Stop forcing your children to work hard! After my son was diverted from the high school entrance examination, I realized: these are the three debts that primary schools should not owe.

It was only after my son was diverted from the high school entrance examination that he realized that there was a problem with the elementary school. The high school entrance examination results were announced. My cousin\’s son\’s score was average and he was not sure whether he could go to high school. Seeing the sad faces of their whole family, I felt so mixed in my heart that I didn\’t know what to say to comfort them. My cousin even regretted and blamed herself. She bluntly said that she did not care about her son and had neglected the most important educational issues in the past few years. Because my cousin and cousin-in-law are usually busy with work, they have rarely paid attention to their children\’s studies since elementary school. When she was doing homework with her in the evening, she saw that the question was a bit difficult and she couldn\’t solve it, so she asked her son to copy the answer. When her son said he was tired, she agreed that he should take a rest and play on his mobile phone. It was normal for her to write her homework until after ten o\’clock in the evening. She was even afraid that her son would not be able to finish it, so she directly ghostwritten it and urged her son to go to bed quickly. When he was in fifth or sixth grade, he simply sent his son to an after-school class. I thought that having a teacher in the after-school class would keep an eye on my homework, so I could save some worry. Others advised her: Children should have some snacks in their studies, otherwise they will have a hard time in junior high school. But she disagreed: learning this kind of thing depends on self-awareness. I am cultivating his consciousness. After being promoted to junior high school, my son was doing well in math, but his Chinese and English skills were seriously lagging behind. In the second year of junior high school, the academic pressure became even greater. My son quickly couldn\’t keep up with his classmates, and his class ranking dropped from the 20s to the 40th. My cousin became anxious now and wanted to enroll her son in a cram school to make up for his troubles. But my son was very tired of studying. He said that he couldn\’t learn and made up for all the lessons in vain. He would stop studying no matter how hard he tried. In this way, my son\’s studies became worse and worse, and he could no longer keep up with his grades. A senior teacher around me once shared: Many children’s scores dropped seriously when they entered junior high school. In the final analysis, it was because they did not “learn well” in primary school. A child\’s primary school stage is a critical period for laying the foundation. Starting from the age of 6, you must not only learn knowledge, but also learn \”how to learn\”. If parents are only satisfied with what their children know and rely on their parents\’ inspiration to get the answers, then the children will most likely develop a strong dependence on them in subsequent studies, and their motivation for self-study will be seriously lacking. A child\’s poor performance in primary school will most likely affect his studies in junior high school and high school. If you want to help your child improve his grades, you must not owe these three debts during his primary school years. Don’t owe “reading” a debt. Let books shape children’s future. Yin Jianli, an education expert, emphasized in the book “From Little to Big”: The means to promote children’s acquired intellectual development is very simple – language stimulation, that is, reading Introduce it into your child\’s life as early as possible. Don’t worry about your children becoming nerds if they read too much. Reading is the most reliable gift that parents can give to their children to ensure their happiness and health throughout their lives. Psychological research shows that reading can make children\’s IQs higher and their logical judgments clearer. This not only improves children\’s Chinese learning, but also tests children\’s reading skills in post-junior high school mathematics, chemistry, physics and other science subjects. With so much information, if you can\’t quickly refine the key words and understand the meaning of the questions, you may not be able to understand it even after reading it several times. Nowadays, many examination papers have more and more words in the questions, and the difficulty of understanding is also soaring. Once your reading ability is not up to par, you will be severely left behind. Someone has done a survey and found that the top students who can stand out in the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination and get sky-high scores are particularly keen on reading. A top scorer in the high school entrance examination, usually the mostMy favorite pastime is reading, and I have read all four classics seven or eight times. Go to the bookstore when you have time. When reading, I will excerpt some good words and sentences and memorize them at any time. A top student who scored 751 in the recent high school entrance examination in Xuzhou also said that \”persistence in reading and writing is his own secret secret\” and he can\’t remember how many books he has read. How to guide children to read and like reading? Here are some suggestions for you: 1. Give children a role model and atmosphere for reading. If possible, put up bookshelves at home or arrange a fixed reading area to make books a part of your child\’s life. Parents set an example and take the initiative to pick up books so that their children can learn from them. Take him to the library or bookstore on weekends and holidays. As the saying goes, \”If you often visit bookstores, you will naturally absorb the fragrance of books.\” Children are more exposed to a quiet and comfortable environment, and it is easier to concentrate on reading. You can also watch reading programs and documentaries for your children to stimulate their interest in reading. For example, \”The Power of Reading\”, \”But There Are Books\”, and \”Travel with Books\”. 2. Respect children’s reading preferences. Every child has different reading habits and tastes. Parents can provide appropriate guidance, but do not force their children to read the books they specify. Just follow their children\’s preferences. As long as he can focus on it, he can read comic books or novels. The key to cultivating children to read is to \”make him fall in love with books.