The biggest sorrow for children is not that the family has no money, but that parents let these three kinds of privacy be revealed to the outside world at will.

What is the greatest sorrow when a child grows up? Many parents may say that the greatest sorrow must be that the family has no money. Because if there is no money, the child\’s food, clothing, housing and transportation will not be guaranteed, the child\’s life will be very difficult, the child\’s learning conditions will be poor, and the child will be unhappy. But in fact, although money is very important and almost \”omnipotent\”, it is not the greatest sorrow for children. 01 A child’s greatest sorrow is not that the family has no money. The truth is unexpected. “A child’s greatest sorrow must be that the family has no money. When I was a child, my family was very poor. We ate porridge and pickles every day, and I didn’t eat meat for a week, so my There is a problem with my physical development, you see I am so short now,\” Lao Zhang said. \”I think so. It\’s really sad that my family has no money. Because I injured my back when I was a child, and my family didn\’t have money to treat it, so I just rested and recovered on my own, but I ended up with sequelae. Now I get back pain when I bend over for a long time. I think There is no hope for complete treatment. Isn\’t this sad?\” Lao Li sighed with emotion. \”It\’s definitely because the family has no money. How sad is it to have no money? When I was in school, I saw my classmates carrying new schoolbags and new stationery. I felt envious in my heart. If I had such good conditions, I would definitely be admitted to a good university, and I wouldn\’t be like It’s so ordinary now.” You can clearly hear Lao Wang’s dissatisfaction. Today\’s parents almost all have one thing in common, that is, life was relatively difficult when they were young, and family conditions were not very good. Therefore, many parents feel that the lack of money at home is the greatest sorrow for their children. But you must know that the current environment is different from before. Even if the family has no money, there will be no shortage of meals, not to mention there are many student aid policies. Therefore, even if the family\’s financial conditions are not very good, the impact on the children is actually not great. 02What is the greatest sorrow for children today? Let’s first look at a real incident that happened before. A girl who was in middle school had excellent academic performance and was very popular with her teachers and classmates. However, she suddenly ran away from home. This behavior of the girl shocked everyone. Everyone thought this was impossible. This kind of thing It would never happen to her. However, the fact is the fact, things happened, people have to believe it. Why would a well-behaved girl in everyone\’s eyes behave in such outrageous ways? In fact, the root cause lies with the girl’s mother. Once after school, the girl walked with a male classmate. In fact, the male classmate had poor academic performance and was only the girl\’s support target. When school was over, the male classmate happened to have a question that he didn\’t understand, so the girl took advantage of the fact to explain it to the male classmate on the way to class. However, this situation happened to be seen by the mother who came to pick up her child from school, and she misunderstood that the girl was in \”puppy love\”. It is right for parents to worry about their children\’s premature love. After discovering that their children have premature love, parents can communicate with their children well and let them know the dangers of premature love so that they can correct their own behavior. However, what this mother did was shocking. Without fully understanding the situation, she scolded two people in the street, pulled the boy away, and took the girl home. Not to mention, the girl’s mother later found the school because of this. As a result,The girl couldn\’t bear the mental pressure after making a fuss about an unreasonable incident, and finally ran away from home and skipped school. This is the tragedy, the tragedy of modern minors. 03 The biggest tragedy for children is that parents talk about these three kinds of \”privacy\” at will. Compared with material deprivation, the mental blow will have a greater impact on the child. If a child with a poor family has enough mental support, then he has a high chance of becoming successful in the future. However, if a child from a well-off family suffers frequent mental shocks and his psychological world is completely destroyed, he will have many growth problems. Some of the behaviors of parents are the main culprits of the collapse of the child\’s spiritual world. These behaviors of parents are the greatest sorrow for the child. 1) Parents have \”imagined\” privacy about their children, just like the parents of the girls mentioned above. They fall into this category and always rely on their own guesses to determine that their children have some kind of \”privacy.\” Not only that, but they often take their own imaginations as facts, and then talk nonsense to their children, and even make trouble at school because of it. And often when the facts are clarified, these parents not only do not reflect on their mistakes, but instead distort the facts, change the topic, and refuse to admit their mistakes. This kind of behavior of parents will have a great impact on the children\’s living and learning environment, putting the children in an environment where they are criticized. This will have a devastating psychological impact on the child, and the child is likely to develop extreme psychological problems as a result, leading to some extreme behaviors, such as running away from home, or even self-mutilation or suicide. 2) Privacy issues within the family As the saying goes, \”Family scandals should not be made public.\” This is not unreasonable, because people have different relationships, look at problems from different angles, and solve problems in different ways. If internal problems within the family are discussed outside, it may lead to \”changes in nature\”, turning a small matter into a major event, and causing great psychological pressure on the child. For example, if parents tell others that their family is poor, it may cause their children to have low self-esteem. Telling the outside world about the conflicts in your family will make your children feel embarrassed. Telling the outside world that one\’s family is rich will make the children think that their parents are too vain… Therefore, the privacy within the family cannot be publicized everywhere. If someone knows about it, there may even be some losses in property, health and even life. 3) Children’s personal privacy Although a child is born to his parents, from the moment he has a sense of autonomy, he belongs to an individual with complete human rights. Therefore, parents must respect their children\’s privacy. Not only must they not tell others what they know about their children\’s privacy, but they must not pry into their children\’s privacy without their consent. If parents do not take their children\’s personal privacy seriously, the children will feel great disrespect, which may lead to conflicts and conflicts with the parents, causing the parent-child relationship to become alienated or even antagonistic. At the same time, the leakage of privacy can also cause various psychological problems in children, seriously affecting the healthy growth of children, and even affecting the life and health of children. 04 Written at the end Material is a necessary condition for a child’s growth, but its abundance or lack thereof does not determine the child’s sorrow in life.key or not. What makes children feel sad is the inappropriate behavior of parents.