Take care of your children as early as possible

Last month, I sold an old house. I haven’t lived in it for a few years and have been renting it. I happened to be short of some money, so I thought of cashing in this house. The buyers were a middle-aged couple doing business in the city. Their eldest son was seventeen years old and their youngest son was sixteen. Seeing property prices soaring, they quickly bought the house for their son to keep for their wedding. On the day of the procedure, both spouses had to be present to sign. The four of us arrived at the housing authority together. There was a link where the elder sister and I didn’t need to go through the process. We just sat on chairs in the corridor and chatted. She was very talkative and kept asking me about my job, income, children, etc., and then took the initiative to talk to me about their family situation. A few years ago, this eldest sister and her husband were doing business in the city, and the two children stayed with their grandparents in their hometown. Later, when the child grew up, he learned to play games and stayed out all night. The two old men couldn\’t control it, so they had no choice but to let their son take care of it. This eldest sister hired Ren Ren and her husband to help, and she went home to take care of the children. However, the two children seemed as if they were not born to her. Except for asking her for money, they seldom paid attention to her. The teacher often called her to tell her that her son was skipping school, so she would go to the game arcade to look for him and find the right one. Last year, her eldest son graduated from junior high school with very poor grades. He didn\’t want to go to a technical school or anything, so he stayed at home for a year. This year my second son also finished junior high school, but he still didn\’t get into any high school. The couple decided to let them learn a trade, otherwise how would they support their family in the future? However, these two children really can\’t communicate and they quarrel whenever they talk to their parents. The eldest sister sighed and said, \”It\’s all up to me. I have given them to my grandparents since they were young. As long as they are not thirsty or hungry, it is fine. Let them grow up. There are no rules at all. It is too late to take care of them at this age.\” I am speechless. Zhang Ailing said that you should become famous as early as possible. In fact, I think becoming famous too early will do more harm than good. If you are young and have a good reputation, you will inevitably fall into the trap. But when it comes to children, the sooner the better. A few days ago, a mother who is a teacher told me in the background of the public account: Her daughter is in junior high school, loves beauty very much, is very obsessed with dressing up, and becomes impatient when she mentions studying. Once, mother and daughter had a quarrel over academic performance, and she ran away from home. She later mobilized all her relatives and friends to find her. She was so frightened that she no longer dared to take care of him, fearing that something would happen if something happened. I asked, has your child not lived with you since he was a child? She replied: \”We are together because we are busy with work and have to take tutoring classes after work. I didn\’t pay much attention to her when I was a child. But when she got older, she became like this. A child in adolescence, ugh!\” Before, I also understood the word \”adolescence\” in this way: rebellious, disobedient, and loving to go against your parents. However, my daughter is about the same age as her daughter, and she has almost none of these characteristics. Before my daughter went to kindergarten, my mother came to see her every morning. After I got off work, my mother came home. At that time, every time I went out, my daughter would cry when she saw me. A few nights, I had a heart-to-heart talk with her: Baby, next time mom goes to work, don’t cry. Mom will earn money for you to buy Barbie dolls. If you behave well at home, mom can go to work with peace of mind. She nodded in understanding. One morning, when my daughter was in the bedroom, I lied to her and said, \”Baby, mommy, go to the living room to see who is coming.\” I\’m taking itBao changed his shoes in the living room and prepared to go out secretly. My daughter ran out of the bedroom, raised her little hand and said to me: Goodbye, mom, come back soon. I was surprised and happy that she understood my heart. At that time, she was just one and a half years old. In more than ten years, my daughter and I have never been like other mothers who said that the older the children get, the less sensible they become and they no longer kiss their mothers. Every morning when she went to school, we would hug each other and look into each other\’s eyes and say goodbye. When my daughter entered elementary school, I walked through the elementary school journey again and studied all her textbooks. When I entered junior high school, I started to follow the path of junior high school again, memorizing those mathematical formulas and theorems that I had long forgotten. The purpose of doing this is to correct her in time when she is biased in her studies. She occasionally gets tired of studying, has worries, and has mood swings, but she has never been rebellious. As long as I give her a hug, she will put away all her bad temper. Our hearts are very close, so close that we have been close to each other from the moment she was born in my body to now. In fact, the so-called rebellion is the absence of parents when children grow up, the absence of love, the absence of patience, the absence of correction, and the incorrect way of opening kindness and strictness. Don\’t talk about leaving your child to the elderly. Even if you follow your parents, you are busy earning extra money after work every day and playing mahjong. When you find that there is a problem between you, it is difficult to deal with it. If you disagree, you will be in puberty. Needless to say, no one cares about whose children they can be as good as they are. After all, there are too few such children. How many parents are lucky enough to meet them? Most children are not geniuses, academic masters, or children from other families. It is difficult for them to achieve self-discipline from an early age. If you are absent from his or her growth, he or she will indulge himself, become obsessed with games, be passionate about dressing up, and be curious about all kinds of new things, but will have no interest in learning. Doing good is like ascending, doing evil is like falling. And it is the easiest thing to learn bad things. An education expert said: When parents should educate and take care of their children, they must not ignore the management of their children on the excuse of being busy at work. When you are old, all honors and money are fleeting, and an ineffective child is enough to make your later life miserable. Therefore, you should take care of your children as early as possible. I would like to share this sentence with all parents.