The 5 most important sensitive periods in a child’s life must not be ignored before the age of 6

Educator Montessori said: Don’t miss the sensitive period, this is the life boost given by nature to children! In recent years, the term \”sensitive period\” has unknowingly become a topic of concern to many parents. Language sensitive period, digital sensitive period, painting sensitive period… But what exactly is a sensitive period? How many sensitive periods does a child have to go through in his life? Today, in this article, I want to tell you about the \”sensitive period\”. If you miss it for a moment, you will miss a lifetime, which will have a profound impact on the growth of your child. Sun Ruixue-Capturing Children\’s Sensitive Periods pdf download [HD version] What is a sensitive period? In the 19th century, biologists proposed this concept when they were studying how butterfly larvae tend to light to find food. Later, educator Montessori discovered the same phenomenon in early childhood education, so he transferred this term to children\’s growth education. Research has found that between the ages of 0 and 6, children develop themselves through one sensitive period after another. In each sensitive period, the child will be particularly sensitive to a certain external stimulus, thus showing a series of instinctive feelings. This sensitive period is very short and only happens once in a lifetime. If parents grasp the guidance well, it will have a great influence on the child\’s subsequent growth; but if they miss it, the child will not be able to see it when he is young, but the older he grows up, the more problems he will have. Parents should pay special attention to these five sensitive periods before the child is 6 years old. 1. The sensitive period of the mouth and hands. Once I was taking the subway and saw a mother holding a five-six-month-old baby. The child tried hard to put his hand into his mouth. After several attempts, he finally succeeded and then started sucking with satisfaction. When she put her fingers up, she made a loud \”bah, bah, bah, bah, bah\” sound, which was very cute. The mother smiled brightly and said, \”It\’s not hygienic for the baby to do this\” while taking his hand out of his mouth. Several times like this, the child suddenly started crying in annoyance, but the mother was still coaxing the child, \”Baby, are you hungry? Are you feeling uncomfortable somewhere?\” Seeing this new mother in a hurry, I couldn\’t help but tell her: \”My child, are you hungry?\” \”Eating hands\” is a necessary process for children. The mother suddenly understood after hearing this. 0~3 years old is a sensitive period when children\’s mouth and hands overlap, and eating hands is one of the symptoms. After birth, children\’s mouths are not only used for eating, they also use their mouths to understand the world. So you will find that they will put their hands, feet, toys, everything they can get into their mouths. Soft, hard, flavorful, tasteless, edible, inedible… The child uses the ability to feel the mouth in this way to construct his own world. The sensitive period of the mouth and hands is coming, how should parents deal with it? ·Mothers should not forcefully prevent their children from exploring the world with their mouths; ·Mothers can prepare a clean and safe activity environment and provide their children with toys suitable for practice, so that they can give their children a try, perceive and explore this new world for them. 2. Order Sensitive Period When Nono was in kindergarten, there was a period of time when his behavior was very abnormal. Before going to kindergarten in the morning, he must put his favorite Ultraman toys into the small tent before he wants to go to kindergarten. At the same time, I had to put his little school bag on the door stool and wait quietly at the door. If I am in a hurry one day, I will carry the small schoolbag in my hand in advance.Nono would protest strongly, and I would have to put the small schoolbag back again before he would cooperate in going to kindergarten. When he arrived at the kindergarten, the first thing Nono did was to put his small school bag in his tool compartment, then go into the classroom and check whether the small chair had a small label that belonged to him, so that he could start his kindergarten life with peace of mind. And the teacher will also react. When eating, Nono is very assertive. He must choose his own dishes. If the teacher puts the dishes on his plate without his consent, Nono will ask for the food to be put away. Pour it out and make another batch. … Regarding Nono\’s annoying behavior, I was very distressed at first. Later, after checking the information from various sources, I suddenly realized: It turns out that the child has entered the order-sensitive period! Generally speaking, children generally enter the order-sensitive period from the age of one and a half, reaching the peak at the age of three. At this stage, procedures and order will give the child a sense of security. Once disrupted, it will cause great discomfort and chaos to the child. Children will cry, make fuss, be afraid, lose their temper…and engage in many paranoid behaviors that parents cannot understand. Parents who don\’t understand will scold their children angrily, which will block their children\’s exploration of order. When they grow up, their children will be unorganized and have problems such as not being able to clean up. But if parents understand this life code, they can play a very good guiding role, respect their children\’s inner order, and help them design an orderly and tidy physical environment, so that order becomes a habit, habit becomes nature, and nature becomes personality. An orderly childhood will cultivate good character and quality in children. 