Smart parents don’t show off their wealth and don’t cry about their poverty.

A few days ago, I went to a Western restaurant for dinner. There were two couples sitting at the next table, each with a child of seven or eight years old. It looked like two families having a dinner together. Among them was a woman, covered in jewels, brightly dressed, and a brand-name bag with a dazzling LOGO. As she ate, she talked endlessly, telling the family of three sitting across from her how fruitful her recent trip to Europe was, how many luxuries she bought, and how many delicacies she tasted. She looked very energetic and high-spirited. The men around her were also quite proud. They pretended to think that she had never seen the world, but he said richly, \”You can go anywhere in the world. Anyway, our family has plenty of money.\” At this time, he was stuck in the middle of them and refused to eat well. The little boy suddenly became excited and used a small fork to skewer the fruits on the plate. He kept shouting in a sharp little voice, \”Our family has a lot of money!\” But the couple sitting opposite them never said anything. Chance interjected, but occasionally chimed in with a weird expression. Until they finished speaking proudly, the woman opposite couldn\’t help but said sourly, \”I really envy you. Unlike our family, we simply can\’t survive.\” Hearing this, the man looked even more embarrassed, and immediately argued and sarcastically turned pale. Seeing that the faces of the two were getting more and more ugly, and a quarrel was about to begin, the couple who showed off their wealth quickly spoke out to persuade them. However, the atmosphere of the meal was still ruined. The most disturbing thing is that there is a young girl sitting between the quarreling couple. She has a low eyebrow and a lonely expression. She looks at the adults timidly. She doesn\’t say a word, just silently eats the food in front of her. of chicken popcorn. \”The family has plenty of money!\” This sentence is probably familiar to many people, because there are always a few wealthy people around us. The first time I heard this sentence was when I was sixteen years old, when I was a freshman in the best boarding high school in the county. There was a girl in the class at that time who was very famous in the whole grade because her father, who was in the coal mining business, sent her to school wearing a gold chain and driving a luxury car when school started. Even the doorman is particularly enthusiastic about them. Soon, she made a group of companions, because she had enough money, and if she made friends with her, she could eat for free and get expensive gifts. But she is also very domineering and often bullies her female classmates. One time, she asked my deskmate to borrow homework, but when he didn\’t borrow it, she became furious and cursed. The insulting words were so offensive that it was hard to believe that those words came from the mouth of a sixteen-year-old girl. I was so angry that I tried to tell my deskmate a few words. Unexpectedly, she actually wanted to hit our heads with a pencil case and yelled, \”I\’m going to find the underworld to kill you. My dad said, our family has a lot of Money!\” She was young at that time, and it was the first time she left her parents to board in school, so we were all scared and had no choice but to ask the teacher for help. But before the teacher could investigate, the school expelled her because she liked it in the third year of high school. A senior student of the school hired someone to beat his love rival into serious injuries. It is said that on the day she left school, the family dispatched several luxury cars to pick her up in a large force, which seemed to be a demonstration to the school. Now that I think about it carefully, it was actually a typical campus violence.The protagonist is a sixteen-year-old girl in the rebellious period of youth. But the main culprit is none other than her parents. Because a sixteen-year-old child seems to be sensible, but in fact his outlook is immature. Every word, every action, every gesture, is the shadow of his parents. Presumably, her family prides themselves on being \”rich\”, showing off their wealth everywhere, and advocating that \”money talks\”. Therefore, she has been deeply imprinted with fearlessness in her heart since she was a child, so she is domineering, arrogant and willful, and even Do things that hurt your classmates. Wealthy families have natural advantages in material aspects, but some parents turn this advantage into a tragedy in their children\’s lives. Later, I heard that my classmate did not continue studying after being expelled from school, but lived in her father\’s coal mine. However, the coal mine business went downhill in the past few years, and her life and marriage were not very satisfactory. At the beginning of life, everything is a blank piece of paper, and children are copies of their parents. In a Western restaurant, if parents casually say, \”Our family has plenty of money,\” the children will develop an arrogant and domineering attitude. The confused parents think that is childish words. Wuji, but a discerning person would frown unconsciously. But do you really think that only parents who show off their wealth are at fault? In my opinion, parents who cry about poverty are even more poisonous to their children. Compared with the couple showing off their wealth, the woman crying about poverty in the Western restaurant exuded an aura of decadence, with resentment towards life and disgust for her husband written all over her face. She didn’t know that the words she casually said would fall into the ears of her children, It is the coldest despair in this world. Judging from their clothes, they don’t look like they “can’t afford to live” at all. Maybe they are not rich, maybe they have their own difficulties, but in front of their children, they consciously or unconsciously express their poverty, embarrassment, dissatisfaction, and ridicule. In the end, the ones who are hurt the most are the children. A family that likes to show off its wealth is most likely to cultivate a willful and domineering child, while parents who often cry about poverty will often make their children sensitive and have low self-esteem. Fan Shengmei\’s mother in the hit drama \”Ode to Joy\” is a typical poor person. She was used to crying about poverty to all her relatives and friends, and was used to taking advantage and complaining everywhere. Therefore, although Fan Shengmei was naturally beautiful as an adult, she had low self-esteem and a sensitive personality. She had no confidence and no sense of security. What’s even more tragic is that after she arrived in a big city and was able to earn money to support her family, her mother pointed the finger of poverty at her, constantly crying that she “can’t live anymore” and demanding endlessly, eventually squeezing her into the city. The most humble and helpless leftover woman in the world. In life, there are many parents who love to show off their wealth, and there are even more parents who love to cry about their poverty. When chatting with others, they will say, \”I\’m going to die of poverty, you are all better than me.\”; when their children want to study, they will say, \”What are you doing studying, and they won\’t even be able to eat?\”; when quarreling with their partners, they will say, \”I\’m with you.\” Together, we will never have a good life in the future.\” In fact, it\’s not that serious, it\’s just that the parents have their own thoughts. But what can you get from such a dedicated performance? Life doesn\’t bring pie to the sky, but the child\’s character has been abruptly distorted, the happy life has been cut off, and the originally beautiful future has been cast into a gray gloom.film. The right way for a wealthy family is to always be cautious. For a poor family, it is even more important for a poor family to be neither humble nor arrogant but to have a bright mind. The ancients often said that poverty cannot take root and wealth cannot be passed down to generations. Only a family that accumulates good deeds will be happy. I think Liu Ye’s wife Anna’s education for her children is a model. She never makes her children have the concept of \”we are rich people\”, and she never teaches them to recognize famous brands. When she participated in \”Where Are We Going, Dad?\” , the children wore plain old cloth shoes, and their words and deeds were extremely low-key. Although most people come from ordinary families and rarely have the capital to show off their wealth, at least we can ensure that we will not cry about poverty, because a good family tradition and an attitude towards money means being impartial, neither humble nor overbearing. \”Parents love their children and have far-reaching plans.\” As a parent, in addition to responsibility, you also need wisdom. But truly smart parents never show off their wealth, let alone cry about poverty.