Tell all mothers a cruel truth, do you know? This is the \”good mother\” in the eyes of the children

01 I have been caught in the rain, and I want to be the umbrella holder for my children. I have a friend who comes from a middle-class family and is the only daughter in the family. It can be said that she \”doesn\’t know what it is like to be sad in the world.\” Later, she got married and her husband earned a good income. She also lived a life full of relaxation for a long time after marriage. However, since she had a child, she suddenly became a different person and became extremely hard-working. Her family members advised her that her family was well off and her salary was not needed, so she should quit her job after her maternity leave and stay at home with her child until she was three years old before looking for a job. Against the will of the whole family, she insisted on continuing to work and started feeding her child exclusively with formula milk very early. After her maternity leave, she changed her somewhat laid-back work attitude and became very motivated and diligent. Later, some friends were really curious and asked her if she had been wronged after her marriage. Her answer touched us all. She said that it was because she had a child and had a weakness that she suddenly decided not to live a lazy life but to work hard to become a mother that her children could rely on when they grew up. In her native family, her mother was a stay-at-home wife. Her mother had not worked for as long as she could remember, instead devoting all her time to the family. She and her dad were well taken care of, and she was very grateful for her mom\’s care, but then something happened. She once had an opportunity to work abroad, but her mother advised her that working abroad was too hard and not conducive to finding a partner to get married and have children, so she gave up the opportunity. This opportunity fell to another female colleague. A few years later, that female colleague made great achievements in new overseas markets and was far behind my friend in terms of rank. The girl who went to the overseas market had a strong woman mother, so that girl went out without hesitation. My friend still has some regrets about this matter. It does not mean that she will definitely choose to go to overseas markets if she does it again. Instead, she found that at some critical points in her life, her family of origin did not give her enough advice and guidance, nor was it helpful enough. She hopes that in the future, she will be able to give her children more help at critical points. 02 Children are actually very smart. They are all ambitious. Do you know when children start to compare? junior high school? primary school? None. The real answer is: kindergarten. If you just observe the children in kindergarten, they will already talk about their parents’ work. Humans are social animals. From the time they begin to enter human social groups, they will naturally be affected by the concepts of human society. And people are born to be strong. Many mothers on the Internet will post and complain about why their children were very clingy to them when they were young and would follow them and make little tails behind them every day. But when I grew up, I no longer got close to myself, and I became very impatient with myself. The reason is actually very simple, because when the child is still young, his ability is weak, he cannot go far without the protection of his parents, and he does not have much subjective will. But as children grow older and become more mature, they will have their own choices and preferences, and they will choose to move in a direction that is more beneficial and beneficial to them. Therefore, it is very important to be good to children, and it is also very important to be helpful to children.want. The achievement written at the end is a family effort. The competition of the times has become very fierce. Personal achievements are often not determined by one person\’s ability or academic qualifications, but also require the help of family and family. Having a \”good father\” can often avoid detours and get twice the result with half the effort, and having a \”good mother\” can do the same.