The best energy field for a family is when dad loves mom

Yesterday, I saw a Feng Shui ornament in a friend’s living room. It was very elegant. I saw three small pools scattered from left to right. The water surface is shrouded in mist. There is a mechanism cleverly connected to the bottom. It fills the highest pool on the left with water first. The water flows to the right in order, and the pool on the far right The water flows back to the far left side, repeating the cycle, forming a continuous energy pool. Doesn\’t this kind of backflow look like an energy field of family love? Father loves mother, mother loves father, father and mother love children, and children love father and mother. Positive energy flows and warms the home. As it is said in the \”Tao Te Ching\”: \”Father\’s love makes the mother peaceful, mother\’s tranquility brings peace to the son, and son\’s peace makes the family harmonious, and everything in the family is prosperous.\” Whether a family is happy or not, the source is very important. Whether a man can be kind to the person next to him affects the happiness of the entire family. 01 If the father loves, the mother will be calm. If you observe the families around you, most of them cannot escape this rule: if the father is kind and kind, and treats the mother well, the mother will be emotionally stable and energetic; if the father is violent and despises the mother, the mother will be emotionally unstable. Stable, haggard. Father\’s temperature affects mother\’s mood. A netizen once told her own story: Her father has a bad temper and gets angry at her mother from time to time over trivial matters in life. For example, his mother\’s food is too expensive, the cooking is too bland, the rice is too soft, the fried vegetables are too hard, the water bill is too high… Moreover, he doesn\’t do any housework and enjoys her mother\’s care with peace of mind. She never cares about her children; her mother is responsible for everything. But if the child behaves badly, he will reprimand the mother, blaming her for being a loving mother who fails to teach her children well. What\’s even more outrageous is that if business is not good one day and the income is too low, he will go home and vent his anger on his mother. My mother lived a very depressed and painful life, with endless grievances and complaints in her heart. The whole home is often full of negative energy. If a man does not know how to care and be considerate of his partner, and only asks for things but does not give anything, in the long run, the energy of the family will go down, affecting the luck of the entire family. If a family wants to move forward, the father needs to take on family responsibilities and take good care of his wife. Father\’s love makes mother calm, and the wife\’s mood also affects the child\’s future. 02 Mu Jing Ze Zi An CCTV host Sa Beining once interviewed \”Ship King\” Zhao Xicheng. He and his wife Zhu Mulan have a deep love and have raised six daughters. All of them have outstanding educations and are enviable. This family was once known as the \”First Chinese Family in the United States.\” Even the President of the United States praised them and even learned from them. When asked by Sa Beining: \”How did you raise all six daughters so well?\” Zhao Xicheng said very sincerely: \”This shows that I have loved my wife all my life, and I really love her right.\” The couple had just arrived. Life in the United States was extremely difficult. In order to give his wife and children a better life, Zhao Xicheng works multiple jobs a day. And every time he came back, he never brought his emotions home with him. Instead, he was kind and considerate to his wife. Under the love and care of her husband, Zhu Mulan also worked hard for the family, treated her partners tenderly, and educated her children warmly. The couple works together for the future of their family. Daughter Zhao Xiaolan once said of her parents: \”They serve the whole familyWe created a loving and safe environment, so even though life was hard, we never lost our optimism, we never thought we would live in this environment forever, we always believed that tomorrow would be better, And in the end we will overcome it. \”As the couple said: \”The dowry we give our daughter is not money, but education. \”The education of love can make children fearless and move forward bravely throughout their lives. What kind of energy the father gives to the mother determines what kind of warmth the child can get. Hu Shenzhi, a family relations expert, once said: \”A good family does not On how big a house you live in, how much money you have, and on healthy relationships. \”A family can only make its children feel at ease and comfortable by managing the relationship between husband and wife first. 03 Zi Anzejia and Franklin once said: \”A person in anger is driving a crazy horse. When parents are emotionally unstable and ride this crazy horse, their children are the first to be harmed. \”I have a friend who is two years older than me, but is still unmarried. It\’s not that he doesn\’t want to get married, but he doesn\’t dare to get married. As long as he can remember, he has seen his father drinking alcohol for a long time. Whenever he gets drunk, his father will beat his mother violently. Every time He was shaking with fear. One day when he was in the third year of junior high school, his father got drunk again and beat his mother as usual. Normally, his mother didn\’t dare to resist, but that day his father hit him too hard, so she blocked him with a stool. , her behavior triggered even more extreme behavior from her father. He actually dragged his mother to the river to choke on the water. If the neighbors hadn\’t stopped her, he probably wouldn\’t have come back. From then on, he felt depressed. Shadow. Over the years, he has never had a girlfriend, and he has never wanted to talk about marriage. His father often scolds him that not continuing the family lineage is the greatest unfilial piety, but no matter how anxious and urged his parents are, he remains unmoved. Because there is no sense of security in his heart, he has never felt the warmth of family, and naturally has no expectations of starting a family. So far, his elderly parents cannot wait for him to get married and have children. In fact, his parents hope that their children can live a happy life. to live a happy life, but we need to learn the truth: whether children are happy is deeply affected by their parents. As marriage psychologist John Gottman said: \”When parents have a good relationship and have pleasant interactions, their beautiful marriage scenes will be better.\” It can bring a sense of security to the child. \”Having a sense of security is the foundation for a child to learn to love, and his love will flow back to his parents. Therefore, fathers must first learn to love their mothers and let their children feel the warmth of home, so that the entire family atmosphere will be as warm as spring. Harmony and harmony. Written at the end: Hellinger, the founder of the family arrangement system, once said: \”A happy family relationship should be when parents stand closely side by side, and the children stand in the front and middle of the parents, forming a stable isosceles triangle relationship. \”When husband and wife love each other, parents and children are harmonious, care for each other, and empower each other, the family will be blessed and prosperous.