Take a look at the consequences of doting on your children.

As the saying goes, spoiling a child is like killing a child. 6980 Yuan Zhang Guowei\’s Comprehensive Parent-Child Relationship Skills Recording + Handouts + Quick Notes A parent who overindulges his children will not only be unable to raise promising children, but will also find it difficult to have a harmonious relationship with his children. Just like a piece of news I saw a few days ago: a mother and her daughter took the subway and got to the wrong station. After getting off the subway, the daughter got angry at her mother and kicked her and her suitcase several times. Passers-by tried to stop her but she was also beaten. What shocked me even more was that the mother didn\’t take it seriously at all. Instead, she told passers-by who came to dissuade her that it was okay. Then I saw my mother carrying large and small bags and two suitcases, while my daughter beside me had her hands in her pockets and was relaxed. I instantly understood the crux of the problem. It is not difficult to see that this mother really dotes on her daughter, but it is precisely because of her doting on her daughter that the above heart-wrenching scene happened. In our daily lives, many parents cannot distinguish between loving their children and doting on them. So Chenma is here to talk to you today about what behaviors are doting. Easily Satisfied French educator Rousseau once said: Do you know what method you can use to make your child an unfortunate person? This method is to be obedient to him. During the Chinese New Year, I went to my cousin’s house for dinner, and something very interesting happened: my cousin’s son was only 12 years old and already weighed 130 pounds. Although children are cuter if they are fatter, this body shape is really harmful to health. My cousin usually controls his diet according to the doctor\’s advice. But who would have thought that since my cousin’s mother-in-law came, the diet plan I had made before was invalidated. They agreed that they could only eat two chocolates a day, so the old man secretly gave the child money to buy it himself; the child pestered the old man to go shopping, because as long as he opened his mouth, he would have candied haws, fried chicken, and Coke; during the Chinese New Year, the old man kept going shopping The grandson put a lot of fish and meat in his bowl and refused to listen no matter what he said. …. As soon as I got on the scale at the beginning of school, the child\’s weight soared to 145 pounds. During the physical examination, the doctor said that his blood lipids were extremely high now, and it would be dangerous if he did not control his diet and continued to develop. What makes my cousin even more troubled is that the child has tasted the sweetness from the old man and can get what he wants as long as he cries. Now he has a particularly bad temper and will cry and scream if he is not satisfied at all. In fact, easily satisfying children will not only cause them to develop various bad habits, but will also invisibly destroy the majesty of parents in front of their children. If things go on like this, children will become increasingly difficult to discipline. There is a pair of parents in \”Super Parenting\” who take care of their children and take care of everything for them. At five o\’clock in the morning, the mother would get up and make breakfast for the child. The child didn\’t like to eat yam, so she would pound the yam into a paste, squeeze it into juice, mix it with water, and feed it to the child. When brushing her teeth in the morning, the mother was worried about washing her teeth. He drinks the saliva, so she brushes his teeth directly; even when he takes the nutritional capsules, the mother breaks them open for the child and puts them into his mouth. …What do children who grow up in this kind of environment look like? One of the biggest characteristics is that he has extremely poor emotional self-control. He will lose his temper when encountering things that are not in line with his expectations. for exampleIt is said that when this child encounters something unpleasant while eating, he immediately throws chopsticks and bowls. When going out to play, his mother suggested that he not take a windy road. He was unwilling and immediately lost his temper. , I don’t understand the adults’ good intentions at all. Doing everything for your children, on the surface, means solving their problems and protecting them from wind and rain. In fact, you just treat your children as puppets without self. Therefore, if you want your child to become a responsible and self-qualified adult, please let go when it\’s time to let go. It is not terrible to make mistakes by overly favoring children. What is terrible is that parents favor their children without distinguishing right from wrong. I remember seeing a piece of news before, where a child was driving a motorcycle without a license, and there were three people in the back seat of the car. After being stopped by the police, the motorcycle was impounded. Unexpectedly, after the parents learned about this incident, they not only failed to educate their children about safe driving, but also brought a large number of people to the police station to cause trouble and shouted at the police: \”My child is twelve or thirteen years old. It is not illegal to kill you. He Underage.\” Such extremely violent and threatening words came from the mouth of a boy\’s parent, which was really shocking. Think about what your child would think if he heard this? It turns out that I don’t have to bear the consequences if I do something wrong. I have been criticized and taught that I can use violence to solve problems. Anyway, no matter what I do, my dad will not think I am wrong. I can do whatever I want… This is simply too much. It’s scary, okay! I remember the writer Jenny Arim once said this: \”The shortcomings of children are not terrible. What is terrible is that parents, who are the guides of their children\’s lives, lack correct concepts and methods of parenting.\” Yes, parents are children. If parents don\’t have a correct sense of right and wrong and blindly protect their children, then the child\’s future will be in jeopardy. The older he gets, the more dangerous he becomes. Because no one has ever taught him what is right and what is wrong. And this may very well lead to an irreversible tragedy! As the saying goes, if parents love their children, they will have far-reaching plans. A child is a gift given to us by God. There is nothing wrong with loving him, loving him, and pitying him. But if we cover his eyes with our love, the future will definitely be bleak. I hope that every parent in the world can give their children a bottom line and a measured love, and let this love become an armor for their children on their way to growth, rather than a shackles!