Sorry, I\’m a sister, not a nanny

After having the second baby, will you still love the first baby well? \”Yes!\” Every mother answered like this. Xiaoyue is the daughter of my friend Eileen. She is 11 years old and is in fifth grade. Children of the same age either watch TV or do homework when they come back from school, but Xiaoyue has to do homework while taking care of her one-year-old sister. Every time she showed a little dissatisfaction, Irene started to say, \”Mom and dad are working so hard, can\’t you help take care of my sister?\” Even though she was full of grievances, Xiaoyue still held back her tears and followed her little sister to take care of her. Give her toys, feed her water, and follow her step by step, for fear that she would stumble and fall on her back. Eileen originally had only one daughter. After the two-child policy was opened, she gave birth to a second child, thinking that the children would be able to rely on each other in the future. But for the elder sister, the ten-year-old sister not only cannot communicate, but also creates a lot of trouble for herself. And Irene got angry more than once because Xiaoyue didn\’t take good care of her sister. On Xiaoyue\’s tenth birthday, Aileen invited a group of friends to her home to celebrate, and I also participated. Including relatives, five tables were opened. The living room is decorated very cutely, with the Hello Kitty pattern that Xiao Yue likes very much. To outsiders, Eileen treats both daughters equally. Unexpectedly, when dinner was about to begin, everyone heard a loud noise, followed by the deafening cry of my sister. We looked for the sound and saw that the sister in Xiaoyue\’s arms fell to the ground. The sister\’s head hit the ground and hit the floor hard. Her forehead was broken and bleeding a little. Xiaoyue also fell to her knees, frightened and at a loss. Irene was frightened, rushed over, snatched her sister away, and whispered comfort, \”Baby, be good, don\’t cry!\” Mom is here! Everyone was concerned about whether their sister had been injured in the fall and whether she should go to the hospital. But no one noticed that Xiaoyue\’s knees were bruised, probably because of severe pain, and her face was twisted into a ball. She took a deep breath, held her hand on the floor, and stood up carefully despite the pain. It was obvious that she was holding back and not letting herself cry. But Irene\’s blurted accusation made Xiaoyue no longer able to pretend to be strong. Irene accused Xiao Yue in front of all the guests, how can you be a sister? You can\’t even take care of your sister! You see, her skin is broken. Xiao Yue turned around and left without saying a word. Everyone persuaded Irene that today was Xiao Yue\’s birthday and not to let her down. Besides, she was also injured. Unexpectedly, Erin not only had no intention of shutting up, but instead kept chattering a lot. As a sister, Xiaoyue should take care of her little one. But not only did she not help share the burden, she also used homework as an excuse not to play with her sister. Every time I asked Xiaoyue to take her sister out to play, she would either ask her classmates for homework or ask her neighbors to learn how to draw. It was obvious that she didn\’t like her sister. From the perspective of others, Irene\’s indignation was due to injustice for her sister. Xiaoyue, who was also her daughter, did not enjoy the treatment of being cared for. When Irene\’s husband called Xiao Yue out, I saw her eyes were red. She must have been hiding in the corner and crying secretly. When preparing to take a group photo of a family of four, Xiaoyue, who was originally standing next to Irene, quickly changed positions and stayed far away from Irene. For Xiao Yue, this birthday party feels more aggrieved and heartbreaking than warm and happy. Erin\’s attitude will ultimately determine her sister\’s attitude towards her sister. If things continue like this, don\’t sayThe two sisters should support each other and show their deep brotherhood. Xiaoyue may even regard her sister as her enemy, feeling that she has robbed her of the love she deserves. At the same time, this will also affect the relationship between mother and daughter. With the estrangement, it is difficult to have that kind of intimate mother-daughter relationship. Even if parents can\’t hold a bowl of water evenly, don\’t be overly partial and favor one over the other. Every child longs to be valued; to be cared for; to be cared for. If you care about one of the children with all your heart, you should also see the restlessness and loss of the other. If a child lacks love, especially if his parents are partial, the damage will be lifelong. Especially for girls, the harm is greater. There is a girl in a friend\’s company. She lacked father\’s love when she was a child. When she grew up, she was particularly obsessed with her uncle. Finally, I married an uncle who was about the same age as my father. Her family strongly opposed it at the time, but she insisted on getting married. In the end, she followed the man to another place. She wanted to be as far away from