The benefits of extracurricular reading are amazing. The key to successful parent-child reading is to understand these 3 misunderstandings

I have always wanted to spend an article talking about children\’s first critical period of reading. Because everything is difficult at the beginning. In the first few years when a child comes into the world, parents become parents for the first time. I don’t know how to start, and I don’t know whether to start exposing my children to books and start reading together. There are even too many misunderstandings and stubborn stereotypes that have been interfering. For example, parents who don’t like to read may find reading boring and not as interesting as watching short videos like Douyin. Or you have a bad learning experience. Or out of love and pity, you don’t want your children to be exposed to reading prematurely. Instead, choose to let your children play and play wildly for a few years. The rest will be left to the school and teachers. Leave it to fate to arrange it. I still remember meeting a classmate a few years ago. When talking about children, we mentioned what we usually play with them. When I suggested that we read books to our children, he said categorically: \”This is not necessary. Studying will be so hard in the future. I don\’t want my daughter to read books at such a young age. I hope she can be carefree.\” \”Cultivation of children\’s good feelings for books early is good for cultivating reading habits.\” \”It\’s okay. When the time comes, she can develop it if she likes it. If she doesn\’t like it, she will develop other good habits.\” I didn\’t say much, Because his attitude is very firm. He thinks reading is painful, so he doesn\’t want his children to be exposed to it too early. But is this really the case? I remember that I started \”playing\” with Xiaoyu with books when he was a few months old. I think early reading should all start with playing. Now he can successfully tell his classmates about the books he has read. Sometimes he would even tell me: \”Dad, I told my classmates a story today, and I made it up myself.\” He would often make up some stories, and most of the material would come from stories he had read. Because of the large amount of vocabulary input, he can freely create some simple creations. So why should children start reading as early as possible. Let’s start with vocabulary. I was recently looking through the \”Reading aloud Handbook\” and found a picture in it. There is a thought-provoking saying: \”What makes a child different in life is often not the toys in the room, but the vocabulary in their heads. In addition to hugs, the most expensive thing we can give our children – vocabulary, will become Our most precious treasure.\” I found out when I thought about my experience of reading with my children. Although I talk a lot, when I accompany my child, I often discuss it and trigger his thinking. But what really helps us a lot is reading. Because continuous reading brings rich and stimulating materials and vocabulary to children. Just like a reservoir, let him slowly fill up with water, and then I can take a dip in it with him. Seeing this, I think many friends will be gearing up to read with their children. Then let’s talk about three misunderstandings and some suggestions during the first critical period of reading. The first misunderstanding is: \”My child really doesn\’t like to read.\” I am very disgusted with parents giving such comments to their children. Because every child has fun, this child will be easy to read. why? Because early reading is a process of play and interaction. remember that timeI held a rabbit-shaped book in front of the 8-month-old little fish, and he sat cross-legged on the crawling mat. As for me, I was holding books and facing him. Then I said excitedly: \”Baby, look here, little rabbit, bounce!\” Then I jumped towards him. He laughed. Then put the book in front of him. He quickly grabbed it with his hands. Then he handed it to me and said, \”Bengbeng, Bengbeng!\” Well, he wanted to continue watching me perform Bengbeng. We repeat this. He didn\’t read the book, and I didn\’t let him read it. But the book was passed around in our hands. He looked at the rabbit on the cover carefully several times. After a while, when I picked up this book again. He will be very happy and want me to jump. As for me, I let him read a new page every time. Until another car book appeared. The next days were spent holding him around looking at cars and cars, and going home to look at cars and cars again in books. Are you saying that children don’t like reading? I think there is no child in the world who doesn’t like to play, and there is no child who doesn’t like to read. There are only parents who have not found the right books and their children’s hobbies to guide their children to get started. Here we focus on the first suggestion: choose appropriate books for children aged 0-3. I have summarized three important indicators: 1. Try to choose from things that your child likes. For example, some children like animals, and some like machinery. If you don\’t know what your child likes specifically, there is one trick that will definitely work, and that is interactive books, such as books that can appear in three-dimensional shapes or make sounds. An additional topic here is that a mother asked me if I should read the Bible to my baby? I think it’s okay to read something as catchy as Rhythm Enlightenment or a nursery rhyme. But there is really no need to enroll in so-called Bible reading classes. Necessity destroys children\’s feeling for reading. 