Taking good care of your own children is the greatest compassion for others

Last Friday, I took Ning Ning downstairs to go for a walk. When I walked to the lobby door, I found a row of property management pipes standing in darkness outside the door. Five or six people raised their heads and stared worriedly at the upstairs. Something must have happened, so I quickly asked, \”What\’s wrong?\” The property manager pointed to the glass arch directly above the door. When I looked up, I couldn\’t help but be surprised – the glass was covered with small stones, two of which had been smashed into pieces. God, this is too dangerous. If it hits someone, it will definitely be a disaster! I couldn\’t help but look at Ning Ning and hold her hand tightly. I felt both lucky and scared at the same time. The property management said that they initially speculated that the stone was thrown by a child on the eighth or ninth floor who was playing for fun. The child was probably taken care of by a nanny and was not optimistic about it for a while. Not long after, a notice was posted in the elevator, urging everyone in a serious tone not to drop objects from high altitudes. But this matter has been lingering in my mind for a long time. Not long ago, I just saw a similar sad news. At that time, I was lucky enough to think that hitting objects from high altitude was only a small probability event and was still far away from me. Unexpectedly, this sudden disaster passed me by. When I talk about this news again, my feelings in my heart are completely different at this moment. Instead of the usual indifference, there is only real pain. On March 9, in Guanlan Community, Dongguan, grandma took Tongtong, who was more than three months old, to bask in the sun downstairs and prepare to go home. As he walked to the door, a foreign object suddenly fell from the sky and hit Tongtong squarely on the right side of his head. Before Tongtong could cry, he immediately lost consciousness and immediately rolled his eyes. Soon, a shockingly big lump bulged in his head. The foreign object was immediately smashed into pieces. Looking again, it turned out to be an apple. Such an impact is terrible. (The \”murder weapon\” apple shattered on the ground.) The parents rushed Tongtong to Shenzhen Children\’s Hospital, where they were diagnosed with severe intracranial injury, severe anemia and other symptoms. The condition was very serious. The doctor immediately performed an operation on her. The first operation lasted 7 hours, and she has performed it twice so far. The child is so young, this is the limit she can bear. Tongtong, who was in a severe coma, could only rely on a ventilator to breathe. (Tongtong in the ICU has tubes all over his body) The doctor said that because it was so severe, even if he woke up later, Tongtong would almost completely lose the function of his right brain. Although I don\’t know her, I can\’t help but feel a sore nose when I look at the little girl\’s once pink face, so peaceful and soft. She didn\’t do anything wrong, she didn\’t provoke anyone, why should fate punish her to endure such cruelty? (Tongtong before being injured) After the incident, the police station extracted DNA from the apples and conducted house-to-house investigations. It was eventually discovered that the \”murderer\” was an 11-year-old girl on the 24th floor. The girl’s father said that his daughter was alone at home at the time. She wanted to throw the apple to the family’s pet dog, but she accidentally threw it from the balcony. According to the girl\’s father, it was an accident. But this child\’s carelessness was an irreparable and bloody tragedy for another child. This is the most disgusting thing about smashing objects from high altitude. The mistakes made by others are actuallyInnocent people have to pay the bill. The beauty and preciousness of life seem so worthless in front of others\’ inadvertent attention. Really, when it comes to safety issues, accidents are not an excuse. Even a 1% probability of occurrence is a price we cannot bear. The initiators of these two security incidents were children. After the incident, no matter on the Internet or in our community’s WeChat group, some people directed their anger at the children, accusing them of being naughty children and running out to cause trouble. During this period, a trend of denouncing naughty children suddenly became popular on the Internet. Various articles were posted on the screen exposing the evil deeds of children on safety issues: a naughty child deliberately peed on the elevator button, which eventually caused the elevator to stop operating; two naughty children I was playing on the top floor, throwing mineral water, wooden sticks, cans, etc. down, and it hit a pedestrian passing by. I died after being rescued by the hospital but failed. Because I thought the construction outside the building was too noisy and prevented me from watching cartoons, I got angry. A 10-year-old boy on the 8th floor used a knife to cut the safety rope underneath the construction workers outside the building. This momentum comes one after another, and it feels like it’s too numerous to describe. As a result, various statements such as \”Don\’t let them go,\” \”Beat them severely,\” and \”We can\’t let them continue to do evil\” became popular. Of course, there is something wrong with these behaviors of children, and they must be resolutely corrected through education. But is it really only the children themselves who are responsible for this? The word \”naughty child\” is too deceptive. It can easily cover up the parents\’ lack of safety education behind these incidents. It is precisely because children have no personal experience with these safety issues that they become ignorant and fearless and recklessly disregard the safety of others. Behind every naughty kid, there is actually a parent who doesn\’t really care about the interests of others. It\’s just that, pretending to be a bystander who doesn\’t have anything to do with him and scolding him, is a relief, but it doesn\’t help. It\’s easy to blame, but I think as a parent, I should be better myself. When it comes to safety issues, taking good care of your own children is the greatest compassion for others. Every parent has a responsibility. Many parents may say, I have taught and spoken, but the children don’t listen. Indeed. Many security problems cannot be solved at once, nor can they be solved with one method. I think that in safety education, we really need to take a multi-pronged approach, combining blocking and blocking. We need to block and block at the same time. (I feel like I’m talking about how to control mobile ghost stalls in the city^_^) Taking high-altitude parabolic objects as an example, I have tried many methods myself and specially compiled them to give you a reference ~ First of all, you must firmly tell Children, don\’t throw anything down. Not even a piece of paper will do. You must stop it decisively from the beginning. Then, change the home environment to make it more difficult for the child to throw things. This is the easiest and most effective thing for parents to do. For example, avoid stacking items that are easily thrown around the balcony. This time there were objects smashed from height in our community because our balcony was originally filled with many small decorative stones. This simply provides great convenience for children to throw things. (The matching small decorative stones look like this) You can also refer to my friend. In order to preventTo prevent children from throwing things away, a protective net was installed on the balcony. For young children, it is best to have adults watching them at home. As soon as they go to the balcony, they need to pay more attention. After the blockage is finished, it is time to clear it. Children under the age of three love to throw things because they are very keen to experience the wonderful effect of gravity. I remember that when Ning Ning was 1 year old, there was a time when she loved to throw pieces of paper downstairs and ran to the balcony inadvertently. So whenever we had free time, we would take her downstairs to play throwing stones. Sometimes we could play all day long. Let her throw it as much as she wants every time. Once her needs are met, she doesn\’t need to sneak to the balcony to throw it away. Of course, in addition to not throwing things around, we should also be careful not to get hit by others. Don\’t stay too long near the balcony of the building. With this summary, there are quite a lot of methods. If you use them together, you will definitely find an effective one. You will never know whether what falls from the world is a piece of pie or a stone. When it comes to security, no one can do it alone. Instead of always pointing the finger of the problem at others, it is better to point it at yourself. I think taking care of our children is the most responsible thing we can do for ourselves. Shine your light, don\’t wait for the torch.