The daughter threw the watermelon seeds on the floor, but the mother actually chose to do this…

On May Day, I made an appointment with Youmei to play in INDIGO. When we arrived, Youma and Youmei bought watermelon and cantaloupe at the supermarket and were waiting for us at the juice station. In the end, Youmei chose to eat watermelon, and classmate Zhe ate cantaloupe. Before eating the watermelon, Youmei said that the spitted watermelon seeds should be placed on the table. Youmei, who was in the rebellious stage, deliberately spit out the watermelon seeds on the ground and looked at her mother\’s face while vomiting. Youma was neither angry nor yelling, she just watched her finish eating and clear the table. The next program is to take two children to play with mud and sand. The two little friends happily took their tools and were ready to set off. Youyou\’s mother grabbed Youmei, pointed to the watermelon seeds on the ground, and said calmly: \”Did you get the watermelon seeds on the ground?\” Youyou looked at her mother, nodded, and said: \”I\’m sorry, I won\’t do it next time.\” I did it.\” Usually, parents will feel that their children have realized their mistakes at this time, and the matter is over, and then they will do it themselves, clean up, and quickly go to play with other things – there is no need to compete with their children! But Youyou\’s mother did something that I thought was very good: \”Should I pick up the garbage I threw away by myself?\” Then she turned to our family of three and said: \”Please go play first, Youyou has finished cleaning up the floor.\” I\’ll find you some watermelon seeds later.\” Youmei muttered: \”I want to play in the sand quickly.\” Seeing her mother\’s firm attitude, she reluctantly took a tissue and squatted down with clumsy movements. I picked up nearly twenty watermelon seeds one by one. Your dad and your mom are waiting patiently next to you – mom and dad have told you the correct way to place watermelon seeds. If you do something wrong, you will have to bear the consequences yourself. Only by experiencing the bad things personally The consequences of behavior will make similar mistakes less frequent or no longer. Last weekend, classmate Zhe went to Shunyi for an outing with some of his childhood friends, and they had a lot of fun most of the day. At around four o\’clock in the afternoon, the tired friends started playing house in the tent. Several of us mothers gathered together to chat, and suddenly we heard the cry of little Pudding: \”Mom, Zhe Zhe hit me…\” It turned out that the little friends all wanted to control whether the tent door was open or closed. Classmate Zhe and Xiao Pudding had different opinions. As soon as one zipped up the zipper, the other unzipped it firmly. After a back and forth, the impatient Zhe directly slapped Pudding on the head. I hurried over, severely criticized classmate Zhe, asked him to apologize to Pudding, and told him that if he made a similar mistake again, he could no longer stay in the tent – group activities should be based on not affecting others. As a result, within five minutes, the tent began to shake violently, and then came the shouts of three other children: Zhezhe is shaking the tent… Zhezhe, go out… This time, I rushed over, opened the tent door, and pressed the button. The predetermined result was to carry Mr. Zhe away from the scene. After that, classmate Zhe stepped on the water boredly for a while, then played with a water gun for a while, and finally came to the sand where Pudding and two other little friends were building a castle. After going around twice, classmate Zhe mustered up the courage to ask: \”Pudding, can I play with you?\” Pudding replied: \”No! I don\’t want to play with you!\” The other two small basinsThe friend then said: \”I don\’t want to play with you, you just made pudding!\” Classmate Zhe was very disappointed. He wanted to cry, but he held back the tears – no matter what age group, isolation is very harmful to children. force. Pudding\’s mother felt sorry for classmate Zhe. She ran over to persuade Pudding and other children to accept Zhe Zhe\’s joining, but failed. As a mother, I also feel sorry for my child, and I am more aware that similar things are inevitable as he grows up. Only if he understands the principle of \”being friendly to others, others will be friendly to you\” can he learn to restrain himself and be friendly to them. get along. I took classmate Zhe away from the scene, first gave him a hug, and then asked him if he was sad or sad? He nodded, then cried. When he was emotionally stable, I asked him to sit on my knees and retell the mistakes he had just made: making pudding and shaking the tent, and asked him if it was because he hurt others first that others treated him this way? Now that the mother is willing to think with him about how to make up for his mistakes, the child can accept him again. He thought for a while and said, \”I told Pudding never to hit him again, and I also shared my favorite sushi with him, okay?\” I accompanied him to apologize again. This time, all three friends forgave him, and within a few minutes, the children were playing together again. As children grow up, everyone will make similar mistakes, encounter similar punishments, and eventually understand the consequences of their actions. No matter how unbearable the consequences are, they must face them bravely. If children cannot learn to take responsibility for their own actions when they are young, they may not only become self-centered and avoid failure when they grow up, but may also become a person with no sense of responsibility. When I took a taxi a few days ago, the driver was very chatty. When he talked about his cousin, he was very emotional and hated the fact that iron cannot be transformed into steel. His aunt only gave birth to her cousin when she was 35 years old, and she had been pampered and raised him since childhood: when he hit someone in elementary school, his parents would deal with it and then criticize him for a few words; after graduating from middle school, he did not go to college, so he spent money to go to a private school; after graduation, he worked It was difficult to find a job, so I found a connection and found a job in a company. After working for only two years, I felt so stressed that I resigned willfully. Now I have been idle at home for half a year. The 26-year-old young man spends all day watching TV dramas and playing games. His parents are not thinking about how to help him learn to be independent, but are worried about how to help him find a stress-free and stable class to attend… Such a boy, even if he gets married, will not learn how to take care of himself in a short time. What do small families do? After all, he himself is still attached to his parents. And the seemingly meticulous care of his parents directly destroyed this child. For older children, the first step in learning to take responsibility is when they don’t eat well and have to wait hungry until the next meal; when they litter, insist on them picking it up and putting it in the trash can; When toys are scattered all over the floor, we must send our toy friends home in person; when they hurt other children, we must be prepared to lose our good friends… No matter how much we love our children, we cannot protect them for the rest of our lives. As children grow up and learn to bear the consequences of their actions, they will learn to socialize, understand empathy, improve their reverse quotient, and become people who are responsible for themselves and have the courage to take responsibility.