Speaking of this topic, I think of a very interesting case. When a couple came to the clinic for the first time, I found that the husband was more restless than the wife, and he was the one asking questions throughout the pregnancy consultation process. He is worried about whether he can get pregnant, whether the fetus can sit properly during pregnancy, whether the baby can be delivered smoothly, whether the baby will be healthy, etc.
There is no doubt that such severe anxiety has also been transmitted to my wife. Fortunately, my wife is a carefree woman and is not too concerned about pregnancy. With my repeated guidance, my wife returned to a more rational state. Fortunately, their pregnancy preparation period was not long, and the wife soon became pregnant amidst her husband\’s anxiety, but new problems also emerged.
When the wife had morning sickness for the first time, within a day, the husband also had the same condition. What is exaggerated is that even throughout the pregnancy, the husband’s pregnancy reaction was more severe than that of his wife. He had nausea, Inexplicable symptoms such as vomiting, drowsiness, preference for hot and sour food, general weakness, headache, and upset. This is a typical \”husband\’s pregnancy reaction\”, which is caused by excessive psychological anxiety.
When it comes to pregnancy reactions, people think that it is only a matter of pregnant women. In fact, some husbands of pregnant women may also have \”pregnancy reactions.\” Usually, their reaction is different from that of their wives. It is not nausea, vomiting and abnormally sensitive sense of smell, but general fatigue, headache, upset and other abnormal psychological symptoms.
The main reason is that all their attention is focused on the wife and the fetus. When the wife is confirmed to be pregnant, the husbands are happy but also add a lot of psychological burdens like their wives. The main reason is that There are several aspects: if the wife is weak, older or short in stature, the husband will worry about the wife having a miscarriage or dystocia; the family burden is heavy, and the husband\’s housework burden will increase after the wife becomes pregnant, especially for those husbands who rarely do housework. At the beginning, you will feel a sense of urgency and discomfort; because you are worried that sexual life may harm the fetus and pregnant wife, your sexual desire will be reduced, and even young and middle-aged men will have varying degrees of sexual psychological disorders.
In fact, just like \”husband\’s pregnancy reaction\”, expectant fathers who are preparing for pregnancy often also have these worries and anxieties. Although such unhealthy emotions are understandable, they will affect sperm quality and will also have adverse effects on the wife who is preparing for pregnancy.
If both parties decide to have a child, the husband should take good care of his wife, create a comfortable and pleasant environment for the pregnancy, and let the wife have a calm and happy mentality. At the same time, expectant fathers must conduct self-psychological counseling.Don\’t let yourself lose your composure while taking good care of your wife who is preparing for pregnancy. You must know that pregnancy is not something that can be accomplished overnight, let alone an arduous task, but a natural and logical process. No matter how anxious, worried, or anxious you are, it will not bring any benefit to pregnancy, but will create a burden on pregnancy preparations.
On the other hand, the reason why many men feel anxious when preparing for pregnancy is that they are afraid that becoming a father will distract them and affect their career. In fact, research shows that there is no conflict between a man\’s career success and being a good father. If fathers are willing to spend more time with their children and wives and have a close relationship with their children, they will tend to perform better at work and be more successful. You will have an enviable and happy marriage.
There is also a situation where \”men earn money to support the family, and women take care of their husbands and raise children.\” This traditional family division of labor model has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. Many men in China believe that raising children is a woman\’s business and has nothing to do with them. While their wives are raising children, their biggest task is to work hard to make money to support the family. At this time, the husband with a low income will be entangled, and anxiety will slowly appear. Over time, it will gradually cause anxiety symptoms during pregnancy preparation.
In fact, even within a family, if the wife is the main financial earner, the husband does not have to worry about the increased financial burden after the child is born. In the UK, there are now 600,000 men working as stay-at-home husbands, 10 times the number 10 years ago. In the United States, at least 1.7 million unemployed married men rely on their wives to pay the family bills. The number of “housewife men” around the world continues unabated. What\’s even more interesting is that a foreign survey shows that children raised by \”housewives\” have higher IQs, will achieve greater success in school, and will find it easier to gain a foothold in society. As a result, the value of fathers has a new interpretation. Therefore, if you happen to be one of the wives whose income is lower than that, you don’t have to worry about future financial burdens during pregnancy preparations.
If the husband has already developed anxiety, the wife should take this problem seriously and not underestimate the physical and mental abnormalities of the man. Every expectant mother who is preparing for pregnancy should not only think of herself and care about the changes in her body, but also think of her husband, understand his mentality, and be more caring and considerate. Husbands and wives should talk frequently, encourage each other, enhance confidence, and share the psychological burden. Mothers who are preparing for pregnancy should be more attentive and pay attention to observe whether their husbands have psychological abnormalities. Once discovered, they should help their husbands carry out targeted mental health care.
Pregnancy is a natural process. Whether it is eager for quick success or worry and anxiety, it will affect each other between husband and wife. Therefore, over-reliance on each other, inexplicable temper tantrums and other behaviors that are not conducive to the harmony and communication between husband and wife should be avoided. This is not only It is not conducive to pregnancy preparation, and it is not conducive to the relationship between husband and wife.
From a girl to a wife, from a woman to a mother, these changes are inevitable processes that women will go through in their lives. Wanting to be a mother is also a normal psychological desire of adult women.. But giving birth to a healthy and lively baby is a long and arduous process. As a woman, you naturally have to go through the entire process from pregnancy, gestation, delivery, and breastfeeding. Of course, the health of the future baby is closely related to the mother\’s mental health before and after pregnancy. Therefore, from the moment of preparing for pregnancy, future mothers-to-be must be mentally prepared accordingly.
From a young man to a husband, from a son to a father, it is also a man\’s inevitable journey. A man not only has to take care of his wife, but also has to look at the overall situation. Even if his wife is temporarily pregnant with a child, the husband has to bear a lot of pressure. Any man would be proud that his sperm fertilized his wife\’s egg cells. At the same time, if the wife cannot get pregnant, the husband will also doubt his \”ability\”. This is the most unbearable pressure for men. At this time, the husband\’s good mental state can help the wife successfully go through every stage of pregnancy preparation and pregnancy, and also lay the foundation for the future growth and development of the child, thereby creating a happy and perfect family.
This article is provided by Baidu Reading. It is excerpted from \”Very Good Pregnancy: You Can Get Pregnant by Doing This\” Author: Yu Yue\’e