Take a quick look! How does the heinous Chinese wisdom ruin a child\’s life?

While taking the bus, I met a couple taking the bus with a little boy. They didn\’t have a Beijing bus card. They looked like they were traveling to Beijing while their children were on summer vacation. When buying tickets, my mother only bought tickets for two adults. The conductor said that the child looked quite big, probably over 1.3 meters tall, and he needed to buy a ticket. The mother was unhappy and said: \”Our family is only 6 years old, who would buy a ticket for such a young child?\” Everyone knows that whether to buy a ticket or not has nothing to do with age, it only depends on the size of the child. The conductor who adhered to the principle asked the mother to take her child to have her height measured, which indeed exceeded the free ticket requirement. My mother reluctantly spent 1 yuan to buy a half-price ticket. When walking to the back seat, my mother began to whisper: \”How many times have I told you, bend your waist when you get in the car, don\’t pretend to be big, you will spend money in vain, do you think you are stupid?\” …\” The child looked confused. He must not know why his height, which usually brought him countless compliments, became \”heinous\” when riding in a car. How I want to tell my children: It’s not your fault that you’re tall, it’s your mother’s heart that doesn’t take advantage of you that’s wrong! Yu Minhong said: A family that cares about everything cannot produce children with a broad mind. Over time, this mother ostensibly saved dozens or hundreds of dollars on tickets, but she planted a seed of \”opportunism\” and \”unruliness\” in her child; in front of everyone on the bus, she not only It seriously damages the child\’s self-esteem and is more likely to create a child who loves to take advantage. In the second year after joining the work, an intern came to the department. He was very good in all aspects, but in the end he did not pass the probation period. Later, when I talked about her with other colleagues, I found out that the reason for being fired was because of a box of Coke: there were two large barrels of Coke left when entertaining customers. She did not take it back to the company, but drank it directly in her dormitory. In her eyes, two barrels of Coke only cost more than ten yuan, but in the eyes of the leader, the interpretation becomes: You have taken advantage of Coke, so what is the limit? A friend took her child to a kindergarten for an interview and met a little girl. At that time, the little girl\’s grandmother was playing with toys with her. While chatting with the children, the interviewing teacher completed the examination on age, name, color, shape and other questions. Finally, the teacher asked the friend: \”Have your children ever attended kindergarten re-entry classes?\” The friend answered truthfully: \”Three months.\” The teacher asked another child the same question. Before the child could answer, the grandma took the lead: \”We haven\’t gone to any school, but my aunt will teach her English at home.\” After saying that, she started pointing to the building blocks on the table and asked the child to talk about colors and shapes in English. The little girl cooperated very obediently. My friend always thought that the little girl looked familiar. Then one day when she picked up her child from school, she met the little girl. She and her daughter attended a full-day relaxation class in the same early childhood education center! When my friend described this incident to me, I felt sad for the little girl. The grandma lied and said that her children had never attended any rehabilitation classes. Perhaps she wanted to show the success of family education, or perhaps she wanted to prove that her children were naturally sensible and well-behaved. If a child is well-behaved, he will indeed have a greater chance in the highly competitive kindergarten admission interview. But the negative impact of adults lying in front of children has been ignored. Adults say innocuous polite words, or promise others things but then fail to keep themA promise that everyone can accept. But children are a blank sheet of paper. Children will construct whatever picture their parents and family show them in their own world. They do not have strong discernment ability and do not understand the reasons why adults lie, but they feel that lying is correct and allowed. of. When children get used to lying, they may gain something because of their cleverness, trickery, and narrow-mindedness, but at the same time, they may lose the big picture because of dishonesty. Lies are a black hole that can never be filled. One lie may take 10 sentences or 20 sentences. One or even hundreds of lies must be told to cover it; and once the lie is seen through, 100% of the trust will be lost. Pattern is the basic spiritual structure of a person. It shows a person\’s mind and magnanimity and is also a direct reflection of a person\’s inner spirit. People with a big picture have an open mind: If others are better than me, I will analyze why you are better, and then learn from it, instead of scoffing: \”What\’s so great about this, I\’m just lucky\”! People with a big picture don\’t care about the small profits or temporary gains and losses in front of them. They know that \”all things that seem to be a good deal in the short term are trade-offs.\” Therefore, they set their sights on three years, five years or even ten years. years later. A person with a big picture is willing to share resources with others. This altruistic behavior will help him expand his wider network of people. People with a big picture can distinguish priorities, always know their inner needs, and make the most correct choices. Those who have a big picture always manage themselves well and shine wherever they go. Fu Yuanhui, a prehistoric girl, is so loved by everyone. Ultimately, it is because she fell in love with her open-minded attitude of being unfazed by favors and humiliations and smiling at everything. When I go for a walk in the park, I often see old people taking their children and unscrupulously taking free toilet paper home to use. When I go to IKEA and get free refills on drinks, I often see a family of three sharing the same cup, euphemistically saying that if you don’t drink, you will get nothing. Drink – I saved three melons and two dates, but lost an entire forest. When I go to a restaurant to eat, there are always people who point at the waiter and yell at the waiter because the food is served too slowly. They feel relieved and seem to have the upper hand, but they lose their grace and tolerance. Having dinner with friends and pretending to answer the phone or go to the bathroom as soon as the bill is paid is a \”smart guy\” who is doomed to have fewer and fewer friends. He has nailed his life level to the cross of \”it\’s hard to achieve success by worrying about small things\”… Public places Parents who think it doesn\’t matter if their children are beaten by others, and parents who refuse to let go when their children are beaten, will one day pay the price for this kind of egoism… As the old saying goes, \”Small-minded people have a big problem.\” The size of the pattern, and Money is not necessarily related. If people from a small place are properly guided, have strong integration and learning abilities, and meet suitable soil, they will grow rapidly. However, children living in big cities will remain hunkered down if they are stuck in their ways. In my own world. What kind of life pattern will create what kind of life, so don\’t ruin your child\’s overall pattern because of some cleverness.