The boy will be a \”little brat\” until he dies! If there is a boy at home, the mother should be blind, big-hearted and sweet-tongued

Two days ago, I was chatting with a colleague about the topic of \”boys\” in the tea room and recounted all the unconventional behaviors of boys. The two old mothers came to a consensus: those famous internet education bloggers are raising female babies ( If you don’t believe it, try raising a boy?) It’s really different to raise a son or a daughter. I have several second-born mothers around me, first-born daughters and second-born sons. The daughter is obedient and doesn\’t worry at all; when it\’s the son\’s turn, he worries endlessly. Ordinarily, mothers also have decades of experience in raising children, but the experience of raising daughters has become \”waste\” when it comes to sons: boys simply don\’t play according to the routine. So, don\’t expect him to become mature as he grows taller and older. In fact, no matter how old the boy is, he is still a three-year-old kid! How to raise (deal with) boys is the most important test of a mother\’s eyesight, chest size and eloquence. To sum up, it is to be blind in eyes, big in heart and sweet in mouth. Moms of boys, let’s encourage each other. 01 Blindness: A well-raised son can only see his son. In fact, he is not blind from the beginning and follows the underworld. When my son was young, there were times when he was cute, gentle, and considerate. Think about it, have you ever praised him as a \”little warm man\”? When did you start to change your view of your son? \”Enrollment\” may be a watershed. When children are young, I just hope that they will grow up healthy and happy. But when the children go to school, invisible academic pressure and competitiveness make parents continue to raise their expectations for their children. Without requirements, all I saw in my eyes were the children\’s good qualities; but once I have higher requirements for my children, all I saw were the children\’s \”bad habits.\” So before you know it, the laughter turned into tears, and the sweet words turned into angry words. Parents and children drift apart. As the saying goes, out of sight, out of mind, if parents cannot see the shortcomings of their children, they will keep the good sides of their children in their hearts. In this way, the child becomes an angel in the heart, and the parents feel happy. Being blind is the first skill that parents need to practice on their own. Parents are blind and can turn a blind eye to their children\’s bad habits. In other words, the little problems and little movements of those children are not actually matters of principle. Choose to open one eye or close one eye, with less internal friction and more positive energy. 02 Big Heart: Only by caring less about your children can you be friendly. On the eve of summer vacation, I made an appointment with my best friend for afternoon tea, which showed me the typical look of a \”mother with a big heart\”. My best friend’s son graduated from the third grade of junior high school this year and was admitted to a key high school. Speaking of my children’s study and living conditions during the three years of junior high school, I was speechless. My best friend’s house is not close to the school, but it is not far. Since my child entered seventh grade, he has been riding his bike to and from school. On Friday, school was over, and the children attended training classes by themselves. After that, they invited their classmates to play football on the field. It was already after ten o\’clock when they got home. I asked her: Aren\’t you worried? My best friend asked: There is nothing you can do about worrying. What should I do if they don’t want you to give it to me? It is said that you should hurry up during the sprint in the third grade of junior high school, but your best friend will give her son a half-day break every weekend. Whether it is going to a classmate\’s house to check in, making appointments to play football, play games, or stroll on the street, she never interferes. I asked her: Are you not in a hurry? My best friend spread her hands: If you trap him at home, it will be useless if he doesn\’t study. You might as well grant him his wish. High school entrance examinationThe day before, my best friend asked my son: Do I want to send you to the examination room tomorrow? The son thought for a while and replied: I have been going to and from school for three years, so I can\’t do it. Therefore, when her son took the high school entrance examination, she went to work with peace of mind. My best friend said that she was used to the way she interacted with her son and didn\’t think there was anything wrong. Just get used to everything. It was precisely this mother who let go and gave her child enough freedom. During the rebellious period of youth that should have been noisy, her son only fluttered a few waves and returned to calm. Nowadays, the mother and son are kind and filial, and they have discussions and discussions. The scene together is particularly harmonious and enviable. Being big-hearted is the second skill that parents need to practice on the road to raising boys. How many parent-child families have the word \”management\” at the forefront, and the family of three is in a state of turmoil. As parents, only by developing a strong heart, downplaying big things and ignoring small things, resolutely ignoring things that should not be taken care of, and doing as little as possible to take care of things that should be taken care of, can we coexist peacefully with our children. 03 Sweet mouth: Please go against your conscience and praise your child for his skills. I admire my son’s classmate mother the most. Once, when we were discussing the situation of our children, the mother told me in a succinct manner: You have to praise him vigorously! Even if you feel angry in your heart, you still have to praise him. To this end, she gave me an example. One day during the summer vacation, she gave her son an assignment in the morning when he went out to recite the entire text and pass it in the evening. Before leaving get off work, her son called her and hesitantly \”please apologize\”: Mom, don\’t scold me when you come back at night. I didn\’t recite the text. The mother felt worried and asked why, but her son just gave an excuse: Who made me stupid? The mother said that when she heard this, her anger suddenly rose. She suppressed her anger and hung up the phone, and began to think about how to \”take care of\” her son when she got home. As soon as she got home, she was filled with righteous indignation and started to \”accuse\”: You can\’t do it, I don\’t blame you, but you gave up without trying hard, and you said you were stupid, so you won\’t allow it! You see, how serious and fluent you are every time you endorse, how many times you are praised by the teacher, your Chinese scores have improved again and again from the third grade to the sixth grade, you are so good, why should you call yourself stupid… This mother is so vivid He acted out the scene at that time and then asked me: Guess how my son behaved? I \”scolded\” him so much that I was so confident that I recited the entire text the next day! I listened and was so impressed that I fell into admiration. Having a sweet mouth is the third skill that parents of boys need to practice. Moreover, this skill should be practiced and grasped from an early age, so that the mother can look confident in her praise and the children will take it for granted, and then drive the children to work hard. Of course, if you usually don’t praise much, then let’s do it step by step. But don\’t do it so violently as soon as you start, that the child will hear the falsehood. Raising a daughter is a beautiful encounter, and raising a son is a difficult practice. Since we cannot choose in advance whether to have a son or a daughter, we can only change ourselves: by making our eyes blind, our hearts bigger, and our mouths sweeter, our lives will be longer.