home as possible. She is the eldest in the family, with a younger sister and a younger brother. Ever since I was little, I had to give up all the delicious food at home to my younger siblings. Especially when the parents have a son in middle age, the son is the apple of their eye. Leave everything to your son. When he first started working, his monthly salary was less than 2,000. Before each salary payment, her father called on time to remind her to send money home because her younger brother needed money to study in high school. Later, her salary increased, but she still did not dare to spend money on herself. Because my father said that my younger brother needs money to go to college. He also said that he was going to buy a house in the county for his younger brother and save it for him to get married. She feels wronged, but she just doesn\’t know what to do? Until she met that uncle who supported her and relieved her worries. Finally, he agreed with himself. Although the uncle\’s conditions are very average. No matter how outsiders looked at it, they would think it didn\’t match, but she thought it was very good. At least here, she found what she needed-security and fatherly love. Every child\’s needs are complete and similar. They all need a sense of intimacy and secure attachment through their parents\’ companionship and love. Those childhoods that seem to have extraordinary self-discipline and strength are all at the expense of suppressing children\’s normal emotions and needs. But their inner desire for love will not disappear. Years later, he made up for it in another way. Even if it hurts myself, I will be as determined as a moth to a flame. Everyone\’s reasons for having a second child are different. But no parent wants to see their children competing for favors and being suspicious of each other. It is more or less the hope that many years later, the child will still have a person in this world who will be closely related by blood and rely on each other in the future. Every time we talk about having a second baby, how can we love the first baby? Everyone will think of a story written by Long Yingtai in his article. When a mother gives birth to her second baby, she waits for relatives and friends to come to see the baby. Unexpectedly, Erica, who lives across the street, was the first to ring the bell. The mother was lying on the sofa in the living room, holding the baby in her arms and feeding her milk, which was of course the mother\’s own milk. Erica had two packages of gifts in her hand. As soon as she stepped into the living room, she asked, \”Where\’s the boss?\” An An looked up from the stack of books and her eyes lit up when she saw the gifts. Erica half-crouched in front of him, handed over the gift, and said: \”Today I came to see the new baby, but An An is the eldest, and An An is more important. Erica will give you the gift first, and then go to see the younger brother.Do you agree? \”An\’an agreed happily and quickly opened the gift. Erica walked towards her mother. \”Why are you so smart? \”The mother was both grateful and admired. \”Oh -\” Erica dragged out the \”ah\” for a long time while stroking the newborn baby\’s soft and silky hair with infinite tenderness, \”This is so important. ! When my second son was born, the boss almost murdered him. He used a pillow to hold him down and his buttocks were still sitting on it! Use your fingers to pinch, slap on the face, use the tip of a pencil… you can do whatever you want…\” She lowered her voice and said, \”The little thing is so beautiful…\” Before leaving, Erica kissed her again at the gate. An An shouted to her mother: \”I think the eldest is more beautiful, what do you think? \”Then she shook her hand and left. After that, my mother discovered that there are two types of human beings: those who have been parents and have raised more than two children. Most of them are like Erica. When they come to see the baby, they will not forget to bring more babies. A gift for the eldest child. The one who has never been a parent or has only one child brings only one gift. As soon as they enter the door, they ask: \”Where is the baby?\” \”The one who opened the door for them was the eldest son, who was only a little taller than their knees, standing in the shadow beside the door. This story should be familiar to every parent of a second-child family. Children always care about their status in the family. . Do you care about how much love you can get from your parents? Even if you don’t have any younger siblings, your child is already thinking about this. One day, I just finished reading a bedtime story to my child. Unexpectedly, he suddenly said: \”No matter No matter how many children you have, I will be their elder brother. \”Of course! You are the eldest brother. No matter how many children you have, you will always be the favorite eldest of your parents. In fact, children will not reject their siblings for no reason. It\’s just that many times, the actions of adults make them like this. Think of it this way I think, if you have a second baby, you should remember to find ways to love your big baby more.