The big gap between children and other children of the same age lies in these 5 key points

Self-discipline called my niece yesterday and chatted about her studies. I asked her how she was studying recently and whether there were any difficult questions or questions she didn\’t know. My niece immediately said, \”If you don\’t know how to do physical chemistry, you will forget it once you do it. I have been having a headache recently.\” I said, \”When you don\’t know how to do it, it proves that you are making progress again.\” At the very least, you have seen your problems. Now you just need to find out what is wrong, what are the key points, and then overcome them. She said that she still didn\’t know how to do it after thinking about it. I analyzed several methods for her, but she couldn\’t know the specific ones because she wasn\’t around. But from my niece, I deeply realized that self-discipline is really important when children are in school. If you are not self-disciplined enough, you will just lament about this and that every day without taking actual actions. In the end, it still won\’t happen. Just like me before, I always shouted to get up early, but I didn\’t have self-discipline and didn\’t manage myself well, so I stayed up late every day. As a result, I can\’t get up every day, and later I fall into life anxiety, feel that there is not enough time, and want to change my current life situation. I began to deliberately cultivate the habit of going to bed early so that I could get up early. Every habit requires deliberate cultivation and practice. Because of my deliberate cultivation, I developed the habit of self-discipline, and also made me realize the mystery and surprise of getting up early. But these are all brought to me by self-discipline, and it changed my life. Let’s talk about learning again. It’s like a child’s learning. If you don’t ask yourself to be self-disciplined, you will just lament every day that this won’t happen and that won’t happen. During the holiday, although it is for rest and relaxation, after rest and relaxation, you should also use the time to find out the problems, calm down and study the questions, or take advantage of this time to ask others for advice. Instead of saying you don\’t know how to do it but not taking any action, you keep thinking about going out to play, or just checking your phone or watching TV when you have time. The result of such lack of self-discipline is that time is wasted and the questions remain unsolved. Self-discipline is the beginning of a child\’s journey to excellence. If he fails to achieve self-discipline and only pretends to work hard, success will only be further away from him. ​If you work hard, you will definitely succeed. If you don’t work hard, you will definitely not succeed! But is it really so? I thought so before, but as my experience and experience grew, I discovered that this passage can be parsed in another language. You have to use the right method when working hard. If the method is wrong, your efforts will be in vain! Just like my niece told me, there are two students in their class who work very hard. They get up at 4 o\’clock every day. They seem to work really hard. The reality is that although I get up at 4 o\’clock every day, my performance has not improved at all. In addition, I get up at 4 o\’clock, which leads to poor rest. I always dozed off during class, and as a result, I not only failed to advance in the exam, but fell behind. Does getting up early like this make sense? Obviously not, and it affects learning due to lack of concentration. Effort is necessary for children who are in school, but the premise is that they work hard in the right way instead of making ineffective efforts. Ineffective efforts will only reduce efficiency and will not allow you to grow in the true sense. Therefore, when your children are growing up, you must let them use the right methods to achieve efficient efforts. Seriousness is an essential key point for children in the learning process. Just like yesterday, my child said she couldn\’t find the crayons. I asked where to put them, and she said they seemed to be in drawers and cabinets, but did she find them?. I said what is the probability of putting a drawer, and what is the probability of putting a cabinet? Whether to put drawers accounts for 50% or 60%, she said it accounts for 60%. I said where is the cabinet? She said 40%, and I said, then continue looking for the drawer! You first observe how many drawers there are in our home. Look at which drawer you are most likely to put it in and where to put it. The child will continue to search carefully through my guidance. I found it when I was looking carefully for the second drawer. Through this incident, I deeply realized that seriousness is really important for children. It is also true to put seriousness into learning. Only by being serious can children calm down and think about problems, instead of just being careless. Seriousness will allow children to think about the process instead of just pursuing results. Reading Reading is an indispensable quality for children to grow up. Because of his personality, he doesn’t like to go out and chat, so he often stays at home and reads. This habit also has a subtle influence on the child. Now, both the eldest and second eldest children are particularly fond of reading. It was during the reading process with Dabao and Erbao that they realized the importance of reading, because reading allows them to express themselves in books. Instead of always speaking in vernacular, I am thinking that the fundamental reason why many children today have average composition skills is because they read too little. I don’t read much, so I don’t use gorgeous words to decorate my articles, but only use plain language. For example, we saw a man fishing. We will only say that this person is very idle, sitting there fishing, but he often reads and has accumulated reading experience. They will say this. There is no wind, the lotus moves automatically, jade beads rise in the water, hooks hang among the green leaves, and fish jump into the air! Leisurely fishing with the fishermen! Going deeper, reading can pull a person back from the abyss of anxiety. For example, he has been anxious about taking care of children in the past few years. As a result, I am often emotionally unstable and want to lose my temper at every turn. It was reading that pulled me out of the muddy swamp. If it weren\’t for reading, I might have been depressed now. For ordinary people, reading is not only a refuge, nor the only way out, but it is the best way to go, and it is also spiritual nourishment. Persistence is the key to a person\’s ability to do and accomplish something. Especially when children are growing up, if they can go through the above four points and persist continuously, the results will definitely not be bad. But persistence requires the company of parents, because children who do not have enough self-discipline are formed under the influence and guidance of their parents. Only when parents exercise self-discipline can they influence their children subtly. Yu Minhong once said: If the family is a copy machine and the parents are the originals, then the children are the copies. If there is a problem with the copy, it must be traced back to the original. In other words, the problems in children are the reflection of their parents. Written at the end: A professor from Peking University once said bluntly that it widens the gap between children. In fact, it means self-discipline, reading, seriousness, and hard work. If you stick to these four points, the results will definitely surprise and satisfy your children. From now on, for the better growth of your children, let’s act together with them!