The child couldn\’t learn anything, which made the mother extremely anxious, but she had no choice but to choose to do this…

As the saying goes: I hope my son will become a dragon, I hope my daughter will become a phoenix, and I do the same. When my son was still in his infancy, I had a plan that I thought would be enough to cultivate his child’s talent, and I implemented it step by step after the child was born: learning to draw at the age of three, pinyin at the age of four, and writing at the age of five. I learned swimming at the age of six and English at the age of seven… Although my son participated in the studies and we paid a lot for him, he just didn\’t seem to be enlightened and didn\’t learn any skill well. Compared with other children, my son Seems to be lagging far behind. Looking at my son who is only tall but not very wise, I feel anxious and helpless. Maybe I should accept my child\’s current \”ordinaryness\”. Because my child did not study well and was often scolded by me, he gradually became a little inferior. By chance, I went on a trip and happened to be in a group with a group of women. While admiring the scenery, what we talked about most was \”parenting lessons.\” Mother Huang is a successful mother in her fifties. Her two sons have graduated from college and are working. Seeing how confused I looked when I talked about my children\’s education, Mother Huang seemed to see through my mind and said, \”Your current educational philosophy is too radical. Some children are forced to learn before they are old enough to learn.\” All kinds of things. Maybe my ideas are lagging behind, and I don’t agree with this approach that is similar to trying to encourage the growth of seedlings. I always believe that flowers are the most beautiful when they bloom in season. Similarly, what children should learn should be determined by their body and mind. Development and his personal interests determine…\” After returning from the trip, I not only felt the solace of nature, but also obtained some precious parenting scriptures from my friend Huang Ma, and decided to try the effect of Huang Ma\’s scriptures. The opportunity came. Children of the same age as my son in the community have begun to learn \”skating\”, and some of these children are asked to learn it, but there are also some children who are \”asked\” by their parents to learn it. These children wear roller skates and look sad. She grabbed her parents\’ hands tremblingly and didn\’t dare to let go, while her parents scolded and coaxed her by her side, \”Baby, let go and try, otherwise you won\’t be able to keep up with your classmates…\” \”According to my previous philosophy, I will definitely \”ask\” my son to learn with these children. However, this time I am no longer so impulsive to follow the crowd, but first seek my son\’s ideas. My son seemed a little flattered and said timidly: \”I want to learn to skate too…\” My son, who has been so timid that he was even afraid of cockroaches since he was young, actually wanted to learn this, which was indeed beyond my expectation. So, I bought him a whole outfit for skating. My son seemed particularly happy. He studied the equipment with me with great interest, put it on, and started practicing under my guidance… The speed at which my son learned this thing once again exceeded my expectations. In a very short time Within a short period of time, he learned the basic skills of moving forward, skills of coping with falling, braking \”car\” movements, etc. I am even amazed at how talented my son is! Perhaps this sport is what my son is interested in at this age, so he learns very quickly, and within half a month he can skate more casually on his own. After one semester, he can still do some tricks. And those children who are forced to study eventually give up halfway. I began to deeply recall Huang’s mother’s words “flowers”.\”It\’s the most beautiful when it\’s in season.\” I feel that I and my children have benefited a lot. That summer vacation, I originally wanted my son to sign up to continue learning swimming – to continue to complete the skills that I didn\’t learn at home during the previous summer vacation. Learning from the lessons of previous years, I didn\’t Instead of forcing the child to go, ask for his opinion. My son said that swimming is too difficult and he should learn it when he grows up. I thought that maybe my son really hasn’t reached the best age to master swimming movements yet, so I gave him what he wanted. Willingness: Not to swim, but to continue to learn skating skills. Sure enough, after one summer vacation, my son’s skating skills improved by leaps and bounds. I was pleasantly surprised, and I became more determined to practice Huang’s parenting teachings. From now on, no matter what I plan to learn, I will Ask your son for his opinion in advance, follow his interests and hobbies, and let him master something while being happy. The effect will naturally be much better than before. Now, not only does his son walk the military flag well, but the number of words he remembers is also increasing day by day; not only is his concentration on doing things increasing day by day, Enhanced, self-care ability has also improved. Our parent-child relationship will no longer be as tense as before, and our son has become more confident. Sometimes, if a child cannot accept something for a while, it may not be that the child is really inferior to others. , but we adults are too anxious and even make the mistake of pulling out the seedlings to encourage them to grow. On the contrary, if we can water them with respect, our children will bloom their own unique beauty in their own flowering period.