The fact that children love to \”complain\” is not as bad as you think!

There is a boy named Joe. Joe\’s father said that as long as Joe earns enough 50 yuan, he can go camping. But later Joe\’s father regretted it, and he actually wanted to take the 50 yuan that Joe earned. Then, as smart as Joe, he lied to his father and said that in fact he only earned 10 yuan, so he happily went camping with the remaining 40 yuan. However, before setting off, Joe told his 5-year-old brother about lying to his father. Do you think his brother will complain? This is a classic case that Grandpa Kohlberg likes to use the most. This grandfather has studied one issue throughout his life – moral judgment. On what basis do people make moral judgments? In fact, no matter what zodiac sign or blood type this brother is, he will definitely file a complaint. Why? In the minds of children aged 4 to 10, deciding whether to file a complaint basically depends on two things: anything that leads to punishment is bad and must be reported! If this thing makes someone unhappy, then there is a problem and you need to file a complaint! If you sue your father, your brother will be punished, which means that this matter is not good, sue! If you tell your dad, he will be upset. That means there is something wrong with this matter and you need to sue him! According to this standard, in kindergarten, children will report any behavior that violates the rules and makes the teacher unhappy. This cannot be prevented because it is a necessary stage in a child\’s moral development. However, if every child comes to complain, the teacher\’s daily educational activities may be affected and cannot be carried out smoothly. Therefore, some teachers will adopt a \”blocking\” method to discourage children from complaining, or look down upon children\’s complaining behavior. However, a reality that we can easily ignore is that the best opportunity for education is often when a child complains! Complaints are the best opportunity for regular education in the class. Complaints are often caused by disputes between children. For example, some children will run over and say, \”Teacher, XX and XX are grabbing toys.\” If the teacher does not intervene in time, aggressive behavior among the children is likely to occur. If the teacher listens to the child\’s complaint, he can not only step forward in time to prevent a disaster from happening. Moreover, teachers can also seize this opportunity to conduct regular education. In addition to discussing the incident with the person involved, assuming that the incident will develop into a bad outcome, you can even take out the incident and invite all the children in the class to participate in the discussion. Discussions on specific events are more conducive to children\’s deep understanding of the importance of rules and are conducive to the regular management of the class. Complaints are the best opportunity to encourage children to solve problems on their own. There are a total of 10 cars outside the kindergarten, but every boy wants to play with them. So children kept coming over to complain: \”Teacher, he won\’t let me play with cars.\” At this time, what should the teacher do? The teacher must first clarify the rules that whoever comes first can play first. Then encourage the children to communicate with their peers who are playing with the cars on their own. If communication is ineffective, don’t forget to tell your child some tips for communication. For example, you can ask your child to say: “You arrived first, so you play first. But I also want to play, so you can play for 10 minutes, and then I can play for 10 minutes.” Minutes?\” 80% of children will accept this suggestion. (Because children have a mysteriousRational power) We say that the most important characteristic of a smart child is the ability to solve problems on his own. Children with more knowledge may not necessarily solve problems by themselves. Problem-solving abilities must be improved in real scenarios. The opportunity to complain can not only provide children with the opportunity to solve problems on their own, but also teachers can provide children with strategies to solve problems. When children master the strategies to solve problems on their own, they will solve the problem by themselves next time instead of complaining to the teacher. Complaining is the best opportunity to exercise children\’s language expression skills. Usually, the time when a complaint is needed is an emergency. How to explain the situation to the teacher in an emergency requires solid language skills. In order to let the teacher understand as soon as possible and get help from the teacher, the children will work hard to organize their own language and express boldly and clearly. Therefore, complaining also exercises children\’s language expression skills. There is a poem by Feng Zikai, Zang Laosi\’s favorite, that goes like this: If you love me, you will be lovely everywhere in life. If you are grateful, you can be grateful everywhere. If you grow, everything can grow. The world didn\’t choose you, you chose the world. Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy. Since you didn\’t get what you wanted, it\’s better to be relieved. Since it is a child\’s nature to complain, it is better to face it in a different way. Dear kindergarten teacher, filing a complaint is not as difficult as you think.