The father’s big picture is the ceiling for his children

Zeng Guofan said: \”Those who plan for great things must first focus on pattern.\” Pattern is personality, and pattern is vision and mind. A father must have a sound personality, a broad mind and a broad vision. Because the father is the most important person in a child\’s growth, his pattern profoundly affects the child\’s long-term development. As the famous British psychologist Alver said: The father\’s influence on the child is huge, and it will penetrate into the child\’s blood and embed in the child\’s soul bit by bit. Only a well-organized father can become a true leader for his children, pointing out the direction of his children\’s life and illuminating their way forward. The father\’s pattern shapes the quality of the child. The British writer Herbert said: \”A good father is better than 100 principals.\” The father is the benchmark for the child\’s growth. With a father, the child will never lose his way. In the novel \”To Kill a Mockingbird\”, which was rated 9.2 on Douban, the protagonist Atticus is a white lawyer and a single father. But he never neglected to discipline his two children. He tried his best to spend time with the two children, respect them, and taught them to read and understand. Once, Tom, a black man in a small town, was forced to be involved in a rape case. In that era when racial discrimination was prevalent, no white lawyer was willing to take the risk to litigate on behalf of a black man. When Tom was at his most difficult and helpless, Atticus stood up bravely. List of 30 Douban high-scoring movies you must watch during the winter vacation: Take your children to see the world in a different way. Because of this incident, the residents of the small town began to ridicule him and obstruct him. Mrs. Dubose, the neighbor, was always sarcastic, and this time she said in front of the two children that their father was really embarrassing to the white people for defending \”niggers.\” When he heard someone insulting his father, his brother Jem could no longer control his anger and broke all the camellias that were blooming in Mrs. Dubose\’s yard. After Atticus knew the truth, he was not angry or harsh with Jem. Instead, he said to Jem gently: \”Don\’t take it too seriously. She is an old lady and she is still sick. No matter what she says, don\’t get angry and take out You\’re such a gentleman.\” and firmly told Jem to go apologize to Mrs. Dubose. Because of this lawsuit, Atticus got into huge trouble and was threatened by racists. But this did not allow him to give up his bottom line of integrity as a lawyer. He did not change his position and insisted on defending Tom. Even though Atticus lost the lawsuit due to social reasons, he never regretted it. He used practical actions to tell the children that things that others think so are not necessarily correct. The most important thing a person cannot discard is his conscience. Under the guidance of their father, son Jem and daughter Scout have not been corrupted by adult prejudice and indifference. The older they grow, the more they understand that no matter where and when they are, no matter what their status is, they must respect others, be brave, kind and kind. Stand firm for justice. Parenting expert Huang Jingjie said: Use a broad vision to educate people, rather than a small vision. A well-disciplined father will take action to help his children become well-educated and morally responsible people. He will not let his children be coerced by worldly ideas, but uses correct words and deeds to encourage them to accept training and grow wings that can fight in the sky by their own strength. The pattern of the father shapes the character of the child. The father\’s pattern determines the child\’s way of life. father\’s characterA round indicates a child\’s lifelong achievement. Someone asked on Zhihu: In this era of fighting for fatherhood, how much money should be saved so that the child will not lose at the starting line? Netizen @泠之说: The so-called \”fighting for father\” is not about the good material life the father gives his children, but the father\’s pattern. She was born in a remote rural village, with four siblings. In her village, many children went out to work before finishing junior high school. Only her father, no matter how difficult life was, still sent them to school. Life is difficult, but their father never complains. Instead, he takes them to universities in big cities every year to help them determine the path they want to take in the future. The father did not have much knowledge, but he would add books to the house every week so that they could explore the world further through reading. She said: \”Although my father cannot enrich us materially, he has given us the best spiritual enrichment.\” Yes, a father has a long-term vision, so that his children\’s future will have a direction. Only when the father has a mountain in his heart can the child have the opportunity to see the sky. A father with a big picture is never just a cash machine for his children, but a constant source of spiritual nourishment for his children. I am reminded of the experience of the famous educator Jia Rongtao. As a father, he once entrusted all the education of his children to the school and his wife, while he was only responsible for earning money to support the family. But the result was not what he expected. First, his son\’s grades dropped all the way to the bottom. He became addicted to online games, participated in group fights several times, and was almost expelled from the school. There were also constant conflicts between father and son. Then the relationship between the couple also broke down, and at one point they were going to divorce. Failed to educate children and broken up the family, why is this? After some deep introspection, he discovered that his son\’s problems were the product of his own miseducation. \”You can still work hard in your career, but your children\’s growth cannot be repeated. No matter how much money you earn, you can\’t make up for the failure of your children\’s education.