As soon as the holidays come, parents’ complaints begin again. Children playing with mobile phones tops the list of behaviors that drive parents crazy! Without mobile phones, your children can just study. What are you thinking about? If that were to happen, how many mobile phones would the top scorer in the college entrance examination have to spend on it? Can\’t people smash boxes and baskets of them? You will also say that other people’s children don’t look at their mobile phones, or other people’s children know how to study even if they look at their mobile phones, so how do their children know how to control themselves? Are you born with it, not taught by your parents? 01 Do you have such parents around you? You are not a good parent, but you are a first-rate master at throwing the blame. What\’s wrong with the child? That is the fault of the mobile phone, the fault of the hobbies, the fault of the friends around me, and it is not the fault of the parents themselves. I don’t want to think about it, I am nagging my children every day, making the children unwilling to talk to their parents; I don’t want to think about it, I have taken care of all the children’s affairs, making the children have no sense of worth; I don’t want to think about it, I am forcing my children to study every day, blindly Looking at the child\’s score, the child doesn\’t know who he is studying for; if you don\’t think about it, don\’t just pick on the child. Don\’t think that the child will get better without the mobile phone. If a child doesn\’t want to learn, he won\’t learn even if he has a mobile phone. If you lock him in a room and give him a book, he won\’t be able to read it. He can stare at the sky for a whole day! If you want your children to study well, then parents must treat their children as human beings, not learning machines. If you care about your children more, spend more time with your children, praise your children more, and take your children out for a walk more, then your parents will approve of them. It doesn\’t feel more real and reliable than a seven-inch flat bottom. 02 I have seen children around me who were admitted to Tsinghua University, Peking University, and recommended to Zhejiang University. To train the children to become academic masters, it is not a competition to whose parents are rich, nor is it a competition to whose parents are \”big, high-level, and knowledgeable\”! On the contrary, what is more important are these three factors, and these three rankings must be ranked in order. 01 Knowing the children of the high-achieving families around me, I found that the children’s parents know their children very well. Understanding the benefits of children is called being good at understanding. What does this child like, what is he afraid of, what things make him happy when he plays by himself, and what things he does will give him a special sense of accomplishment. When parents want their children to do something, they can know what kind of sweetness they can give them; what kind of look (emotion) they can give them, so that their children will know what they are afraid of, instead of just relying on nagging or hysterical roaring. In fact, understanding your child is the first step. If you can truly understand him, the second step can be easily grasped accurately. 02 Children’s Daily Habits As the old saying goes, “You will see adults when you are 3 years old, and you will see old age when you are 7 years old.” Behavioral habits are far greater than others. For example, whether children can arrange their own learning and whether they can make plans. Then at a relatively early stage, do you know how to listen to the lectures in class, do you know how to complete homework in time after class, and do you know how to correct mistakes after completing homework. Many parents say that if I catch this study habit, I can\’t catch it. If I say this, he won\’t listen. The reason why he doesn\’t listen is because you don\’t understand him and can\’t speak to his heart! There is no way you can make him listen in a way that he can accept. So that\’s why I say in order, because first understand the child. RanFinally, you will know which habits are important and grasp the correct habits. 03 Learn to take advantage of winter and summer vacations. Why do you say that you are not afraid of being a top academic, but you are afraid of being a top academic during the summer vacation? Making good use of winter and summer vacations is very important for cultivating academic masters. For top academics, vacation is a whole block of time that can be used for self-improvement, checking for deficiencies, or going on a trip or study tour to expand one\’s horizons and abilities. The parent from Zhejiang University around me has taken his children to first-tier metropolises to \”experience\” life since they were young, allowing them to see all the \”beautiful\” things. Guide children to see the world from their own perspective. They will see various social phenomena and understand different values. Their horizons will be broadened and the world will be opened up. As the child grows older and sees more, he will gradually establish his own \”three views\”, have the life he yearns for, and take action for it. This is the real motivation for children to learn! 03 Dear child, the happiness on the mobile phone is short-lived. Studying down-to-earth is the only way out now. Since you already feel that there is no warmth at home and you can only find a sense of presence online, you have to rely on yourself whether you can go out and live the life you want. Otherwise, your whole life will be miserable! Try to be the kind of person you like best. Even if you don\’t succeed, you will at least like yourself for trying so hard.
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