3. Language Sensitive Period The language sensitive period actually runs through the child\’s 0 to 6-year-old period. After the baby is born, when he looks at the mouth shape of an adult and makes a babbling sound, it indicates that the child has begun to become language sensitive. Expect. Frequent interactions between parents and children will arouse the child\’s desire to talk. Maybe when the child is 6 or 7 months old, when you wake up one morning, you will suddenly hear the child calling \”Dad\” or \”Mom\” . Of course, this is the child\’s unconscious speech, but whether the child speaks sooner or later is inseparable from the interaction with the parents. Around the time children are one year old, they begin to speak consciously. At this stage, children\’s expressions are relatively simple, mostly using single sounds. After reaching the age of two, children can basically express their wishes using complex sentence patterns. This stage is also the period of children\’s language explosion, and some children show special ability to speak. Gradually by the age of 5 to 6, children have basically mastered many new words and can complete their own sentences. During the child\’s language sensitive period, parents should pay attention to the following: · Avoid using repeated words, and do not say \”eat\” as \”eat rice\” and \”flower\” as \”huahua\”. This is not conducive to the child\’s language development. ·For children, they receive language information like a blank sheet of paper. Parents think that repeating words will help their children understand, but in fact, for children, they have the same acceptance. Moreover, precise written language helps to improve children\’s sensitivity to words. ·At the same time, during the language-sensitive period, parents can help their children improve their language skills by talking, telling stories, and reading picture books. 4. During the sensitive period of self- and property rights awareness, many familiesParents will notice that children appear to be particularly stingy when they are around two years old. For example, if a child comes to visit, the parents encourage the child to share toys with the child, but no matter how much they are persuaded, the child is unwilling. Even if there are toys that the child doesn\’t like to play with, he will definitely not let other children touch them. Why is this? In fact, at this stage, children\’s awareness of self and property rights begins to sprout, and they will become \”self-centered\” at an alarming rate, thus showing their children\’s willfulness, stubbornness, stubbornness, selfishness, and stinginess in the eyes of their parents… But in fact , these performances are characteristics of children entering a sensitive period of self and property rights. They often talk about \”mine\” and practice property rights ownership. Time and time again, he confirms the relationship between himself and the object by confirming its ownership. This is actually a process of self-construction as children grow up. Only when the child confirms that this thing is completely his own, can he feel the existence of \”I\”, which is a sign of the child\’s self-birth. ·When encountering such a situation, parents should understand their children\’s emotions with empathy, and parents should meet their children\’s needs. ·Parents should not condemn their children’s behavior, respect and protect their children’s awareness of property rights, and especially should not label their children’s bad behavior. ·At the same time, parents should give their children a good growth environment and help them realize self-construction. 5. Socially Sensitive Period Since Nono entered the middle class of kindergarten, I don’t know when it started. Every day when I came home, I could hear the names of several children from his mouth: What did we play together? What happened? What conflict happened again? Sometimes I go to pick up my children from kindergarten, and I often see him and these good friends inseparable. This is actually a sign that the child has entered a socially sensitive period. Children aged 5 to 6 gradually enter a socially sensitive period. Parents who observe carefully will find that the way children make friends is no longer one-on-one, but often in groups of three or five. They get along in their own small groups, and when they encounter difficulties, they often help solve them; when encountering problems, they also care about each other\’s attitude. Therefore, children often feel sad because a certain child says, \”I won\’t play with you anymore.\” But soon, if the child resolves their past grudges, they will get along well together again. Sometimes, children will share their things with their friends because of social interactions. In this regard, parents must understand their children and teach them the principles of free and equal communication, guide them to learn to endure, teach them how to speak, and understand people\’s psychology… This will lay the foundation for children\’s interpersonal communication. Dr. Montessori said: \”The sensitive period is the life support given by nature to children.\” 0 to 6 years old is the golden period for children\’s growth, and it is also a critical period for the development of many behavioral habits. Many problems when children grow up can be traced back to the sensitive period, but if they are wrong, it will be difficult to correct them. Only when parents gain insight into their children\’s life codes and master scientific parenting methods can they better support their children\’s growth.