Xiaoshuai knows how to be courteous, how to share, how to show weakness, how to accept weakness, how to accept when something is good, and how to deal fairly, because he has an older brother who enjoys equal treatment with him since he was born; and My brother was regarded as the apple of everyone\’s eye as soon as he was born, a lonely pearl who only knows how to be the only one to dominate. If I hadn\’t given birth to a second child and given him a different environment, I might never have discovered that he was such an independent child and could do anything by himself. It\’s not his fault, it\’s the fault of this special identity. The second child is painful, the second child is tiring, but the second child is equally happy. Two babies definitely bring twice the fun. Even if they fight, tear each other up, and are incompatible, they will eventually understand that brotherhood is precious. !