The essence of Sun Yunxiao’s education is life education. Only by changing yourself can you change your children.

\”Life\” appears eight times in total in the Family Education Promotion Law. Except for two basic living conditions concerns, the others are closely related to the content and methods of education. Today, we will provide a detailed interpretation of the Family Education Promotion Law around the theme of \”life\”. Improve life skills and benefit children for life. Regarding the definition of family education, the Family Education Promotion Law mentions that \”life skills\” education, guidance and influence should be implemented on children. In other words, \”life skills\” are listed as the core content of family education. However, in real life, too many parents ignore this. Some parents think it is unnecessary. The most important task for their children is to study, and learning life skills will only waste time. Some parents are worried about the danger and feel that doing these things will cause harm to their children and cause trouble to themselves. As a result, we often see scenes like this: all the homework assigned to the children is done by the parents, and they fool the teacher with the children; all the housework that is clearly the responsibility of all family members is done by the adults. , the child just needs to sit back and enjoy the results. What happened to all the time and energy saved by working together as a family? It is all used for children to study and answer questions. They think that getting good grades and getting into a good school will determine their children\’s destiny and give them a good future. As everyone knows, this is a very utilitarian education, and its educational effect is worrying. Will labor really delay learning? In 2014, the Chinese Academy of Education Sciences released the \”Survey on the Current Situation of Family Education of Primary School Students\”, which included this set of data: Among families who believe that \”children should do some housework\”, the proportion of children with excellent grades is 86.92%, while those who believe that \”as long as they study well\” Among families whose children can do housework or not, the proportion of children with excellent grades is only 3.17%. It can be seen that improving life skills will not affect learning, but can promote learning and contribute to the overall development of children. In order to further promote the implementation of labor education, in May, the Ministry of Education issued the \”Compulsory Education Curriculum Plan\”. Starting from the fall of 2022, labor courses will officially become an independent course in primary and secondary schools. At the same time, the \”Compulsory Education Labor Curriculum Standards\” were released ( 2022 Edition)\”, which stipulates in detail the learning goals for different stages from grades 1 to 9, requiring students to master life skills such as cooking and repairing electrical appliances. The school is responsible for the training, but the real practice must be carried out in the daily life of the family. This requires parents to get rid of the misunderstanding of focusing on knowledge education. In addition to actively cooperating with school education, they must also actively cultivate their children\’s basic life skills such as cooking and laundry in family life, which will benefit their children throughout their lives. After all, a person without life skills cannot survive, let alone live well. Family Education Instructor The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Chinese version e-book + English version pdf + mobi + azw3 Parents are the mainstay and grandparents are the supplementary ones, helping children grow up in the common life. Regarding the main body of family education, the Family Education Promotion Law mentioned that other \”common life ” members must also assist and cooperate. Regarding this provision, we need to understand it in two parts. First of all, the role played by other members of \”living together\” is to assist and cooperate, that is to say, the main body of family education is still parents, and no one else can replace it. On the one hand, parents\’ love gives birth to new life, and new life needs the care and attention of parents most. Parents\’ personal nurturing is most conducive to the growth of children. This is the responsibility of life. On the other hand, children will definitely go into society when they grow up. Whether the children can learn to be a good person or not, parents are the first ones responsible. This is a social responsibility. It is the unshirkable and sacred duty of parents to bear the main responsibility of family education. Therefore, the first of the nine family education methods provided by the Family Education Promotion Law is \”personal parenting and strengthening parent-child companionship.