Ten years later, children who are truly promising will often have this ability.

I was chatting with a friend a few days ago, during which she talked about her 5-year-old daughter with a sad look on her face. Ask her what\’s wrong? She said: \”When children encounter difficulties, they want to give up, even lose their temper and cry, and don\’t know how to guide them.\” For example, when playing with her children with building blocks, because the building blocks are crooked, she throws them away angrily. Said: \”I won\’t play anymore.\” The friend tried to encourage the child to be more patient and try more, but to his surprise, the child burst into tears in grievance. In life, many parents will have this experience. When their children encounter difficulties and setbacks, they give up. The goals we set often change our original intentions and have to be abandoned halfway. Everything I do is intense for three minutes and I can’t hold on. Over the years as a teacher, I have come into contact with many parents and children. After observing for a long time, I found that although the education methods of each family are different, those children who grow up to be promising all have such an ability, and that is willpower. It can be said that among the acquired factors that determine a person\’s success, willpower is crucial. So, what should parents do with children who lack willpower? Teacher Sun Ruixue, a child education expert, believes that the cultivation of willpower is inseparable from concentration, interest and choice. These principles can provide a reference for parents. Willpower originates from interest. One characteristic of children aged 0-6 is that they like new things, new toys, and new playmates. Children are always full of curiosity about things they don’t know. Einstein once said: \”Interest is the best teacher.\” Interest is a key to success. What is needed for a successful education method is not coercion, but stimulating children\’s interest in learning. If you have ever visited a Montessori classroom, you will definitely find that as soon as the children enter such a classroom, they will explore and do hands-on operations. Why? Montessori education creates a prepared environment and embodies teaching goals in Montessori teaching aids; allowing the classroom environment and work materials to trigger children\’s desire for hands-on exploration is a characteristic of Montessori education. If you understand this education method, you will find that although there are many teaching aids in the classroom, they will not be the same. Dr. Montessori believes that too many of the same teaching aids will, to some extent, hinder children\’s interest in exploration and thus affect their concentration. There is only one teaching aid of each kind. If one teaching aid is selected by a child and is being operated, and other children want to operate it, they must learn to wait. The waiting moment is the best moment to exercise children\’s willpower. Every Montessori teaching aid is unique. The design of these teaching aids is carefully developed based on Dr. Montessori\’s long-term observation of children and his discovery of the characteristics of children\’s sensitive periods. Some parents may say that even if there are more teaching aids and their children operate one thing every day, they will eventually finish learning and lose interest. In fact, in Montessori teaching, the educational function of working materials is not unique. The same kind of working materials can reveal different educational functions. Montessori teachers will prepare a large number of extensions of teaching aids based on the child\’s interests and development level based on full observation of the child. All of this is to better stimulate children\’s interest in active exploration and learning.. Immersing yourself in the interest of work makes children feel happy, relaxed and satisfied; through repeated practice, children\’s willpower will naturally form on the basis of interest. Willpower comes from concentration. Dr. Montessori once said, “In order for a child to develop inner willpower, he needs to be in a state of continuous work; only in this state can he develop inner willpower. \”. Once a child\’s attention is caught by an object, he will concentrate on his work. If a child is often interrupted when doing things, he will easily be attracted by various things, and in the end, he will not do what he should do. Therefore, to cultivate children\’s willpower, first start by not disturbing them casually. Dr. Montessori has a famous saying: \”Never disturb a child unless you are invited by the child.\” However, the reality is that parents often disturb their children inadvertently and in the name of love. Before the age of 3, many children will experience countless times of wanton interference and interruption by adults. For example, when your child is playing with building blocks, graffiti and drawing, or playing with Lego toys… Do you give your child a drink of water or a bite of fruit from time to time, or look at your child\’s serious look and you can\’t help but feel… A few words of praise from the child? What you think is \”care\” is actually disturbing your child. When your child is doing something of his own, even though you think it may be boring, please don\’t participate at will; and don\’t comment on your child\’s actions or provide guidance casually, as your \”kindness\” may destroy your child\’s concentration. Remember, there are three rules for disciplining children: don’t hurt yourself, don’t disturb others, and don’t destroy the environment. As long as children can meet these three principles, parents should control their mouths and hands; boldly allow children to explore freely. , the child will naturally enter a state of concentration. The state of concentration is an important foundation for the formation of children\’s willpower. Only when children are focused can they develop their inner willpower. Willpower is achieved through repetition. Careful parents will find that sometimes their children like to do some repetitive actions very much. Especially in Montessori kindergartens, children do the same task over and over again. What is the secret behind this? Dr. Montessori believed that repetitive movements were a natural phenomenon caused by the overwhelming energy within children. Children repeat exercises again and again out of their true inner needs, that is, the need for willpower development. Repeated practice can achieve quantitative change to qualitative change. We know that when the great inventor Edison invented the electric light, he used 1,600 different materials for experiments in order to find materials suitable for making filaments. The experiment failed a total of 3,400 times before it finally succeeded. The process of his invention of the electric light was a process of repeated attempts, from quantitative change to qualitative change. This also fully demonstrates the role of human willpower. Dr. Montessori pointed out that repeated practice can improve the child\’s psychological sensory process, which is the child\’s \”intellectual gymnastics.\” We know that children’s understanding of the world begins with feelings. As he continues to touch and feel, he will organize, classify, and summarize what he perceives, and finally generate a concept. Every concept enters the child\’s mind from feelingInwardly, children will connect this concept with things they have learned and recognized before, and internalize it into known experience. When children focus on and repeat an activity, they are also practicing controlling their own behavior and, by extension, the outside world. Therefore, as parents, try not to interfere or disturb your children. Therefore, we should be happy when our children do the same thing over and over again. Because at this time the child\’s willpower is growing bit by bit.