The eight house rules this mother established after school started have gone viral on WeChat Moments

Some time ago, school started for the mythical beasts who had been having fun all summer. However, many parents have found that their children are suffering from \”vacation sequelae\”: they don\’t sleep at night, doze off in class, think about playing with mobile phones all day long, and can\’t read a word in the textbook… So, everything goes wrong Jumping has become the norm for many families. But my friend Ajin’s family has a completely different style: after school every day, the children will do homework, practice calligraphy, and exercise step by step without being urged by their parents; on weekends, the family will not play with their mobile phones by themselves. Instead, read and chat together. Once, I sighed with envy: \”Ajin, your family has such a good atmosphere and your son is so self-disciplined. He really won a special prize.\” Unexpectedly, Ajin smiled and said, \”Have you ever heard of the educator Wu A famous saying of Shinsky? If you develop good habits, you will never be able to enjoy the interest it brings you throughout your life. If you develop bad habits, you will have to repay endless debts throughout your life. So, from a few Since two years ago, I have set 8 house rules for the whole family. It is these 8 house rules that have made the children more and more self-disciplined and made our family more and more harmonious.\” Today, I came to her specifically. I’m going to share these 8 house rules with you. I hope we can all benefit from them. 1. The whole family gets up at six o\’clock every day to read in the morning. Many parents always complain that their children are out of shape after school starts, lazy, dilly-dally, and have poor habits… But they forget that they can\’t get out of bed in the morning and have to be late before going out in a hurry. They can\’t finish reading all year round. It is difficult for a bookish parent to raise self-disciplined children. I once saw a video like this: No matter how late he slept the day before, a father would get up on time at 6 o\’clock the next day to read with his daughter in the morning. After returning home in the evening, he did not watch TV or play with his mobile phone. Instead, he practiced calligraphy with several children: the eldest daughter wrote the De Jing, the second daughter wrote the Thousand-Character Classic, the younger daughter wrote the Three-Character Classic, and the youngest son practiced penmanship… …Day after day, the scores of several children have been among the best in the class. As the saying goes, the day\’s plan begins in the morning. Studies have shown that people have better memory in the early morning. Getting up early to read can not only memorize all the knowledge points without realizing it, but also improve your memory. Persist in getting up early with your children, cheer up in the morning light, and find motivation in the sound of books, which is better than ten thousand words of truth. 2 Hotels are not their own business. Former US President Obama mentioned in an interview that his parenting experience can be summed up in only six words: set rules and give love. Among the nine house rules he formulated, four are about housework, namely: 1. You must make the bed, not just to look tidy; 2. Do your own things, such as making cereal or pouring milk by yourself. Fold the quilt, set your own alarm clock, get up and get dressed by yourself; 3. Keep the toy room clean; 4. Help parents share housework, $1 per week. Sometimes, daily necessities are also a form of spiritual practice. Hidden in those seemingly trivial household chores is the code for a child\’s growth. Educationalist Suhomlinsky also emphasized: \”Labor plays an extremely important role in intellectual education, and children\’s wisdom is at the tip of their hands.\” Therefore, in daily life, parents, especially fathers, must Lead by example and encourage children toDo your own thing. While helping children acquire life skills, it can also enhance their sense of responsibility. 3. Before entering the house, dust yourself off. There is a famous \”kicking cat effect\” in psychology: A father was criticized by his boss at the company. When he came home, he was in a bad mood and saw his child on the sofa. Jumping up and down, he got angry and scolded the child. The child felt aggrieved, turned around and kicked the napping cat next to him. The cat fled out of the house in a hurry, and just as a truck was approaching, the driver hurriedly avoided it, but hit the child on the roadside… Many times, bad emotions are contagious. Especially in the family unit, it always spreads from the top of the pyramid to the lowest level. Children are often the lowest victims. When parents bring emotional garbage home, it is like poisoning their children\’s immature minds. No matter how much money or material they compensate in the future, it will not help. So starting from today, don’t forget to remind yourself before entering the door: remember to dust yourself off, throw away your bad temper, and bring back a good mood. It won’t be long before you start to notice fewer arguments at home and more smiles on your children’s faces. 4. Electronic products are not allowed to be brought into the bedroom. During a street survey, a reporter asked several primary school students: \”What is the first thing your parents do when they get home?\” Unexpectedly, the answers of several children were surprisingly consistent: playing with mobile phones. Play while eating, play while going to the toilet, play while sleeping, even when you are doing homework, your parents are still listening to songs and watching short videos… In fact, a bedroom full of books is A hotbed for cultivating top academics. The parents of top academic Dong Jiyang never forced her to study. When they found that their daughter did not want to study, they quietly turned off the TV and read with her daughter. That\’s why Dong Jiyang ranked first in the province in both the middle school and college entrance examinations; Wu Yishu\’s parents gave up all kinds of entertainment activities since their daughter was in elementary school. They interpret classics and play Solitaire poetry with their daughter every day. That\’s why Wu Yishu won the championship in the \”Chinese Poetry Conference\” and was admitted to Tsinghua University with high scores. If parents want to control their children, they must first control themselves. On weekdays, do not bring electronic products into the bedroom and only use the bedroom as a place for reading and resting. 