The best method and experience in educating children at home is to add sugar first, then salt, and then supplement calcium.

The famous principal Li Zhenxi once said: \”School education is very important, but no matter how important it is, it is only an important supplement to family education.\” Parents are their children\’s best teachers, and family education is the starting line for their children\’s lives. So, what kind of family education is a good family education? Dou Guimei, principal of the Primary School Affiliated to Tsinghua University, gave her answer: The best family education is to put sugar first, then salt, and then calcium supplement. Sugar is to give children care and encouragement; salt is to teach children to face setbacks; calcium is to let children learn to be self-reliant. Only with all three in place can children have strong vitality and be able to withstand the ups and downs of life. Put the \”sugar\” first, so that the child can become a warm person. The philosopher James once said: \”The most ardent requirement in human nature is the desire to be affirmed.\” But unfortunately, Chinese-style parents always believe that \”the love of love\” \”deep, deep responsibility\”, thinking that only expressing love with accusations is not doting. As everyone knows, the negative comments blurted out by parents are like a dull knife, which wears away the love between parents and children, and also wears away the love in the children\’s hearts. warmth. In April this year, Lele, a ten-year-old child from Nanning, became a hot search topic. It turned out that the child was obsessed with Douyin and tipped the anchor a total of more than 27,000 yuan, which is equivalent to Lele’s mother’s salary for a year. When the incident came out, Lele\’s parents didn\’t believe it. Because Lele is usually well-behaved and sensible at home and has good grades, how could she do such a ridiculous thing? Under questioning, Lele told the truth: \”No one usually praises me. Every time I give a gift, the anchor praises me. I am very happy.\” Lele\’s answer made people feel heartbroken. Yuan, it was just for a compliment. Parents may not know that children who do not receive recognition and praise in childhood will suffer from deep frustration and even deep self-doubt when they grow up. No matter how great your achievements are, you are still not confident. On the contrary, if parents can give their children more respect and recognition, they can stimulate their children\’s huge potential and make their future full of infinite possibilities. There was a little boy who had been naughty and mischievous since he was a child, and was not welcomed by his teacher. I finally got into college, but dropped out of school to start my own business. The business failed and I owed a lot of debt. I was still restless and had to borrow money from everywhere to continue my business. Later, the boy succeeded in starting a business and became a famous entrepreneur. When others asked him about his success experience, he smiled and said: \”I am successful because I have a good mother. When everyone thought I was not good, she never hit me.\” This boy, It was Steve Jobs, the later \”Father of Apple\”. Indeed, as the educator Dzierzhinsky said: \”Only children raised with love can grow into what their parents like.\” On the way to growth, only parents are willing to put some \”candy\” and use warm words Only by turning it into sweet love can you nourish your child and allow him to grow into the best version of himself. Add a little \”salt\” to let your child become a strong person. A philosopher once said: \”Tribulation, suffering, and struggle are the process of growth.\” Indeed, there will always be difficulties on the road of life. If If parents don\’t sprinkle a pinch of \”salt\” on their children\’s growth path and don\’t let them learn to face setbacks and pain, then the children can only become greenhouses.Flowers can never cross the swamp of life. The Qianjiang Evening News once reported on a fourth-grade primary school child who went on a hunger strike. It turned out that this child had excellent academic performance and had been serving as monitor in the class since the first grade. However, he failed in the fourth grade. The child couldn\’t bear such a blow and collapsed on the spot. When he got home, he went on a hunger strike to force him to do it. The moment I saw the news, I couldn\’t help but feel a cold sweat for my child. Nine times out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory. If he has to go on a hunger strike even if he loses the election as class president, how will he live in the future? Bai Yansong once said: \”You can win only when a person is not afraid of losing.