2. For children aged 0-2, books that can stimulate vision and hearing are preferred. For example, rich colorful pictures or lively sounds can not only attract children\’s attention, but also benefit their brain development. 3. For babies, try to choose solid board books, because they are more resistant to tearing. It is almost impossible for an 8-month-old child not to bite the books you give him. In addition to using some teething toys or newspapers to distract children from chewing books. Parents need to choose solid and safe books, and never choose pirated books for cheap. Moreover, some interesting special-shaped books or three-dimensional books have to be presented in the form of thick cardboard. The second misunderstanding is: \”Children should read by themselves and read in preparation for learning.\” Our current society is too pursuing efficiency and speed. For example, with the high-speed rail, taking an ordinary train feels suffocating. And there are many parents who let their children grow up too early. That’s why some mothers say that their children always read when their parents are with them. He was asked to read it himself but refused to read a word. Maybe every parent who accompanies their children to read will envision a picture. The children turn over the books quietly without bothering themselves, and the time is quiet, how beautiful it is! But please give up this idea until your child is really ready. For children aged 0-3 years old, their understanding and vocabulary are bothlimited. Unable to complete independent reading at all. If you get enough reading in the early years, you will usually read some story books that you have read repeatedly after the age of 3. For example, I went back to my grandma’s house in the countryside during the Dragon Boat Festival some time ago. He dug out all the dozens of picture books that Xiao Xiaoyu had left there. He just read one book after another. Also tell the children about the plot of \”Beast Country\”. These books appeared repeatedly in the hands of both of us when he was 2-3 years old. Now I no longer need to talk about it, but just watch him watch quietly by himself. But that doesn\’t mean I can let it all go. When at home, he would still pester me to tell stories. And he has also entered a new stage, and the simple picture books in his early days can no longer satisfy him. He now likes long stories and can understand more profound language and thoughts. Reading is a gradual process, so don’t be too anxious to push your child away. There is also a utilitarian purpose when children first come into contact with reading. Is it useful to read this book? Therefore, some mothers only buy educational books when their children are one or two years old. When I reach the age of five or six, I buy textbooks from kindergarten to primary school. The children did not taste the sweetness of the story, but they were immersed in the sea of ​​questions early. This is a taboo for cultivating reading interest, so you must pay attention to it. The third misunderstanding is: \”The development of interest in reading is innate and has nothing to do with family atmosphere.\” Many times, we attribute some of our children\’s progress and achievements to nature. So I hear a lot of discussions from parents about who is smart and has good grades! That child is naturally smart and is destined to study. After all, other people\’s children are just born without seeing the efforts and dedication of other people\’s parents. A child\’s growth is inseparable from the environment in which he or she grows. We will find some children who fall in love with reading early. Learn how to read before entering kindergarten. As long as you observe carefully, you will find that families with this type of children have several common characteristics: First, parents love reading and insist on reading together. Parents themselves like to read, which has set an example invisibly. And they will read with their children regularly every day or every week, either telling them a book or telling a story. Secondly, there are a wealth of books at home. If a child cannot find any reading materials at home, how do you make him fall in love with reading? Please remember to prepare books for your child at home. It is also a good choice to prepare a small bookcase and a basket for babies aged 0-3 to put books in it. It\’s actually very simple to do, it just depends on whether you have the intention or not. Finally, parents will actively discuss and communicate with their children, and encourage their children to keep reading, so that they can feel the wonderful feeling brought by reading. Children always love to show off their achievements. For example, the books you have read, or the knowledge you have mastered. Xiao Xiaoyu often asks me questions, such as: \”Do you know which animal has teeth that are 3 meters long?\” When I say I don\’t know, he will tell me the answer excitedly. When I said it was incredible, he brought the book and said he saw it here. And he emphasized \”it\’s me\” andnot us. It means that he can obtain important information by himself. At this time, I will definitely praise his behavior and say that reading is really amazing and allows us to know so much knowledge. Yeats said that education is not filling a bucket of water, but lighting a fire. We are not trying to raise a super baby, but we hope to ignite a fire in the heart of the child. No child is born not to love reading, please don’t give up. But few children will take the initiative to fall in love with reading, so please work hard to lead your children into this wonderful world.