Talk to your children this way without nagging them a second time! Simple and effective

When I picked up Xiaoyou from school in the afternoon, she said to me seriously: \”Mom, we are going to learn simple drawing tomorrow. The teacher asked me to buy a picture book with a little rabbit on the skin.\” But the two of us replied. I didn\’t pass a stationery store on the way home, so I called Dad You and asked him to drop by two books when he got off work. After a while, Dad You came back and took out two exquisite notebooks and handed them to his daughter: \”Now, the picture notebook you want, is it good-looking?\” I thought my daughter would say thank you, but when she took it and took a look, she frowned. He frowned and groaned: \”Oh, that\’s not the case. The teacher is talking about the kind with little rabbits on the skin!\” Isn\’t it just a cover pattern? What\’s the difference between little rabbits, little ducks, and little monkeys? ? Anyway, it’s full of white paper for drawing. But my daughter couldn\’t turn around and insisted that the teacher just let me buy one with a bunny on the cover. The teacher said it herself while holding a book with a bunny on the cover. I talked to You\’s dad for a long time, but he still insisted on saying: \”That\’s what the teacher told me to buy!\” Then tears started to fall down. As soon as I looked at the formation, I thought, come on, stop competing with her and just go ahead and buy it. So I took her out again and visited two or three stationery stores nearby, and finally bought \”a picture book like that\” as she said. She was also satisfied and stopped crying. Afterwards, Dad You joked with me: \”How can such a stubborn girl trust the teacher so much? Whatever the teacher says is what she says. If the teacher says shit tastes good the other day, I guess she will believe it too…\” Like my daughter Almost every parent has encountered stubbornness, especially in the first few years of school, when children really just \”do whatever the teacher says\”. I feel that for children, the teacher’s words are like an imperial edict and must be strictly implemented. Perhaps many parents of boys know this very well. On weekdays, their children are very naughty at home, and when they get into mischief, it doesn\’t matter whether they are parents or grandparents. But there is one person who can deter naughty children very well, and that is the teacher. And when many parents are really at a loss for their children, they always resort to their trump card: \”If you do this again, I\’ll tell your teacher to go!\” The results are often pretty good. So why is teacher management often more effective than parents? Why is it that sometimes a teacher’s one sentence is more effective than a parent’s 10 sentences? The following aspects are worth learning from every parent: Clear and specific rules People are inert, and it is almost impossible to do things completely consciously. This is true for adults, not to mention children. There are school rules and class rules in the school. What should be done and what should not be done are almost all clearly and concretely stipulated. In this way, teachers will have the confidence to \”have laws to follow\” when educating students, so the effect will be better. But in our family, everyone can reflect on it. Can you name a few decent family traditions and family mottos? Have you worked with your children to list the rules they should abide by on paper? You must know that written and systematic family traditions and family rules or family rules will give children a strong sense of participation and ritual. For children, this is an invisible incentive and restriction. Youma has a little trick that she has been using and recommends it to everyone: when everyone is in a good mood, spend time with your childrenLet\’s discuss the specific content of the \”family rules\” together with the children, which can include various aspects such as work, rest, life, and study, such as how long to watch TV every day, what time to brush teeth and wash, rewards and punishments, etc. In order to make the children feel fair and trustworthy, you can add a few rules for parents. After the content is determined, you can make beautiful posters with your children. First, copy the content of the family rules on it, decorate it with your children, and then paste it in the appropriate place. Whenever a child behaves out of the ordinary, don’t rush to criticize. First, tactfully remind him: “Baby, according to the rules we established together, the time you spend watching TV is a bit excessive!” At this time, although most children A little reluctant, but still choosing to follow the rules. Firm and gentle attitude We always think that children aged four, five, seven or eight are naive and ignorant, but in fact, you really look down on them. In the process of interacting with their parents, many children have gradually mastered the ability to \”fight wits and courage\”. The two most prominent points are \”continuous testing\” and \”expediting.\” For example, a child just watches TV one day instead of doing homework. When you urge the child for the first time, the child will try to \”test\” you by begging, acting coquettishly, etc., and ask to watch a little longer. If you are soft-hearted and agree, then the child will continue to read with peace of mind and wait for you to urge him a second or third time until you use force. This is also the norm for most families. Some people say that you should never believe a man’s lie about “not cheating next time” because there are only 0 and N times of cheating. In fact, this logic also applies to children. When you indulge your children for the first time, there will definitely be a second or third time. Think about it carefully, when a child makes a mistake in school, will the teacher give up his principles and not hold him accountable because of the child\’s begging or coquettishness? Will the teacher rush the child several times for things like not turning in homework? Generally not, that’s why the teacher’s words will appear serious and weighty. Simple and clear instructions. Who is the most powerful person in the world? He must be a soldier! The army\’s instructions are always clear and concise. Stand at attention, take a break, and walk in unison… When have you ever heard the army company commander nagging mother-in-law: \”That little comrade in the first class, could you please stand up straight?\” Good! You look like a shrimp. It’s ugly. I’ve told you this several times!” Short and clear instructions, on the one hand, have a strong sense of power, and on the other hand, they can clearly tell others what they should do. . Long-winded and fragmented language is neither serious nor annoying, and leaves people wondering what to do. The same instruction is given to children to turn off the TV and do their homework. One instruction is: \”Look, look, squat there and watch TV! All day long, like a mop, squatting still! Have you finished your homework? I said you Don\’t do it over and over again. Look at your classmates, who is like you…\” One instruction is: \”Child, according to the rules we set before, you should turn off the TV in 5 minutes. I think You are a man of your word, aren\’t you?\” Which one is more effective? The weight of a parent’s words as a role model depends on the prestige in the children’s hearts; the prestige in the children’s hearts depends on whether we areA good example. Because teachers are almost never late, they have the confidence to ask students not to be late; teachers write neatly, so they are qualified to criticize students for sloppy writing; teachers correct homework in time every day, so they can ask students to complete homework on time. But in the family, let us reflect again: when we ask our children not to play with mobile phones, do we ourselves sit on the sofa and play with mobile phones as soon as we get off work? When we dislike children who don’t like to read, do we ourselves love reading? When your children talk back to you and are impatient with your education, they are actually conveying an emotion to you: \”You live like that yourself, why should you lecture me?\”