Smart parents know how to educate quietly

When it comes to their children, many parents believe that \”filial sons emerge from under a stick\”, so there are a lot of \”violent education\” in China. It seems that you are not taking action for the sake of your child, but you don\’t know how big the psychological shadow is on your child. The supermarket was bustling with consumers coming and going. It was raining outside and people were walking in a hurry. There is a puzzle park downstairs, which is actually a place for children to spend money. One dollar makes a rocking car, one dollar makes a doll. Children are always curious and like to play. But some parents feel: It’s not worth it! anything fun! Because of this, you can often hear the sounds of children being beaten and scolded by their parents downstairs. The scolding was fine, but what frightened me the most was the way my parents beat me cruelly. Not long ago, there was a child who insisted on making a rocking car. He was quite persistent. His parents carried him far away, but he insisted on running back to continue playing. I was reluctant to leave in front and kept crying. Because it was raining so hard, many people started to stay inside. The child expressed his dissatisfaction by crying and rolling on the ground. People around were watching the fun. The mother came over, grabbed the child up and kicked him. The child, who looked six or seven years old, stumbled and fell again. The mother grabbed it and kept hitting the child\’s mouth with the chopsticks she bought. There were more and more people eating melons around. The child was hurt by the beating and kept crying. The mother probably felt it was too embarrassing. She kept trying to get the child to shut up, but the child cried even more vigorously. The mother just beat her and scolded her, \”You little beast, you don\’t listen at all.\” \”I can\’t kill you.\” Amid the yelling and scolding, the mother and son walked away. In China, there are too many such beatings and scolding education. For those parents, spanking is the most effective method, and it works faster than any other rationale. This is why the saying \”A filial son emerges from under a stick\” can be passed down to this day, causing harm to parents and children. Little do you know that when you spank and scold your child, you are hitting the child\’s skin, but what is really hurting is the child\’s inferiority complex when he or she grows up. Especially when their children do something wrong, I find that the first reaction of many parents is: naughty child, I will not kill you today. He glared at the child, neither asking why the child did what he did nor clarifying the ins and outs of the matter, but started fighting without even making peace. During the beating, I did not forget to use both methods, and kept scolding the child: Why are you so stupid! Look at others! Why are you so bad? How could I have a child like you and so on. This will cause great disadvantages to the growth of the child. Not only will it make the child have an inferiority complex and make it difficult to enter the society, but it may also cause the child to suffer from severe depression. Over time, the child\’s introversion will become obvious. Because parents have issued a \”death order\”, children may stubbornly think, \”I am just a stupid child\”, \”I am a lowly person and do not deserve to live in this world\”, \”No one cares about me at all, and it doesn\’t matter whether I live or not.\” What a difference.\” In this way, when one enters society, one is destined to be eliminated. In fact, parents at this time put themselves in a higher position: I am an adult, so your child does not know as much as me, so I am educating you. Actually this is notCompletely correct. There is a saying in \”Encouraging Learning\” that says well: A disciple does not have to be inferior to a teacher, and a teacher does not have to be better than a disciple. What this sentence means is that in fact, no matter how high our degree and experience are, there will always be someone worth learning from, and there is no obvious age limit for this person. Therefore, children, even if they are young, may not necessarily understand everything we know. Therefore, truly wise parents know how to educate their children while also making good friends with them. Secondly, when their children make mistakes, parents will launch the \”Hedong Lion\’s Roar\” model, thinking that this is the only way to gain momentum and truly educate their children. Actually? Children all have a rebellious mentality. The more you \”roar like a lion from the east of the river\”, the easier it is for children to have a rebellious mentality, which can also be understood as \”adolescent rebellion.\” At this time, parents should lower the \”volume\” of educating their children, and treat their children with emotion and reason. Know why you\’re doing it, rather than your \”just do it, follow your strong reasons for doing it\”. Because no one likes a direct hit, even if the person is very young. There has been a child who has been bullying me since I was a child. This person\’s name is \”other people\’s child\”. The essence of the joke reflects the Chinese style of comparison education. Whenever their children do something wrong, parents always like to say \”Look at so-and-so\” and \”Look at so-and-so\”, as if their children are really so unbearable. Wise parents know how to appreciate the highlights of their children and how to let their children learn from others without losing themselves. This is the time when parents’ wisdom is truly tested. Children are the heart of the family and the way in which parents’ ideas continue. The world is so big, and this child just came to us, isn\’t it a kind of fate? My child, I always ask you to open your eyes wide and appreciate the scenery of this world. The days I spend with you are just a small paragraph in the book of your long life. So, let us all learn to cherish it. In these tiny details, let me accompany you and watch you smile along the way! May all parents in the world no longer feel pitiful.