The 3-year-old baby rejects kindergarten, and the family is anxious. Parents: Is it okay to postpone school?

Kindergarten is an important stage for children to start socializing and learn basic life skills. However, a recent piece of news that \”a 3-year-old baby doesn\’t want to go to kindergarten, and the family is anxious and wants to postpone school\” has sparked heated discussions on social media. Parents are not only worried that their children may miss a critical development window, but also worried about their children\’s emotional needs and psychological pressure. So is delaying school a viable solution? So what are the reasons why children don’t want to go to kindergarten? It\’s common for 3-year-olds to feel uneasy being away from their parents. They may not be ready to be away from their parents for an extended period of time. The unfamiliar environment, new faces, rules and regulations in kindergarten may make children feel at a loss. Some children feel nervous around strangers, especially in a group setting with many people. Sometimes a child\’s resistance may stem from physical discomfort, such as not adapting to a new schedule or physical problems such as a cold. For parents, the reluctance of their children to go to kindergarten is undoubtedly a huge source of pressure. Their anxiety mainly comes from: Some parents hope that their children will receive systematic education as early as possible and believe that early education is crucial to their children\’s future development. Modern families usually have dual incomes. Children not going to kindergarten means that they need to find someone else to take care of them, making it difficult to balance work and family. Some parents worry that delaying school will cause their children to miss the best learning time, which will affect future social skills and academic development. Is it possible to delay school? Child psychology experts believe that parents need to pay attention to their children\’s emotional needs and mental health. If a child shows extreme emotional uneasiness and large mood swings, delaying school can give the child more time to adapt to the changes and reduce psychological stress. Around 3 years old is a critical period for the development of social skills and self-care abilities. Although delaying school may temporarily alleviate the anxiety of children and parents, in the long run, entering kindergarten will help the child\’s overall development. It is important that parents and kindergartens take steps to help children make a better transition, rather than simply delaying school. An important factor that affects children going to kindergarten is physical health. If a child is medically unfit to attend a group setting, it may be reasonable to delay school. But if the discomfort is just emotional, more attention should be paid to emotional regulation and adaptive training. In order to help their children better adapt to kindergarten life, parents can consider doing this; they can first take their children to visit the kindergarten for a short period of time, and gradually extend the stay so that the children can gradually become familiar with the new environment. Prepare some familiar items for the child, such as toys or small blankets, to bring to the kindergarten so that the child can feel the warmth of the family. Parents need to communicate closely with kindergarten teachers to understand their children\’s performance in the kindergarten and adjust strategies based on the teacher\’s suggestions. Give positive affirmations and rewards for children\’s small progress to stimulate their confidence and enthusiasm. Regardless of whether to postpone school, parents need to make rational decisions based on the long-term interests of their children, so that every step of their children\’s growth is filled with support and love.