The Devil Boy of Nezha comes to the world: Among the three levels of parenthood, which level are you at?

The most popular movie this summer is none other than \”The Devil Boy of Nezha\”. He changed his appearance from the innocent kid who had two huge hairdos in 1979 to this dark boy with side bangs, balsam pear face, smoky eyes, gaping teeth, and an evil look on his face. He conquered the hearts of thousands of viewers as soon as he appeared on the stage. Leaving aside the old cliches of father and son breaking up, falling in love and killing each other, this version of \”Nezha\” does not have the brutal plot of removing bones to return to father, or cutting off flesh to return to mother. Li Jing, the King of Pagoda, is not the scumbag father who used the \”gift of childbearing\” to kidnap and extort, and used the excuse of \”rebellious son and unfilial piety\” to kill his own son. Mrs. Yin, a heroic female general, sheds the label of blindly doting on her son and becomes a model of \”gentle yet firm\”. Li Jing and his wife, who have not changed since the past, were reborn, and little Nezha was also reborn because of love. We always discuss the topic of \”how to be parents\”. In fact, in this drama, Li Jing and Mrs. Yin have already written the answer. Accept. In 1979, Nezha was in trouble, but in 2019, Nezha stopped making trouble and started to lose his temper. Mrs. Yin was pregnant for three years, and Nezha was born as a demon. He was looked down upon by the world and shunned by everyone. He wanted to be friends with his peers, but was bullied all the time. Nezha\’s character gradually became naughty and rebellious. Walking carelessly, biting straw and paralyzing society, causing chaos in the village. He even crossed his legs very passively and groaned: \”I am a little monster, carefree and at ease. I kill people without blinking an eye and eat people without adding salt.\” When everyone stood on the opposite side of the world, only the Lis and his wife were always on the same page. Nezha is on the same side. Everyone said that Nezha was a monster and must die, but Mrs. Yin did not deny or reject Nezha. She just hugged Nezha tightly like coaxing an ordinary child and told him: \”Don\’t be afraid.\” When Taiyi Zhenren and the villagers chased him, When Nezha asked Li Jing to execute the \”devil boy\”, he knelt down and begged for mercy for his son: \”Li Jing\’s family is unfortunate. He will strictly discipline this child in the future. All his faults will be borne by me alone.\” Li Jing and his wife sincerely said With Nezha\’s acceptance, Nezha\’s demonic nature gradually dissipated. He voluntarily put on the Qiankun Circle and was willing to devote himself to practice in the Mountains and Rivers Society Map and learn to control his temper. Writer Hou Ruihe once said in a book that acceptance is the most effective discipline for children. However, acceptance is not so easy to achieve. The vast majority of parents feel that their children have a lot of problems. They are picky eaters, naughty, have inadequate grades, and have unpleasant personalities… Very few can give their children full marks. Just like the villagers in the movie, they regard children as monsters full of flaws and want to put them in a cage, hoping that once they are tamed, all the monsters will be rubbed away. But the so-called \”shortcomings\” in children, those traits that parents don\’t like, are actually their most valuable assets, but the degree of expression is a bit too strong. This is just like when you listen to music and the volume is turned up too high, you will always feel uncomfortable. When you accept these characteristics of your child and use appropriate methods to help him turn down the \”volume\”, you will find that what he is actually playing is a beautiful nursery rhyme. Flames can burn people, but they can also warm people. Parents\’ attitude is the switch. Just like Li Jing and Mrs. Yin, they accepted Nezha\’s own characteristics and took care of him. In the end, Nezha was able to break through the shackles of his life experience and achieve nirvana and rebirth. There are never perfect children in this world. trust. The naughty Nezha likes to do mischiefDrama, but never hurt anyone. The most impressive scene was when he went to rescue the little girl kidnapped by Haiyaksha. He chased after him several times, fought desperately with the sea monster, and rescued the little girl, but no one believed him, and he was misunderstood by the villagers as a monster that captured girls. Nezha was so disheartened that he had no food or water for three days. In the past three days, Li Jing always believed in Nezha, investigated everywhere, and finally discovered the remaining slime of the sea monster. Together, Li and his wife explained Haiyaksha\’s identity, habits, and attack methods to Nezha in detail, and expressed their attitude to Nezha: We believe in you. Nezha, who gained trust, regained his strength, walked away from resentment, and returned to kindness. Looking at it this way, it actually looks very similar to the story behind \”The Birth of Nezha: The Devil Boy\”. Director Yang Yu (Dumpling) was born into a family of doctors. He studied at the School of Pharmacy at West China University of Medical Sciences, but during his junior year, he suddenly wanted to do animation. At that time, everyone was doubting Yang Yu\’s decision. \”Did you have water in your head?\” \”You\’re a good doctor, why are you doing animation?\” \”Stop, you\’re not that material.\” The only ones who believed Yang Yu could succeed were his parents. They bought Yang Yu a computer with good configuration and said, \”You can learn to try it first.\” Yang Yu wanted to resign and concentrate on animation, but there was a lot of opposition. His parents\’ position remained firm: \”Son, I believe in you. If you want to resign, just resign.\” Animation is very expensive, Yang Yu spent all his savings, and everyone was waiting to see his jokes. Only his parents firmly supported him: \”We believe you can do it.\” After several years of sharpening his sword, he finally produced \”Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes into the World\”, which has exploded in reputation. With a Douban score of 8.7, Little Devil Boy has become the highest-rated domestic animated film in the past 30 years, with a box office of over 2 billion, making it a real shining star of Chinese animation. Writer Chen Danqing said: \”The ultimate goal of education is not to teach people what they already know, but to induce people\’s creative power and awaken their sense of life and value. Once children gain more trust and expectations, their inner motivation will increase. They will be stimulated and become smarter, more capable, and more savvy.\” Stereotypes can destroy a child. Parents\’ sincere trust can help their children change their lives and create miracles. Moderate expectations. Nezha is the magic pill and Ao Bing is the spiritual pearl. Ao Bing is the only son of the Dragon King and the hope of the entire Dragon Clan. In the battle of Chentangguan, the Dragon King led the entire dragon clan, pulled out the hardest dragon scales on his body, and made an indestructible ten thousand dragon armor for Ao Bing. The premise is: \”Son, you must not disappoint my expectations, and you must save the entire dragon clan!\” The Dragon King was in purgatory, so he forced his belief in \”escaping from purgatory\” on Ao Bing, who was reincarnated by the spirit bead. This Ten Thousand Dragon Armor was said to be an armor that kept him safe, but it was also a prison that made Ao Bing unable to breathe. He never cared about what Ao Bing wanted. Does this sound like some parents in real life? I did not go to a prestigious university, but I tied my dreams of 211, 985, and Cambridge to my children. I didn\’t become an artist, so I forced my children to practice piano three days and paint four days, seven days a week. If you can\’t count on yourself, then count on your children. Yu Minhong said that this is actually not an expectation, but a compulsion. The parents were very cruel and stuffed the child into a jar to grow up according to the parents\’ requirements. Think of a story. haveA famous physicist was chatting with a friend he met for the first time. A friend asked: \”Is your son also a physics genius?\” The physicist said: \”He is just a laid-back gentleman.\” The friend was very surprised: \”It\’s incredible that you have made such great achievements but your child is so ordinary. You should let your child inherit Your career.\” The physicist was a little angry: \”Why must he inherit my career? My child can live however he likes. He doesn\’t have to work hard to win glory for me. He can completely rely on himself. Earn glory. My only hope for my son is that he live a happy life.\” Happiness ends in moderation and reservation. This also applies in the process of raising children. High standards, strict requirements, right and wrong, and moderate expectations can help children find their direction and stimulate their potential, but excessive expectations will definitely affect a child\’s development and growth. In the end, Ao Bing turned from good to evil and diverted seawater to bury him alive in Chentangguan, which explains everything. ▽If we divide parents into different levels. Parents at the bottom only provide material satisfaction to their children. Money is everything, and they have no time to think about their children\’s future. Parents in the middle class hope that their children will be well and are busy planning the best and safest path for their children. Like Ao Bing, who is burdened with the expectations of the whole family, he cannot live his life. Parents at the highest level can \”see\” their child\’s needs, support him, encourage him, trust him, and grow with him in his own time zone, unhurriedly. What floor are you on? What children need most is their parents’ acceptance, understanding, sufficient love, and moderate expectations. And Li Jing and Mrs. Yin did all this. Raising children is actually growing yourself, this is absolutely true. And I also hope that you can climb up the stairs, one level at a time.