Last month, I took Lele to swim. After Lele completed a series of warm-up exercises before swimming in an orderly manner, he was ready to enter the water. At this time, a boy in the swimming pool was making mischief while diving, shooting water splashes everywhere. Other children who wanted to swim had to stop and frowned to warn him. But he remained unmoved, and his wild movements became even wider. What a naughty kid! Later, the lifeguard came to reprimand him and ordered him to leave. The naughty child ignored the lifeguard at first and refused to leave. In the end, the lifeguard evicted him and his mother directly. The superficial reason for being expelled is of course the naughty child\’s recklessness and non-compliance with the rules. In fact, the underlying reason is the child\’s mother\’s lack of control. Looking deeper, the child\’s brutal behavior is so natural, casual, and arrogant. It can be seen that this is not a spur of the moment, but a daily behavior. This kind of habitual bad behavior is not the result of one day, but the consequences that accumulate over time. When a child\’s behavior \”goes off the rails\” while growing up, the responsibility of course belongs to the guardian, that is, the parents. This naughty child became like this because of his parents\’ indulgence. Children\’s behavior reflects their parents\’ educational philosophy and level. Only low-level educational concepts can create such arrogant and unruly savage children. Low-level educational concepts come from lack of education. I saw a message from a netizen on Weibo. On a plane flying from Beijing to Osaka, Japan, a pair of parents and two little girls sat in front of the netizen. They all communicated in English. They must be Chinese. Mom and dad were reading some professional books in their hands. They were probably senior engineers or intellectuals. Such parents with high-level status should be highly qualified, and their children should also be well-educated. However, during the whole process, the two children were very noisy and kept chatting in English. Even wearing earphones was useless. At first, their mother turned around to signal to stop the noise, but then she didn\’t care at all. These two children affected the rest of the passengers in the entire cabin. Finally, a passenger couldn\’t bear it anymore and reported the incident to the flight attendant. The \”bear behavior\” was finally terminated with the flight attendant\’s warning. Having highly educated parents does not mean that their educational philosophy is also high-level, and being highly educated does not mean that they are well-educated. In education, the indulgence of children is a lack of education, and this lack of education will one day take revenge on the children. The recent popular incident that has attracted global attention, the story of a Chinese couple and their 6-year-old son, is a typical example of lack of education. A family of three went to Los Angeles for vacation. After boarding the plane, the father took his child and sat on one side with a Japanese-Chinese brother. The child was next to the brother, and the mother sat alone on the other side… Since the plane took off, The child never stopped harassing his little brother. Not only was he fidgeting, but he was also chirping; not only was he chirping, but he was jumping up and down; not only was he jumping up and down, but he was also punching and kicking the little brother. After taking several deep breaths to be calm and tolerant, the little brother politely asked the child\’s father if he could discipline the child, but was ignored by the child\’s father. So after three hours of being \”human sandbags\”, this little brother finally couldn\’t bear it anymore and cursed the parents of the naughty children… What he didn\’t expect was that the parents of the bears…The reaction was even more intense than that of the \”sandbag boy\”. With his 6-year-old son in the middle, Father Bear grabbed his neck and started fighting. It wasn\’t until the flight attendant arrived that they separated the two people and moved the father and son\’s seats to the front row. The matter so far is just a basic case of a naughty child and his naughty parents. I believe this kind of thing is not uncommon for everyone. But the ending of the matter was beyond our imagination… After the plane landed, a huge lineup greeted the naughty family. Waiting at the exit of the plane were more than 20 law enforcement officers from the FBI (equivalent to my country\’s Ministry of National Security), airport security, and border security. . In other words, with this lineup of law enforcement officers, it is more than enough to catch a national-level criminal. It turned out that after the physical conflict occurred on the plane, the crew reported the situation to the staff of Los Angeles International Airport on the grounds that it \”threatened the lives of all passengers on the plane.\” Airport staff immediately notified the FBI. After the plane arrived in Los Angeles, all passengers were asked not to leave their seats until the two parties involved in the conflict were taken away by the police. Naughty children who are never disrespectful at home are always full of strangers who will take action on behalf of inactive parents when they go out. The \”trivial things about naughty children\” that have long been common in China become serious cases at the airport in the blink of an eye. After investigation, it was found that because the naughty boy\’s father was the first to hit someone, the U.S. Customs refused the naughty boy\’s family entry for intentional injury and deported the family of three in the early morning of the next day. Regarding the possible consequences of being deported, this parent will be stained by their departure, and they may not be able to fly to another country in their lifetime. Their children may also be stained and lose the opportunity to study or work abroad, and this stain may stay with them throughout their lives. People often easily forgive children crying due to their fragile constitution and emotional sensitivity, but it is difficult to tolerate a half-year-old child constantly making noises, fighting, jumping up and down, and even punching and kicking strangers in public places. The former is the child\’s nature, and the latter is the lack of education caused by parents without guidance or control. Behind every confident child, there is mostly an unreasonable parent. Therefore, if naughty children are a pool of sewage, then bear parents are the undoubted source of sewage. Things in the news seem a bit far away from us, but in fact, news things are also things around us. That day I returned to my hometown where I grew up to attend a wedding event, and a middle-aged man called me out among a group of people. I took a closer look and found out that it was the villager who had been sentenced to life imprisonment for committing a murder. I muttered in my heart, isn’t it a life sentence? Why did I get out? Later, my mother told me that he had terminal liver cancer and could be paroled. I feel very sad, and I think of his brother, who is still in prison. The two brothers committed murder at the same time. After being arrested, they were initially sentenced to death, but later they were sentenced to life imprisonment. There is a cause for such an effect. Their parents, a fierce couple, were stingy, insidious, and unreasonable. He often competes with villagers for land. He will fight with villagers because of a small tree. He will also pay double compensation by destroying crops from his family\’s fields because other villagers accidentally got them. themThey do things that are unreasonable and unforgiving and benefit themselves at the expense of others. This kind of uneducated behavior affects their children. The saddest thing is that the uneducated parents and lack of kindness have created a miserable life for their offspring. Their two sons also adhered to their mentality of \”whatever they grab is mine.\” The two sons are good-looking, but there is always a fierceness hidden between their eyebrows. Since childhood, they have been domineering in the village, and other children are afraid of them when they see them. When I grew up, because I didn\’t read much, I could only work outside at construction sites or factories. When I didn\’t have any work, I would idle at home, brag and gamble. Finally one year, something happened to the two brothers. His brother had an argument with someone at the construction site. It was originally a trivial matter, and his brother was not on his side. However, because of his barbaric habits, he had no respect for anyone or anything in his heart, and had no sense of \”enough is enough.\” So they violently beat the migrant workers to death, and then robbed them of their belongings and fled back to their hometowns. The legal net is wide open, sparse and not leaking. After the brothers stayed safely at home for two years, they thought they were fine and wanted to go out to work again, but they were caught before they could go through customs. Parents are their children\’s umbrellas, their children\’s big trees, their children\’s protective walls, and their children\’s direction signs. Children grow up like their parents. If the parents are not well-educated, the children will lack upbringing, and the lost upbringing will be regained in the children in another way. Cause and effect reciprocate, cause and effect circulate. Sow good causes and reap good results. Plant evil causes and reap evil consequences. As parents, we should have a sense of reverence when facing our children, because children are the fruit of our lives. We should not become extremely barbaric, lose our fundamentals as a human being, and lack the education of a human being because of the shortcomings we face. The moment you act wildly in front of your children, you lay the seeds of evil causes, but the consequences will not be there until your children taste them. It will eventually take revenge on you severely through this kind of causal cycle of heaven!
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