5 Exercise for half an hour every day. Teacher Yang Xia, a psychology expert at Peking Union Medical College, has treated more than 100,000 problem children in the past 30 years. The results found that many children have poor concentration, procrastination, and serious boredom in learning. , the core reason is the lack of exercise and labor. Teacher Yang Xia\’s son was like this when he was a child. He is naturally sensitive, easily distracted, and has poor coordination. However, Teacher Yang Xia did not rush to enroll her son in any cram school. Instead, she took her son hiking around since he was 4 years old. Later, he often hiked with his son. Years later, his son has become a graduate student at the University of Chicago. Therefore, no matter how busy they are at work, parents should not ignore the importance of taking their children to exercise together. For children in primary school, parents can go out for running, swimming, or engage in some simple confrontational sports, such as playing table tennis, badminton, etc.; for children in middle school and high school, parents can Enough choices for children’s interests and hobbiesBall, basketball, swimming, etc. 6 Never settle old scores at any time In the TV series \”Youth Pi\”, there is an impressive plot: Once, the father Lin Dawei took it upon himself to buy a bicycle for his daughter. Wang Shengnan, the mother, was worried that it was unsafe for her daughter to ride a bicycle and blamed her husband for making decisions without consulting her. Originally the core of the dispute was the bicycle, but unknowingly, both of them began to settle old scores: Wang Shengnan accused Lin Dawei: \”Squeezing toothpaste from the middle, wearing socks for several days without changing them, not folding the quilt when getting up, eating Love your mouth…\” Not to be outdone, Lin Dawei counterattacked: \”For the sake of the children, I have endured your bad temper again and again, and I will accommodate you in everything.\” It was obviously a trivial matter, but because the two of them continued Old scores were being cleared, and each other became increasingly angry. The originally harmonious family actually reached the point of divorce. In fact, if you calm down and think about it, you will know: life is not a debate competition, where you have to fight over who is right and who is wrong, and the family is not an arena, where there is no need to distinguish between superior and inferior. If you don\’t hold up overnight grudges and settle old scores, your family will be harmonious and your children will be happy. 7. Apologize if you do something wrong. Writer Mark Twain has a family rule: if someone makes a mistake, he must be punished accordingly. As for the method of punishment, it can be proposed by the offender himself and implemented with the consent of the whole family. One day, Mark Twain and his wife were preparing to take their children on a trip to a nearby farm. Unexpectedly, before departure, the eldest daughter had a quarrel with her younger sister and beat her. The eldest daughter quickly realized her impulse and took the initiative to admit her mistake to her parents. According to family rules, the eldest daughter must accept punishment. After hesitating for a long time, she finally firmly stated that in order to express her apology, she would stay at home today and not go on the long-awaited trip. Mark Twain felt sorry for his eldest daughter and advised her to change her ways. But the eldest daughter said: \”I must be responsible for my own actions. In this way, I can always remember my mistakes.\” It is inevitable that people will have stumbling blocks when they are together. Teach children to apologize promptly when they do something wrong and communicate effectively with others, so that children can become responsible and popular people in the future. 8 Have regular family meetings? Have you ever encountered such a situation? Sometimes, children always have an aloof attitude towards their own affairs. Even if their parents are so angry, the children still remain indifferent? The book \”Positive Discipline\” mentions such a story: For a while, Dr. Jane Nelson\’s children were always throwing their toys everywhere. Even if the doctor gives repeated orders, the children still go their own way. There was no other way, so the doctor decided to hold a family meeting to see if they could discuss a solution together. Unexpectedly, after the meeting, the children were happy to accept the rules formulated after democratic discussions, and not only restrained themselves, but also monitored others. On weekdays, we can also hold regular family meetings to discuss and solve problems with our children. When children set rules and implement them conscientiously, parents must not be stingy with their encouragement. After all, respect and encouragement are the greatest help for children on their way forward. 9 The book \”Rules and Love\” writes: \”Growing up in a love without rules, children lose their gratitude;Growing up without rules and love, children learn to feel inferior; growing up without rules and love, children lose awe; growing up with rules and love, children learn humility and self-confidence. \”For a family, rules are like a beacon. They can illuminate the way for children to move forward and lead them to a brighter future. In the process of enforcing the rules, what parents have to do is to accompany them attentively and do a good job. Be a role model and be responsible to the end. Like it. I hope that in the new semester, our children will be free because of self-discipline.