Successfully entered a key high school: Don’t be stupid, what really widens the achievement gap between children is not supplementary lessons…

After my daughter was born, I basically stayed with her 24/7. Accompanying my daughter on her journey to school, and observing the real cases of many friends around me, I found that no matter what age group, what really widens the performance gap between children is not remedial lessons, but a \”need\”. It is the \”want\” of wanting. 01 The classmates who are good at studying are very good at \”asking\” their daughters to make up their mind to study \”liberal arts\” after finishing the high school entrance examination. As usual, after the first midterm exam after the start of school, it’s time to divide into “arts and science” subjects! But due to the epidemic at that time, they not only took online classes for a semester, but also postponed the \”division of subjects\” until the end of the semester. As we all know, my daughter failed in the transfer test. The class she signed up for at that time was not very good, and she was definitely a \”phoenix tail\”. The \”Fengtou\” children in their school have been assigned to a liberal arts class of 20 students before the start of school. This means that these 20 outstanding children will take liberal arts classes as soon as the school starts. For children in other classes, the school only arranges one \”History, Geography, and Politics\” course a week. Class assignment is delayed, and my daughter is anxious! She began to think of ways to \”save herself\”! If there were no liberal arts courses, she would search for learning videos on Bilibili; if there were no liberal arts homework, she would ask old classmates from other schools who had been assigned to their school\’s homework to do; if there were no liberal arts test papers, she would go to the \”Discipline Network\” Searching for test papers… just like that, my daughter ranked 9th in the liberal arts class in the final 9-subject exam. Compared with the children who were in the \”Fengtou\” class of liberal arts at the beginning of school, she was not inferior! My daughter knows how to learn and turn what she doesn’t know into into what she knows. There are many children who encounter difficulties in learning and cannot learn no matter what. They don’t know how to learn through some online resources, through some teachers’ methods or classmates, and they won’t “want” it! 02 Regarding the question of “wanting” or not, have you noticed that many top students study for a short period of time, but their grades are still very good! My daughter has a classmate. The two children go to school together and they want to improve their math skills. However, this child never does the homework for the elite class. In order to cope with the teacher\’s inspection, he copies my daughter\’s homework before each class. But this child’s scores in both major and minor exams are better than my daughter’s. What’s the reason? It\’s because she knows what she wants and doesn\’t want. For example, for the same paper, you will find that a top student will do something. He will think about which questions he has mastered, which questions he is prone to making mistakes, which questions are high-frequency test points, and which questions are difficult to understand. He spent a lot of time on questions related to his mistakes and on those high-frequency test points, so of course he could do less questions and get more points. But what will you find if you study with average children? Whatever questions you give him, he just does them. He doesn\’t think about it. He does the questions blindfolded. Even if he knows how to do it, he will do it, and even if he doesn\’t know how, he will do it randomly. 03 \”Want\” ambition Children with good academic performance have clearer ambitions than ordinary people. There are many children whose goal is to study hard, but such children often have mediocre academic performance. And those children who set high goals for themselves to be admitted to ××× high school or ××× university are often the ones who end up in trouble.horse. With a goal he wants, he will be indifferent to everything happening around him. They won\’t gossip, nor will they think about what their competitors are doing, let alone whether they are exerting too much force, or how others view them in their hearts. They focus their time and energy on the goals they \”want\” to achieve and only focus on their present and future. They will not feel that they are not good just because they failed several exams, nor will they doubt themselves because of a few words of negation from others. They will get up again after falling down and move towards Go ahead with your “wanted” goal! Therefore, whether a child makes up lessons or not from an early age does not determine the child’s self-learning ability or the quality of his or her academic performance. The real difference lies in this “must”! It is necessary to cultivate the ability of children to take the initiative to \”want\”. Let the child tell you what he can do and what he can\’t do, and what methods he is prepared to use to become proficient in what he does not know. Do you have this \”want\” for sex? Will you \”want\” it? This kind of \”need\” is the key to learning well. What I wrote to my daughter: