The fastest way to destroy a child is to let him spend the summer vacation the way he likes (parents should read this no matter how busy they are)

Time flies, the sun and the moon fly by. The annual summer vacation has arrived. For children, summer vacation is free and carefree. The following is a conversation between a child and his mother. Mom: \”Summer vacation is here, how are you going to spend it? Don\’t tell me to just play all summer vacation.\” Child: \”Yes, you should have fun during summer vacation. Isn\’t it?\” Playfulness is a child\’s nature. But there is a saying that goes like this: \”Every wasted vacation is a slide leading to a mediocre life.\” Learning is like sailing against the current. If you don\’t advance, you will retreat. Indulging in summer vacation is a moment of pleasure, but the rest of your life will be filled with sorrow. 01 Summer vacation does not mean a \”comfortable\” period. Relaxation but not indulgence. Many parents may think that their children should be allowed to relax during the holidays after studying for so long. Indeed, vacation is a rare adjustment period. You should relax well and have enough leisure and entertainment – play the games you want to play, watch the movies you want to watch, go to the places you want to go, and sleep as much as you want. …A meaningful summer vacation will recharge children\’s energy and allow them to devote themselves to new learning with a fuller spirit after school starts. This is also the role that holidays should play, and it is the result that parents and teachers expect together. However, what I want to tell you is that the summer vacation, which is supposed to be a period of adjustment, is also the easiest time to fall into disorder. When children are free from restraints and have sufficient freedom, such as the freedom to play, play games, stay up late, and not want to study… This kind of relaxation sought in disorder often easily leads to uncontrolled indulgence. . What will be the outcome of such an unbridled and indulgent summer vacation? A few days ago, a parent left a message for me. Last year, after her son finished his final exam, his teacher praised him and said he had made great progress in his studies this semester. When she was happy, she gave her son a reward, but his son said he wanted a mobile phone. In this way, she gave her son a mobile phone and didn\’t have much control over his studies throughout the summer vacation. As a result, not long after school started, the head teacher came to her to give her feedback on her son\’s situation, saying that his class performance was not good, he couldn\’t even listen to the class well, and his first unit test score was very unsatisfactory, lagging far behind the previous semester. So you see, a child who plays wildly during the summer vacation will not only find it difficult to surpass others academically, but will also have problems maintaining the academic performance of the previous semester, and may even face a sharp decline in academic performance. There is a saying that is widely circulated on the Internet: \”The fastest way to kill a child is to let him spend the summer vacation the way he likes.\” Although it sounds ugly, there is nothing wrong with the truth! 02 Any excellent result cannot be obtained by \”playing\”. As we all know, Hengshui Middle School is known as the \”College Entrance Examination Factory\”. It can send more than 200 people to Qingbei every year, and the admission rate is as high as 90%. Behind this astonishing number is the management model of Hengshui Middle School and the efforts of the students. There is a famous saying from Hengshui Middle School: \”There are no winter and summer vacations in life, life is not a semester system, and no employer is interested in helping you find yourself.\” Zhang Joy, a student of Peking University who graduated from Hengshui Middle School, shared his vacation schedule: 5:50 Morning reading time, from 8:00 to 12:30, is the summary of wrong questions…I don\’t go to bed until 11:00 in the evening. For Zhang Joy, vacation is just a change of place to study. When others are still sleeping lazyWhile sleeping and playing with his mobile phone, he had already gotten up early and finished several sets of papers. When it comes to learning, nothing can be accomplished overnight. The success of a top student is to make the best use of time, and everything is just accumulation. Qian Weichang Qian Lao, one of the founders of modern mechanics and applied mathematics in China. In an interview, the host asked him: \”You have worked so hard. Did you find anyone working harder than you at that time?\” Mr. Qian said: \”The person who went with me at that time was Hua Luogeng. I worked very hard every day. I went to the Science Museum at five o\’clock in the morning to endorse, and Hua Luogeng had already finished memorizing…\” You see, the more outstanding a person is, the less he will indulge himself. Behind all excellence is ascetic self-discipline. 03 It is instinct for a child not to be self-disciplined, and it is the ability of parents to make him self-disciplined. There was once a poll on Weibo: How do primary and secondary school students spend the holidays? The voting results show that during the holidays, 80% of the children either play games or sleep, and more than 30% of the children even go to bed after one or two o\’clock. Laziness is human nature, but being lazy can ruin your life. As the \”first person responsible\” for children\’s education, parents must be ruthless and \”force\” their children. There is a saying that goes well: It is instinct for children not to be self-disciplined, and it is their parents who make them self-disciplined. During the summer vacation, parents please do the following: 1. Help your children effectively plan their summer vacation time. Hold a family meeting to discuss summer plans; let the children know what they have to do every day and when to do it; make a schedule for each summer vacation, plan by category, prioritize by importance and urgency, and supervise by day. 2. Let your children stick to these 10 good habits. The most fundamental difference between people is the difference in habits. For children, good habits make a lifetime, and bad habits affect a lifetime. During the summer vacation, please let your children adhere to the ten good habits of getting up early and going to bed early, eating regularly, exercising diligently, doing housework, previewing, reviewing, reading in the morning, practicing calligraphy, checking for omissions and filling in vacancies, and reading extracurricular books. 3. Set an example for your children by setting an example. Anhui top student Dong Jiyang said: \”Occasionally I get tired of studying and don\’t want to read. My parents notice it and don\’t say anything, so they turn off the TV and sit down to read. When I see them reading, I feel embarrassed. Read the book. \”Parents are the most direct targets for children to imitate. Demonstration in person is far more effective than telling them ten million times. Educate children by setting an example in words and deeds, as well as in thinking. 04Written at the end: No parent wants their children to endure hardship, they all want their children to grow up carefree. But reality doesn’t allow it, and the responsibilities of being a parent don’t allow it. Parents must understand that this world is unfair and some people are born in Rome. However, time is fair, everyone is given 24 hours a day, and how you spend these 24 hours determines the difference in life. The vacation wasted by others is an opportunity for children to overtake in corners. For the sake of their children, parents must understand that the biggest irresponsibility for their children is to let their children learn freely. Really smart parents know how to be cruel. Ruthlessly force children to develop serious and rigorous study habits, ruthlessly force children to develop a proactive attitude towards work, ruthlessly force children to have the courage and determination to move forward without fear of difficulties… No one\’s luck can come out of thin air? No matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you work,Share the harvest. May all children cherish time, work hard, and live up to time and themselves. We also hope that all parents can be role models and guides for their children, and plant a positive and altruistic seed in their children\’s hearts.