The cultivation of parents determines the level of their children

At the entrance of the kindergarten, a mother was selling second-hand course cards to everyone with a helpless face. There are many people watching, but not many buying. She said this was a piano course card bought for her children. In order to provide their children with artistic influence, they bought a piano worth more than 10,000 yuan and signed up for a piano class worth 8,000 yuan. The child became interested in three minutes and took two lessons. There is no way to survive. I am a piano student and know a lot about this. I suggested that she sell the piano and return the course card at a discount, so she might lose part of the money. Then I contacted her friend who owned a music store. The mother was very grateful and took me to chat. I learned that her family was poor, but in order for her son to become successful, she was willing to pay no matter how expensive it was, even if she lived a little harder. Her husband works in a factory, working three shifts for more than 3,000 yuan a month. He is often so tired that he falls asleep when he comes home. She works as a waiter in a restaurant, working ten hours a day and earning a salary of 3,500 yuan. She often packs some of the leftover dishes from customers and brings them back to her son. It stands to reason that such a family should consume rationally, but she spends a lot of money on the education of her children. In her words, children are their entire hope, and everything they do is for their children. As long as they can train their children to be successful, no matter how hard or tiring they are, it is worth it. I feel a wave of sadness in my heart. The key is that there are quite a few parents like this. They obviously live a low-class life, but they borrow money to send their children to aristocratic schools because they want their children to receive the best education. Knowledge changes destiny, and I hope that my children will be successful and prosperous in the future. Such a family environment will only educate more utilitarian children, who learn for the purpose of scores and work for the purpose of making money, which lacks some human touch. You don’t raise children, you raise workaholics, slaves to money. There was news last year that after Wu Xieyu, a graduate of Peking University, killed his mother, he borrowed more than one million from relatives and friends using his mother\’s QQ account, and borrowed loans using his mother\’s identity information. He then absconded and lost contact and was wanted. Wu Xieyu\’s father passed away when he was young, and he grew up in a single-parent family. His mother is a middle school history teacher who pays special attention to children\’s learning and education. She is also proud of her son in life and does her best to meet her son\’s needs. Wu Xieyu was admitted to Peking University with excellent results. He was a top student every year and received a scholarship from the school. After graduation, Wu Xieyu also entered his mother\’s workplace to work. Perhaps his mother placed too many expectations on him, gave the best to her children, and lived for her children for a long time, but was eventually killed by her children. Many people may say that this child is a white-eyed wolf. In fact, parents are a mirror of their children. Parents give their children material things, but do not give them spiritual things. He is a poor child. If a child is mentally deficient, he will constantly ask for material things from his parents. Once his parents are unable to satisfy him, he will resent his parents and take drastic actions. I have a classmate in college who spends money lavishly and often invites classmates to dinner. The place he visited most during the four years of college was the Internet cafe. We always thought that his family was well-off, until one day his parents came to see him at school, and we learned that his father worked on a construction site, his mother worked as a nanny in other people\’s homes, and his sister worked in a factory. The salary of three people keepLive as a college student. During his four years in college, he didn\’t have enough money to spend, so he took out an online loan but couldn\’t pay it back, so he asked his family for help. His parents held handbags from the 1980s, filled with crumpled money, which they had saved from selling paper boxes and plastic bottles and being reluctant to deposit them in the bank after their salary was paid. His parents gave him all their hard-earned money, and after repaying the loan, he turned around and went to the Internet cafe. His parents kept saying that they did not ask for anything in return, and they willingly hoped to cultivate their son into an adult. They think that to give their children the best material life, as long as they study well, it is enough. Because their parents’ understanding of education is too narrow, they eventually raise their children to be heartless white-eyed wolves. There is a phenomenon: American children used to ask their rich dad, Dad, is our family rich? America’s rich dad said, I am rich, but you are not. Chinese children ask their rich dad, Dad, is our family rich? The rich Chinese dad said, yes, after dad dies, the money will be yours. Nowadays, children from ordinary families ask their father, Dad, is our family rich? A father from an ordinary family said, \”Our family\’s economic conditions are average, but my father will give you the best education.\” A child from a poor family asked his father, Dad, is our family rich? The poor dad replied, our family is very poor, but no matter how poor we are, we can\’t afford education. Even if we sell everything, we still have to enroll you in interest classes, so we can\’t lag behind others. The brother of a colleague of mine and his family are farmers, and they make a living by farming to support their son in college. They are only responsible for the tuition fees, and the son earns his own living expenses. The boy is quite impressive. He worked many jobs during his four years in college, including distributing flyers, selling cold drinks, working as an hourly waiter, and a supermarket promoter. In short, he did all the jobs that could earn him tuition. His writing is very good, and coupled with the accumulation of work during college, he worked hard to start his own business and established himself in the media industry. His annual income is millions. He bought a house and brought his old man to enjoy family happiness in Beijing. After he got married, when his wife was doting on the children, he said: Although my parents are farmers, they taught me to be self-reliant and not to use ism. We should also let our children learn to go out on their own, even if they fall down and dust themselves off, they will remember it next time. There was a popular education slogan in the 1980s: No matter how hard it is, we can’t hurt our children; no matter how poor we are, we can’t afford education. This means that parents should not let their children drop out of school easily, and they must provide for their children to go to school no matter how poor they are. Times are changing. Today\’s children don\’t have to worry about not studying. They just need to study hard. As long as they do well in the exam, they will be rewarded with various material rewards, such as Apple 7, tablet computers, overseas travel, etc. Today\’s children will play various computer games when they are seven or eight years old. My colleague Xiaoli said that she specially teaches her children to play computer games. If she does not let her children play, they will not have a common language with other children and will be easily isolated. . Children gradually become the authority in the family, they can command their grandparents, and they can call the wind and rain. All people tighten their belts and do not hesitate to buy expensive tickets to the Science and Technology Exhibition Center or accompany them to Disneyland just to broaden their children\’s horizons. Some people say that the financial strength of parents determines the future of their children. If parents are low-income people and their lives are difficult, there is no need to talk about financial strength. Is it possible for such a family toDo you want to pretend to be fat and support your child\’s future? Does Li Shuangjiang have money? He can give his children the best life and the best education, and is never willing to lay a finger on the children. He always discusses problems with the children, but he does not really get into the children\’s hearts and ignores them more and more. In the spiritual world, material abundance but spiritual poverty lead to crime. He gave what he thought was the best love to his child, but in the end he destroyed the child. The child became lawless, sentenced for gang rape, and his life was ruined. In education, whether you are raised poor or rich, the main thing is the mentality of the parents, which is the spiritual soil you give your children. I hope everyone can understand clearly that parents are a big tree and children are the fruits on the tree. What you have to irrigate is the big tree, rather than desperately caring for the fruits. The stronger the tree is, the better its fruit will be. The best education is for parents to set an example. How you conduct yourself, how you treat others, be filial to your parents, love learning and love working, he will be like you. If you are rich in material things, don’t think you are rich; if you are living in poverty, don’t be greedy for wealth and feel inferior. Otherwise, regardless of whether the family is poor or rich, the same mentality of hating the poor and loving the rich will develop. The cultivation of parents determines the level of their children, because parents are a mirror of their children, and the behavior of their children reflects the cultivation of their parents. Therefore, parents should cultivate themselves first, and then discipline their children.