The child\’s reading is in the wrong direction. The harder it is, the greater the harm will be.

Don’t let reading become a “burden” for your children. As soon as I wrote this title, I was afraid that some parents would enjoy it secretly and feel that they should stop reading with their children. Because if you look at our family, parent-child reading is not only a burden for the children, but also a burden for us adults. If it really becomes like this, then just stop and see what\’s going on? Otherwise, such parent-child reading will only make children reject reading, and adults will also be disgusted with it. If it’s so uncomfortable, why do it? Because many children read under pressure. For example, you must read these pages today, and then take excerpt notes and write down all the good sentences and words. Then I have to write a few fixed reading notes every week. World-renowned linguist Professor Stephen Krassen has proven the importance of \”free reading\” through many rounds of practice. He advocates stress-free reading and reading for interest. There is no need to write a book report, answer questions after each chapter, or look up a dictionary for each new word. I think it\’s good not to think of reading as a task. Don\’t always think about dictating how children should read, but think about finding quick fixes and shortcuts for children to read. Then, there will be no market for deceptive tricks like \”Quantum Fluctuation Speed ​​Reading\”. It claims that you can read hundreds of thousands of words in a few minutes by flipping through a book, and you can also retell the contents of the book. It is a farce. This is also the result of some people seeking medical treatment in a hurry. Because there are no shortcuts to reading. Sometimes when Xiao Xiaoyu encounters a book he likes and flips through it anxiously, I will tell him to slow down, don\’t be anxious, read slowly. Why are you in such a hurry to finish reading a book? Parents should guide their children to maintain their passion for reading and not let reading become a burden on their children. Only in this way will our children truly fall in love with reading. 2 But when it comes to cultivating children’s reading habits, many parents hesitate. Is this reading useful? For example, when the school evaluates excellence at the end of the year, this matter will not be mentioned at all. Instead, academic performance is the focus. In addition to academic performance, it also depends on the child\’s talent. Besides, reading is not graded and does not add points. So just look carefully around our primary and secondary schools, and you will find a very strange phenomenon. There are almost no bookstores. If you want to buy a book, you can only look at the most inconspicuous part of the stationery store. Or check out the supermarket shelves. Those good spots are for stationery, toys and teaching aids. If I said I wanted to open a bookstore, many of my friends would immediately object. Because they think you will definitely not be able to hold on. You see, many bookstores have closed down. Closures have become the norm. However, there are an overwhelming number of training courses near the school. Various training institutions are trying their best to attract you to sign up your children. Why is this happening? Because our parents are anxious. Let me tell you one more interesting thing. Near the end of the year, the child\’s class teacher will usually send a notice to summarize the children\’s awards this semester. At that time, Xiao Xiaoyu, who had just entered the first grade, had none, but more than half of the children in the class had won many awards, including school-level awards, city-level awards, and awards for dancing, painting, chess, calligraphy, and… Taekwondo. There are various award-winning situations. Some mothers even wrote about their children’s New Year’s Day performance. This isIt\’s also an honor. But we still can\’t think of anything. The fish mother became anxious and said what have we done all these years without winning a single award. I know in my heart that I have played with him, read with him, and studied with him all these years. A lot of the same. But we just ignored him and didn\’t let him go to training classes, participate in competitions, or win awards. \”How about enrolling him in a Taekwondo class so that he can get to a higher level quickly.\” I could only smile bitterly. We have cultivated his reading habit little by little over the years. Parents and children started reading together when they were more than one year old, and now they are reading independently. Every day when Xiao Xiaoyu goes home, he reads extracurricular books by himself. But this one really doesn’t have a certificate or a grade test! \”Compare this, this is really useless!\” \”This can\’t improve your scores!\” This is one reason why extracurricular training classes are so popular and reading is regarded as useless. Therefore, parents are keen on cultivating their children\’s talents because it seems to be more \”useful\” and their children also like it. 3However, if I had to choose again, I would still grow up with my children like this. I said to the fish mother, \”Do you still remember the original intention of raising a child? Is it to let him earn face for us? Do you have to compare and hope that he will become a better person than other children?\” Of course not, she also answered the same of. Whether you are in kindergarten or elementary school. We are very strict with his schoolwork and will cooperate with the teachers to teach him. But I particularly value his condition and hope he can do what he likes and have his own time. So over the years I have been trying to find a balance between learning and playing. Many things have been deleted, and life has become relatively pure. But reading is something that I have always insisted on. This shows its preciousness. Next, I still won’t sign up for many training classes just because I see how good the other kids in the class are. Instead, they will observe his status and choose one or two based on his abilities. Guide him, encourage him, and accompany him to do it. Just like reading with him, starting from the first seed planted. Now it has sprouted and is growing vigorously. What will this reading tree bring to him in the future? I am very excited. 4. If you ask children who love reading, they will tell you with a smile. Reading is a joyful thing! You can read interesting stories and learn new things from it, which is so fun. Reading can satisfy children\’s thirst for knowledge and curiosity. It is also like a ladder. The higher you climb, the wider your horizons, the more scenery you see, and the deeper your knowledge. This is the sweet fruit and reward of reading. Teacher Lin Wenbao, a children\’s reading promoter, said, \”When it comes to reading, if the direction is wrong, the harder you push, the greater the damage.\” What kind of direction is wrong? That\’s when reading becomes a \”burden\” for children, then you are definitely going in the wrong direction. How to avoid going in the wrong direction? I think I should remember my original intention: reading is not to make children good, nor is it to make children improve their grades. Reading is just reading, allowing children to feel happiness, satisfaction, expectation, and touch happiness. It\’s like when a little fish encounters a book he likes, he dives into it without knowing what\’s going on around him. Those focused little eyes searched hungrily. No matter how noisy the surrounding area is, it will affectCan\’t reach him. And when I encounter an interesting place, I laugh, talk to myself, and quickly share this joy with us. I think this is the joy of reading, he tasted it. I hope more children can experience this joy.