\” 3. Be nurturing but not utilitarian. Don’t think that reading can improve grades, so just ask your children to read with high expectations and strong goals. Reading should not be too utilitarian. Only by having a good attitude toward learning can children truly enjoy reading. Don’t owe “exercise” to train your children’s physique and resilience. Today’s students are not motivated to study, can’t run, their test performance is not ideal, and their overall physical condition is not optimistic. Many of them are caused by lack of physical exercise in primary school, unhealthy diet, and liking to sit and play with mobile phones rather than move. The Youth Research Center shows: \”More than 60% of primary and secondary school students do not exercise for more than one hour a day, and more than one-third of children do not exercise. They have no time to exercise, no time to play, and even have to sacrifice some sleep. At that time, the voice they heard most was that \’study is the most important, and grades are the most important\’, but few people told them that \’the body is the capital of all revolutions.\’\” Indeed, the pressure of learning in primary school is relatively small. The problems exposed by the child\’s physical fitness are not obvious either. But in middle and high school, the heavy learning pressure will consume a lot of physical strength and energy of the children. Children who lack exercise will find it difficult to bear it and will easily lose points in the physical education entrance examination. A 12-year-old girl in Shenzhen has loved snacks and sweets since she was a child, and hates exercise. In elementary school, I could eat and sleep, but my family didn\’t care. Once I entered junior high school, something went wrong during the school\’s routine examination: abnormal liver enzymes, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, mild fatty liver… The results scared the whole family. It was so terrible that it took a lot of effort to stabilize her condition. In similar situations, hospitals catch a lot of them. Whether children are good at sports or not, the gap becomes more obvious as they get to senior grades. Those children who pay attention to physical exercise, play ball, run, and jump around are not only full of energy, but also in better learning condition. Professor John Reddy of Harvard Medical School said: Exercise can not only improve children’s coordination andMusculoskeletal development is not only conducive to building a healthy body; it can also stimulate the connections between brain cells, making the brain ready, willing and able to learn. A fragile body cannot support grand dreams; only a healthy body can keep oneself moving forward. If you want your children to be healthy and smart, please help them fall in love with sports: 1. Develop an exercise plan: Based on your child\’s interests and physical condition, choose an exercise method that suits you, including daily duration, content, etc. 2. Accompany your child to exercise: At the beginning of exercise, the child\’s endurance and willpower are particularly tested. It is best for parents to accompany their children, demonstrate in person, take their children to participate in the exercise plan, cheer them on, and encourage them to persist to the end. 3. Appropriate rewards: For children who don’t like sports, you can set a reward goal. When he reaches it, give him something he likes to increase his awareness of exercise. Don’t owe “habits” to drive children’s self-growth. I have seen a saying: If the impact of differences in effort levels on children’s development is as eye-catching as icebergs on the sea, then the impact of “habits” on children is The larger part of the ice beneath the surface. In other words, whether a child can develop good habits will be the key to widening the gap between him and his peers. You can judge by comparing these two scenes: the same child is sitting at the desk doing homework, and a child is doing something here and there, and half an hour has passed without taking out the pen. I finally started to do math problems. After writing for a while, I got up to go to the toilet, went to the living room to eat snacks, and took a break when I was almost done eating. By 11 o\’clock in the evening, I didn\’t have the energy to write anymore, so I just climbed into bed and went to sleep without even tidying up my desktop. The other child planned in advance what time period to write and which exercises, and when he was tired, he would do easy questions first, or memorize Chinese words and words. In less than two hours, the homework was basically finished. While my mother was checking it, I put the books for class the next day in my school bag. There is no doubt that it is easier for the second child to learn and become self-disciplined and proactive, and does not require parents to worry about it at all. Educator Ye Shengtao once said: \”If you develop good habits, you will benefit for life; if you develop bad habits, you will suffer losses for life.\” Don\’t expect children to take the initiative to learn self-management and rely on talent or hard work to drive their own learning. Rather, it helps children develop good behavioral habits and let this powerful force from the bottom of their hearts drive children to grow and progress. 1. In terms of personal self-care, teach children how to clean up their own rooms, desks, schoolbags and clothes. Good organizing habits can help cultivate children\’s orderliness, self-discipline, and independent thinking ability. 2. In terms of time management, guide children to overcome external interference and focus on completing a certain task. When a child gradually learns to use time and manage himself well, it will be easier for him to find a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, improving his initiative and sense of value. 3. In terms of study planning, accompany your children to make plans and learn how to coordinate priorities. Especially during the holidays, children have a lot of time, so they can\’t just muddle along and do whatever they want. Accompany your children to learn how to make plans, when to do things, and clearly distinguish what must be done in advance, what can be allocated to be completed every day, and what is not necessary. 4. Learning and exploringIn terms of education, we should protect children\’s curiosity and pay attention to their quality development. Children are naturally curious and have an instinctive desire for knowledge. When he shows interest in something and wants to find out more, parents should respect his desire to explore and exercise his patience and concentration. If you encounter setbacks or difficulties and feel like giving up, please accompany your child to overcome them, encourage him to continue trying, and subtly build his resilience. Jaspers, a German philosopher and educator, has a famous saying: \”The education process is first of all a process of spiritual growth.\” In this process, every move of parents and every little thing they do for their children may have a positive impact on their children. It has a huge impact and injects energy into his spiritual world. Starting today, accompany your child to read and exercise more, cultivate good habits in life and study, and achieve a more glorious future for him.