Stop letting your children call strangers \”grandpa\” and \”grandma\”. Parents should take a look!

To prevent children from being deceived and abducted, the importance of educating children not to accept food (gifts) from strangers is unquestionable. But there is still a lot of room for improvement in how to get children to do it in action. Someone did an experiment: children can be easily taken away with a few balloons. When interviewing the mothers of these children in advance, most of them said that they have repeatedly taught their children: do not accept gifts from strangers and do not go with strangers. . Why were the children deceived? I think there are several reasons. For example, the child forgets his mother’s instructions when he sees the gift he likes; for example, the deceiver’s aura is relatively strong, and the child is unable to refuse, so he follows him half-pushed and half-done… There is another important reason, that is The deceiver is usually \”kind\”, either looks sweet or kind, or speaks in a particularly friendly way and tone, which lowers the child\’s wariness, and the child automatically excludes the deceiver from the group of \”strangers\”. There have been many articles on how to improve children\’s anti-fraud awareness, explaining and guiding them from various angles. Today, Nuo Xi\’s mother only reminds one thing: in life, don\’t let your children call strangers \”grandpa\” or \”grandma\”. Grandpa and grandma are titles that belong to family members. Don’t include “strangers” easily. Every morning and evening to take Xiao Nuo to and from school, there are several security guards standing at the gate of the kindergarten. This morning, a boy walking in front of us was led by his grandfather. When passing by the security guard, his grandfather reminded him: \”It\’s early to say \’grandpa\’!\” The little boy was unhappy and lowered his head to avoid calling anyone. The grandpa who held his little hand said dissatisfiedly: \”Listen to grandpa and say \’good morning, grandpa\’…\” I became happy when I heard this sentence. This \”grandpa\” and that \”grandpa\” are almost tongue twisters. Can the child tell who is who? Can you tell the difference between distant relatives and close relatives? If a child is asked to draw a family portrait, an only child will most likely draw a family of three, a second-born child will most likely draw a family of four, and if a child lives with grandparents, most of the drawing will include grandparents. Those children who are taken care of by their grandparents every day must be very close to their grandparents and have a lot of trust in them. If we let our children call a stranger \”grandpa\” or \”grandma\”, we actually give the child a hint that this person can be trusted. If the grandpa or grandma gives the child a snack, but you ask him to refuse, the child\’s psychology will be confused. He may not be able to distinguish between things given by others that he can ask for and things given by others that he cannot ask for. Therefore, I never let Xiao Nuo call the security guard at the school gate \”grandpa\”. I just say \”good morning\” in the morning and wave goodbye in the evening. If she must add a salutation, I would ask her to say \”Goodbye, security guard grandpa\”. There is another hidden danger in letting children call strangers \”grandpa\” and \”grandma\”. If a child is robbed, what will happen if the child shouts: \”Grandma, please don\’t pull me\” or \”Grandpa, I won\’t go with you\”? This will definitely seriously reduce the vigilance of passers-by! Everyone would think that the grandson was disobeying his grandfather. Who would have thought that he was robbing the child? Naturally, no one would call the police or come to rescue. Therefore, for the safety of your children,Stop letting your children call strangers \”Grandpa\” and \”Grandma\”! When Xiao Xi was two years old, during the summer vacation, I took her back to her hometown, met her grandpa, and asked her not to bark when he was called. The last time she saw her grandfather was a year and a half ago, so of course she couldn\’t remember. After getting acquainted with her a little, Xiaoxi took the initiative to call her grandpa \”grandpa\”. Grandpa was very happy at first. He probably felt that this \”granddaughter\” was close to him without seeing \”wai\”, so it was good not to call grandpa grandpa. It was his grandma who woke him up: \”Children in the city are polite. They call old people they don\’t know \’grandpa\’ when they see them.\” Grandpa seemed to have a sudden realization and seemed a little \”hurt\”. Since then, I have felt that letting children call strangers \”grandpa\” and \”grandma\” is polite, but it actually reduces the \”gold content\” of grandparents. Anyone can call them that. It seems that grandparents have become It\’s not that important anymore. At that time, grandma had been helping me take care of Xiaoxi, so when I went out to play and met old people, I rarely asked Xiaoxi to call people \”grandma\”, especially when the \”real\” grandma was nearby. Speaking of the issue of titles, Nuo Xi’s mother also made a mistake: when she got married, she held a banquet at her husband’s house, and my mother-in-law took me to meet all my relatives, but of course I soon forgot about them. After the dinner was over, most of the close relatives stayed to chat. One \”aunt\” was very enthusiastic to me, and we chatted for a long time. I know that my husband has an aunt, so I am very attentive to her. Later, my mother-in-law introduced me to another \”aunt\”, and I realized that the person I was paying attention to before was actually a distant relative, or more appropriately a fellow villager. It’s okay if you’re being diligent to the wrong person, but it’s not embarrassing if you neglect the right person. If you don’t call them grandparents, what do you call them? Doesn’t that make children rude? In fact, if you know people you know, you can ask your children to call them \”Grandpa Zhang\”, \”Grandma Li\”, or \”Grandpa Doudou\”, \”Grandma Yuanyuan\”, so that the children can distinguish them from their own grandparents. alright. If you meet a stranger and must say hello, you can ask your child to address him directly as \”you\” and just say \”hello\” when meeting him! Besides, compared with the safety of children, it seems that a little \”discourtesy\” is not so important. By the way, I saw an article before that said that if a child is lost in a public place, when reporting the crime, please remember to tell the police what shoes the child is wearing. Because a bad person may quickly change the child\’s clothes or even change the hairstyle quickly, but it is not easy to find shoes of the right size, so the chance of being replaced is relatively small. Therefore, when taking your child to a crowded place, remember to take a photo of the child\’s feet first. Of course, it is best to take a full-body photo as well, so that if you get lost, you can provide it to the police as soon as possible.