\” Some parents give up their educational responsibilities and directly leave it to the elderly to take care of them. This eventually causes the children to have resentment and lack of affection for their parents, and also causes the children to develop various problems. This is absolutely undesirable. On this basis, other members of \”living together\” have the responsibility and obligation to assist parents in family education. These members include grandparents, grandparents and other relatives and elders who live together. Some people would say, since parents are the first persons responsible, what else should other people do? A necessary condition for good family education is loving family relationships and a rich and colorful family life, which is undoubtedly closely related to all family members living together. What are the values ​​and behaviors of family members who live together, how family members get along with each other, what is their relationship with each other, what kind of family norms and family atmosphere does the whole family have, etc., all of which have a subtle impact on the growth of children. . We say that the best family education is actually the interaction between three generations, with parents as the mainstay and grandparents as the auxiliaries, living together and creating an environment conducive to the growth of children. Develop good living habits and improve independent living abilities. The Family Education Promotion Law specifically mentions that parents or other guardians of minors must guide minors to develop good living habits. This point especially needs the attention of parents. A particularly prominent problem for today\’s children is that they have poor living habits. For example, they cannot cook or wash clothes, and they do not have the most basic common sense of life. Another example is that they do not like to work, are accustomed to opening their mouths when they have clothes to eat, and they are indolent and hate work. They don’t even have the most basic labor literacy; etc. Such children will never grow up. However, in fact, every child longs to grow up and be independent. Why are adolescents rebellious? In fact, it has something to do with wanting to be independent. But why does it backfire? Because a person\’s independence requires conditions. He must be able to take care of himself, know how to live by himself, cook, wash, manage money, get along with others, arrange his own life, etc. If you don’t have it, of course you won’t be independent. What causes many children to not have the ability to be independent? Some parents like to take care of everything and do everything for their children, so the children naturally don\’t have to do it themselves. Some parents do not pay attention to this aspect of education and only focus on learning, leaving their children without opportunities and possibilities for practice. There are also parents who do not set a good example themselves, such as not knowing how to cook and ordering takeout every day; neither of the couple likes to do housework and argue about who does the housework every day, and some rely on spending money to solve all labor problems. Influenced by ears and eyes, children will naturally develop bad living habits. What impact do good or bad habits have on children? In 1995, I chaired a research project on the childhood and education of outstanding young people and conducted a questionnaire survey on 148 outstanding young people. At almost the same time, the journal \”Children\’s Research\” published \”Tragedy Begins from Juvenile – A retrospective investigation into the causes of crime of 115 death row inmates\”. After comparative analysis, we found that the success factors of 148 outstanding young people are closely related to the good habits they developed in childhood: independence and self-reliance, strong will, friendliness and cooperation, distinguishing between right and wrong, choosing good friends, and putting morality first. The reasons for the crimes of the 115 death row inmates are also related to the common habits of their childhood: aversion to learning, rudeness, indolence, desperate pursuit of hegemony, confusion of right and wrong, and confusion of honor and disgrace. The contrast between the two surveys is very clear, enough to make us deeply feel what kind of life creates what kind of life, and what kind of education breeds what kind of personality. So, what should parents do? This involves the other two aspects of \”life\” mentioned in the Family Education Promotion Law: parents or other guardians of minors must help minors improve their ability to take care of themselves and live independently. Parents must first change their concepts and pay attention to it; secondly, they must start from themselves and set a good example; then they must learn to let go, create opportunities for their children to practice, and provide guidance and help to their children when necessary. Bringing education into daily life and returning to the essence of family education. Some parents may say, I also want to educate my children well, but I don’t have a high degree of education and don’t understand education. How can I educate my children? In this regard, the Family Education Promotion Law provides 9 methods, one of which is related to \”life\”: teach through the camera and incorporate education into daily life. Parents should be confident because the essential characteristic of family education is life education, which is why the Family Education Promotion Law talks so much about \”life\”. Without life education, family education ceases to exist. Therefore, life is the most convenient educational resource that parents are most familiar with and best at. As long as parents live seriously and hard, life is full of educational opportunities. For example, when an epidemic comes, you can tell your children what the epidemic is about, what volunteers are like, how to prevent the epidemic, etc. Another example is when an elderly person in the family becomes ill and dies. Many parents will avoid their children. In fact, they should not avoid it. They can tell their children how to face birth, old age, illness and death. Let family education return to life, discover problems in life, and make life better by solving problems.