The 9-year-old boy was afraid to go home after his mother called him a coward. As a result…

Chenchen is a child who is sometimes careless and careless, so when I found that a pen was missing from his pencil case, I subconsciously thought that the child had lost it. It was a brand new pen that Chen\’s father had just given to Chenchen not long ago. It had a silver pen body and a golden cap. It was very beautiful. Chenchen liked it very much at the time. However, such a pen was lost in a blink of an eye. I was very angry about this. I felt that children nowadays have too much material life and do not know how to cherish anything! \”Did you lose your pen again?\” I asked. \”No.\” Chenchen lowered his head and played mobile games. \”No?\” I raised my son\’s head and asked him to look at his pencil case. \”Where\’s your pen?\” \”It\’s for a classmate.\” Chenchen struggled to break free from my hand. I was even more surprised, giving my gift to my classmates? I still feel a little annoyed when I think about it, that the gifts from my parents were given away so easily. \”If you want to give a gift to your classmates, you should save your own money to buy it. If there is a legitimate reason, your parents can help you pay for it. That pen is a gift from your father. You must cherish other people\’s thoughts. What happened if it didn\’t ring and was given to a classmate?\” \”I didn\’t,\” Chenchen finally put down the phone and said with some annoyance, \”I know it\’s not good, but Yuanyuan looks really pitiful… I I couldn\’t help but give her the pen. \”Yuanyuan?\” I vaguely saw this name in a parent group, and my only impression was that Yuanyuan’s mother was very outspoken. \”What happened to Yuanyuan?\” I asked. Chenchen told me, \”Yesterday Dahu broke Yuanyuan\’s pen. The teacher asked Dahu to pay for it. As a result, Yuanyuan was scolded by her mother when she came home and even threw a bowl. Today Dahu still didn\’t pay for it, and Yuanyuan didn\’t. I dared to go home and hid in the classroom crying. I thought my pen was new, so I took it home for Yuanyuan.\” I asked, \”How could Yuanyuan\’s mother scold Yuanyuan? Yuanyuan didn\’t. You did something wrong.\” Chenchen thought for a while and said, \”Yuanyuan said that her mother called her a \’coward.\’ Mom, what does coward mean?\” \”Probably it means timid.\” I organized carefully. The wording made me somewhat understand what Yuanyuan’s mother was thinking. On the one hand, she was angry at her child\’s incompetence, why he was always bullied in school and didn\’t know how to resist. At the same time, she was angry at herself for not teaching her children how to protect themselves; on the other hand, she was also angry at Dahu. , why there are always some children in school who like to bully weak classmates. Therefore, the reaction was somewhat emotionally out of control. However, throwing the bowl, calling the child \”coward\”, and scaring the child from going home is really too much. Children need to be guided slowly, and I secretly reminded myself to remember the lessons of Yuanyuan’s mother. \”Yuanyuan is indeed timid and speaks very quietly, so she is always bullied.\” Chenchen said. He suddenly remembered something, \”Mom,\” he looked at me distressedly, \”I gave the pen to Yuanyuan, will Dad be unhappy?\” \”It doesn\’t matter, you explain this to Dad. Dad will understand you,\” I said, \”Besides, when Dahu pays for Yuanyuan\’s new pen, you can get your pen back.\” Chenchen glanced at me secretly, and then whispered:\”Dahu won\’t pay compensation. He lives at his aunt\’s house and doesn\’t dare to tell her. He doesn\’t usually have much pocket money.\” I was dumbfounded. Children are really fragile creatures and can easily be misunderstood and hurt by adults. Whether it’s Chenchen who lost her pen because of my misunderstanding, Yuanyuan who was scolded by her mother and dared not go home, or Dahu who was fostered by her parents at her aunt’s house, they are all victims of their parents’ subjective behavior. We adults always think that we are right and it is for the good of the child. It is also good for him to educate him, it is also good for him to scold him, and it is also good for him to leave him at home and go to a distant place to make money alone. But is this really the case? Does Yuanyuan\’s timid temperament really have nothing to do with Yuanyuan\’s mother\’s overpowering nature? Isn\’t Dahu\’s mischievous behavior intentional because of a lack of parental care? Don\’t hurt your children with self-righteous love.