The awakening of a student who failed the college entrance examination: My dream was taken away by my mobile phone! Teachers and parents please be sure to transfer it to your children

After the college entrance examination results came out, the Internet was full of happy faces of high-scoring students and their families. But as many people are happy, so many are lonely. When I was checking Moments today, I saw that Xiaoli, a child from a distant relative, did not do well in the exam. She admitted that it was her cell phone that made her lose control of her self-control, resulting in today\’s messy situation. When everyone was showing off her high scores, she lamented the cause of her failure, which must have been a deep regret! As a teacher, I know that Xiaoli’s problem is not unique. How many children\’s grades have plummeted because of mobile phones. How many children have lost the opportunity to realize their dreams of going to a prestigious school because of their mobile phones. I hope parents can finish reading this article, don’t overestimate their children’s self-control, and don’t let mobile phones ruin their children’s lives! Mental opium is poisoning 186 million teenagers in the past two years. With the acceleration of informatization and the popularity of online classes, mobile phones have become something almost every child has. Authoritative reports show that in 2022, the mobile phone ownership rate among minors aged 9 and above in my country will be as high as 97.6%. But are children really capable of grasping the explosion of information on mobile phones? Short videos, games, animations, novels, online dramas, online chats…it is still difficult for adults to control these junk pleasures. Can children learn to stop when enough is enough? The answer is obviously no. I picked up my phone to check the question, but was attracted by the novel recommendation that popped up. I\’m sitting at my desk trying to study, but I get stymied by celebrity gossip on trending searches. I was thinking hard about a question when I suddenly remembered the update of today\’s online drama and quickly clicked on my phone… In the streets and alleys, it was rare to see children playing hide and seek, jumping rubber bands, or playing football. Instead, there were piles of children gathered around playing with their mobile phones. Senior media person Luo Zhenyu once said: \”When game masters make games, they pursue a point of excitement in just a few minutes, making you unable to stop at all, and even if you want to stop, you will not stop.\” This is why mobile phones have become \”spiritual opium\” \”The fundamental reason: there are traps dedicated to human nature driven by interests, and it is difficult for anyone to escape. No wonder even Han Han, who dropped out of high school to write, said: \”Fortunately, I only had Nokia back then. If I dropped out of school today, 80% of my life would be spent playing games and mobile phones.\” There is a saying to ruin a child by allowing him to play with mobile phones. It goes like this: \”To destroy a child, just allow him to play with mobile phones.\” This is not an outrageous statement. Being addicted to mobile phones can cause huge harm to children\’s physiology, psychology, thinking, social… ① Damage to eyes In 2017, a 12-year-old boy in Liaoning was obsessed with mobile games since he was a child, resulting in severe myopia. After being unable to see clearly, he went to the doctor and found that the child had 2,700 degrees of myopia and was almost blind. ② Damage to the cervical spine In 2020, a 10-year-old boy in Hunan suddenly suffered from neck pain and stiffness after playing with his mobile phone for a long time. After seeking medical treatment, it was discovered that the atlantoaxial joint of the cervical spine was subluxated and he was almost paralyzed. ③ Damage to the brain. Research by Seattle scientist Dimitri Christakis has found that children who have been addicted to mobile phones for a long time have a significantly smaller brain structure than ordinary children. Language, reading and writing, cognition, body movement and other aspects of ability are not as good as ordinary children. ④Behaviors such as browsing mobile phones and playing games that impair concentration and imagination are actually similar to eating melon seeds. Mechanical, repetitive, unconscious, fragmentedof. It is easy to become addicted, and it can also change people\’s way of thinking. It leads to loss of concentration, half-heartedness and poor thinking in everything you do. ⑤ Damage to the mind. San Diego State University in the United States conducted a follow-up survey of 40,000 children. The results showed that the longer they spend looking at electronic products, the more likely they are to develop social difficulties, anxiety, and depression. This is also the reason why many minors have lost control of their mobile phones and jumped off buildings. The root cause of children’s mobile phone addiction lies in the fact that parent education expert Teacher Jing Jing once said: “All children’s problems are 100% their parents’ problems. The family is a copy machine, the parents are the originals, and the children are the copies.” Although the truth is simple, many parents will choose Sexual neglect, shirking one\’s responsibilities. The same goes for children who are addicted to mobile phones. On the surface, it’s because children are bored with toys and have no self-control. It’s because mobile phones are too tempting and their mechanisms are addictive. What about the root cause? In fact, it still lies with the parents. When NetEase CEO Ding Lei talked about the problem of teenagers being addicted to mobile phones, he pointedly pointed out: \”Many parents let their children play with mobile phones to free up their own time because they are lazy.\” On a previous variety show, a primary school student verified Ding Lei\’s point of view: \”My parents wanted me to calm down, so they threw their mobile phones to me. When I grow up and become addicted to mobile phones, you will think that it is the mobile phone that has delayed me.\” After saying these words, many children in the audience wiped away tears. Feel the same. Just imagine, \”lazy\” parents arrange for their children to be \”mobile phone nannies\”, and then turn around and start playing with mobile phones themselves… Children who grow up in such an environment, who else can they rely on if they don\’t rely on mobile phones? The Chinese Academy of Social Sciences\’ \”Youth Internet Literacy Education Reader Survey\” shows that children from these four types of families are most likely to be addicted to mobile phones: therefore, parents, please stop evading responsibility. Only by solving the problem of family education can the root cause of children\’s addiction to mobile phones be solved. It is better to keep children away from mobile phones than to block them. In today\’s era, it is almost impossible to completely stop children from touching mobile phones. Learning, entertainment, and social interaction are all inseparable from mobile phones. If parents want their children not to be dependent on or addicted to mobile phones, they should be sparse rather than blocked. Focus more on family education, enrich children\’s inner and real life, and guide children to use mobile phones correctly. Don\’t just stop it, otherwise it may be counterproductive. The following are 5 specific and feasible suggestions for parents based on my comprehensive theory of educational psychology, hoping to help children stay away from mobile phone dependence: ① Parents should lead by example and be strict with themselves. Dong Qing once said: \”What kind of person do you want your children to be? It’s very simple. What kind of person do you become first?” If parents want their children to overcome their dependence on mobile phones, they must first put down their mobile phones and study, read and study more. ② Parents provide high-quality companionship to their children. Most of the outstanding children are accompanied by their parents. This companionship must also be of high quality, full of care and interaction. For example, parents and children can exercise together, do crafts, watch exhibitions, discuss movies, etc. ③ Set up rules with your children about using mobile phones. Children should use mobile phones for entertainment within 1 hour a day. If the child finds it difficult to accept it all at once, you can gradually reduce the use time step by step. Complete as required, you can appropriately reward your children for doing other things they like, such as going to the zoo, going to the amusement park, etc. ④Manage the content of children’s mobile phones. Parents should also properly control the specific activities of their children when using mobile phones. You can help your children choose some educational games, short video software, browsers, etc. should turn on the youth green mode. ⑤ Cultivate children’s real-life interests and hobbies. Children with a fulfilling real-life life are often less likely to be addicted to mobile phones. Parents can cultivate healthy interests and hobbies in their children, such as playing the piano, running, calligraphy, painting, etc. At the end of the writing, educationist Li Meijin once said: \”Every psychological or behavioral problem of a child is related to the behavior of the parents and the education methods of the parents.\” I hope that parents will start from now on when facing children who are addicted to mobile phones. Less blame, less blame-shifting, and learn to reflect on yourself. Adjust the way of family education, use patience, companionship and care, in exchange for children to thrive!