\” Unfortunately, in the education of children, we often remember to teach them how to win, but never teach them how to lose. But if a person cannot afford to lose, he will never win. In \”The Strongest Brain\”, the episode where the Italian boy Andrei and the Chinese genius Li Yunlong competed deeply impressed me. Halfway through the game, Li Yunlong thought he had lost, collapsed on the spot, and collapsed in his seat crying. Later, when he learned that he had won, he smiled. At just 12 years old, he was so afraid of losing that I felt mixed emotions after watching it. In contrast, Andre was proud of his defeat. When Li Yunlong cried bitterly, he felt the same and shed tears; when Li Yunlong succeeded, he gave him a big hug and told him that he saw him crying so sadly just now and wanted to go over and comfort him. Although Andre lost the game, he won with the courage to not be afraid of losing. And this courage will eventually allow him to win in the long run. Zhou Guoping said in \”Only One Life\”: \”People should have two consciousnesses: one is to have the courage to start from scratch, and the other is to be calm about not finishing.\” Only when a person learns to afford to lose can he face setbacks and surpass himself. Only when a person learns to be able to afford to lose can he stop looking forward and backward and worrying about gains and losses. As parents, we need to add some \”salt\” to the cauldron of our children\’s education so that our children can learn to face failure in life. Let your children know that if you don’t experience the accumulation of losses, you will never be able to wait for the leap of winning. Only when you can afford to lose in the present can you win in the future. Supplement some calcium and let your children become independent people. The so-called parents’ beloved children must have profound plans. Since we cannot protect our children from wind and rain for a lifetime, we should let them grow into towering trees in their own right. I once watched a Thai inspirational video. The mother in the video is a fruit vendor, living a poor life with her daughter. One day, the child saw his classmates eating popsicles after school and felt envious. But the family is poor, and the mother has no way to satisfy the child\’s small wish. At night, my mother had a sudden idea and cut the pineapple into popsicles and stuffed it into the ice bucket. The next day, the girl ate the popsicles made by her mother and felt very happy. She also enthusiastically helped her mother make more, hoping to sell them. However, for a whole day, the girl didn\’t even sell a popsicle. Instead of helping her, her mother suggested that she go to the vegetable market to see how others sell things. The girl studied for a day and got inspiration. She used crayons to DIY on the ice bucket, drew cute popsicle shapes, and wrote the words 5 yuan for one popsicle and 10 yuan for 3 popsicles. Gradually, the girl\’s pineapple popsicles sold better and better. MotherShe smiled happily on the side, knowing that even if one day she was no longer around her child, she would be able to live a good life. Unfortunately, not all parents have such wisdom and foresight. A few years ago, a piece of news shocked the whole of China. A 23-year-old young man named Yang Suo, with a normal IQ and healthy body, starved to death in his own home. It turns out that Yang Suo has a pair of parents who \”love him as much as his life\”. Although his family background was ordinary, his parents doted on him. Other children could not eat luxurious lard buns once a month, but his father bought two for Yang Suo every day, and he often threw them away after two bites. When Yang Suo was eight years old, his parents were still reluctant to let him walk. Every time he went out, His mother had to carry him away on a burden. A few years later, Yang Suo\’s parents became ill due to overwork and died one after another. Yang Suo didn\’t want to work. He would rather starve to death than cook for himself. If anyone knew about his deceased parents, I don\’t know how he would feel. He spent more than ten years raising his originally talented child into a loser. Rousseau once said: \”Do you know how to make your child a miserable person? That is to be obedient to him.\” As the saying goes, \”Being spoiled is like killing a child.\” Foolish parents never know that every fall is an opportunity for their children to grow; every attempt stimulates their children\’s infinite possibilities. It turns out that the greatest love parents have for their children is to learn to let go at the right time. Only by properly supplementing the child with \”calcium\” can the child become a self-reliant person and be treated gently by the world. The best family education is to put sugar first, then salt, and then calcium. Family is the first school in life, and parents are their children\’s first teachers. Good family education can lay a happy \”background\” for children\’s lives and make them warm and strong people. Good family education is like a pot of thick soup. It must have all five flavors and comprehensive nutrition to give children the best nourishment. Adding sugar first is to give children care and encouragement, making them confident and high-spirited; adding salt next is to teach children to face setbacks, making them strong and persevering; and adding calcium is to teach children to be self-reliant and make them more resilient. Be independent and self-reliant. Sugar, salt, and calcium are indispensable. Only if the three are present, can children become full-fledged and soar in their own blue sky.