Speak well, start from the baby

The naughty kid was made to stand yesterday. After the penalty, ask him what he did wrong. He said, \”I shouldn\’t lie.\” \”What else?\” \”I can\’t think of it.\” He looked at me with the innocent eyes that Puss has. I suppressed my laughter and said, \”Then you keep standing and come to me when you think about it.\” A minute later, he came back, \”Mom, I figured it out. I should say goodbye.\” \”And what else? ?\” \”I really can\’t think of it.\” Another super innocent look. \”Then you think about it again.\” After a while, he came back to me again, \”Mom, I shouldn\’t ask to eat at other people\’s houses.\” \”Okay, then you can sum it up now, first, second, and third. What\’s wrong?\” \”First, I can\’t lie; second, I should say goodbye to others; third, others don\’t invite me, so I can\’t ask to have dinner at their home.\” Hug, make up. What happened was this: after kindergarten, he met his good friend Bao Bao and was invited to play with Bao Bao at his house. While playing, I accidentally broke the baby\’s top. After a while, I accidentally broke the baby\’s remote control airplane. I laughed at him for being a toy killer, but he said he was not, the baby was, and framed him as saying that the baby broke the toy. Under my coercion, he reluctantly apologized to the baby. After playing for a while, I said it was time to go home, and the naughty boy asked to have dinner at Baobao\’s house. I was furious and ordered him to play for another five minutes before going home, but he still negotiated to ten minutes. Ten minutes later, at my urging, he got dressed and went out unhappily, asking him to say goodbye to the baby\’s family, but he kept a dark face and said nothing. When I once again taught him to be polite in the community, he lied again and said to me, \”I said goodbye.\” Unable to bear it, he went home and was forced to stand! However, the penalty stand is a means, not an end. The purpose is to let him learn how to behave and speak well. Seeing that he realized his mistake, tell him gently, \”Mom saw it. You didn\’t break the baby\’s toys on purpose, so I won\’t blame you. You don\’t have to be afraid, let alone lie. But you must solve the problem.\” Teach him word for word how to say to the baby, \”I\’m sorry, I didn\’t mean to do it. Can you ask my mother to buy you a new one?\” He repeated it steadily, and then said he understood. \”I\’m sorry\” is an attitude and an expression of apology. \”I didn\’t mean it\” is an explanation, explaining the reason. “How about asking my mom to buy you a new one,” is the negotiated solution. He may not understand the truth, but if he memorizes this sentence pattern and encounters the same problem, he will not try to lie to cover up the facts because he is at a loss. I have always struggled with the issue of politeness for three- and four-year-olds. Sometimes when he meets someone he knows well, his parents and children call him enthusiastically, but he ignores them. That scene was really embarrassing. However, I have heard too many \”don\’t rush\” theories: children are still young and should learn to walk with snails; children are exploring, so we should wait patiently for them to grow up. Once I scolded him for asking for food from others. A grandmother in the community advised me, \”That\’s because he is young. When he grows up, he won\’t even ask for food if you ask him to.\” When the child is still young, it really is A perfect excuse. Because I\’m small, I can be caught in anything I do.Forgive me; because I am small, everything can wait and I can take my time. You are helpless, but you have to accept it because he is really still young. Therefore, for a long time, I did not require him to say hello to others. Just telling him calmly after they separated, \”Be polite, say hello when you meet people you know, and don\’t ignore others calling you.\” It didn\’t have any effect. Yesterday, I took advantage of my anger and told him sternly, \”I don\’t want to tolerate your rudeness anymore. It\’s really annoying when you ignore others when they say hello! I hope you won\’t do that again!\” He tearfully agreed. I sent him to kindergarten this morning. I saw someone I knew from a distance on the way, so I gently told him that when I see **’s mother, I should call her aunt. He met several parents he knew along the way, and he greeted each other loudly and cheerfully. Keep at it and hopefully things will change. Every word a child says can actually find its origin from his parents. I tend to be reckless in my work, and it is common for me to drop pots and bowls in the kitchen and make a big fuss. Every time he heard any noise, the child would rush over like a rocket and ask loudly, \”What\’s wrong? What\’s wrong?\” The look of an audience watching the fun and not taking it too seriously managed to ignite me every time. I didn’t feel good about dropping something, but the naughty kid came to watch the fun, and he deserved to be my emotional trash can. Later I thought about it, it was my responsibility that he couldn\’t speak! So she hugged him and said softly, \”Mom was in a bad mood when she dropped something. What you should care about at this time is not what happened, but whether your mother was injured.\” He nodded. Later, every time I dropped something, he would run over and ask me gently, \”Mom, are you okay?\” Of course he was okay! Every time I hear those caring words, my bad emotions will disappear instantly. We all know that being able to speak means more connections and more opportunities. People who can talk have high emotional intelligence. Therefore, it is very important for children to learn to speak well from an early age. Every time a child says something uncomfortable, think it over and then tell him a better way to say it. If you want your child to become a well-spoken person, you only need to change it bit by bit.