\” So he made up his mind to change himself, decisively closed the factory, accompanied his children full-time, and read a lot Book learning home education. In two years, he read more than 200 books of various types, wrote more than 800,000 words of reading notes and teaching experiences, and insisted on evaluating his words and deeds every day. He found that as his knowledge continued to grow and the situation became larger, many family problems were easily solved. For example, when his son is addicted to games, he no longer preaches or beats or scolds, but respects and understands him, helps his son develop other interests and hobbies, and allows his son to take the initiative to stay away from the Internet. When his son made a mistake, he did not come up and reprimand him. Instead, he looked at the problem from his son\’s perspective and guided him to think so that he could learn lessons. When his son refused to obey the discipline, he no longer fought head-on, but looked for common topics and hobbies with his son. The parent-child relationship improved, and his son was willing to listen to his opinions. The most gratifying thing is that as he continued to work hard and make progress, the child also quietly changed and began to improve his studies. In the end, he succeeded in counterattack and was admitted to a key university. Now, his son has followed in his footsteps and devoted himself to education, becoming a family educator. Yang Lan once said: \”The pattern of parents is the way they live. How you want to live your life will also affect the pattern of your children.\” Only when fathers dare to self-examine and change themselves can children learn to face their mistakes and be positive. Only when a father has a broad vision and mature thinking can his children stand tall and see far. father\’s characterThe situation is the ceiling of a child\’s growth, which determines the upper limit of what a child can achieve in his or her lifetime. The father\’s overall situation is the most valuable asset of the family. There is a saying in the \”Three Character Classic\”: Dou Yanshan has a righteous way; if he teaches his five sons, they will all become famous. It tells the story of Dou Yanshan who taught his children well during the Five Dynasties period. Because he paid attention to the cultivation of children\’s qualities and talents, and the inheritance of family tradition, all five of his sons became famous in the imperial examinations, and his eight grandsons were also very successful. The family has always been harmonious and filial. There is also a father with such a big picture in modern times. In rural China in the 1960s, the theory that \”study is useless\” was prevalent, but a father used his foresight to train five doctors and one master\’s degree. The father\’s name is Cai Xiaowan. When talking about the success of his education, he said: \”I treat my role as a father as a career.\” He is a clinic doctor with a meager income. He also has to raise 6 children and more than 30 square meters. In a dilapidated house, eight people lived together. Life was difficult, but it did not deter him from his determination to train his children to become talents. He covered the wooden walls with portraits of Einstein, Marie Curie, Newton and other scientists, and told the children stories about these scientists whenever he had time. Plant the seeds of ambition in your children\’s hearts from an early age. Every night after night falls, while others entertain and entertain, he takes his children to study and read together under the lights. For more than ten years, he persisted unshakably. In addition to reading thousands of books and traveling thousands of miles, he also takes his children to travel around every year to broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge. Cai Xiaowan believes: \”People\’s intelligence is almost the same. What really determines success is the non-intellectual factors that are often ignored by people.\” He has always used his own big picture to pave the way for his children and lead them with his own values. . Nowadays, several children have grown up and left home, but they have never forgotten their father\’s teachings and passed on their father\’s education to the next generation. The eldest son followed his education and sent his two children to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in the United States. The youngest daughter even joined forces with her brothers to launch the \”Cai Xiaowan Magic Tutoring Method\” across the country and set up a 1 million scholarship fund to help poor students with excellent academic performance. There is a saying that goes well: \”My father\’s pattern cannot be seen or touched, but it penetrates into the bones and blood of every descendant of the family, becoming the spiritual bond between family members, and even becoming part of their character and even their destiny.\” No matter what. Is it Dou Yanshan or Cai Xiaowan? Although they failed to raise their children materially, they left the most precious spiritual lifeline for the family. A father\’s influence on children and even generations of the family is the most valuable and priceless asset in a family. I like this sentence very much: \”Standing on the 20th floor and looking down, all you see is beautiful scenery; standing on the 2nd floor and looking down, all you see is garbage.\” It can be seen from this that if a person has height, there will be nothing on the ground. You can also find colorful background colors; if you don\’t have height, you can only see a black fertile land. A person\’s pattern determines whether he can stand tall and see far. The father\’s overall situation is the real estate of a family and the ceiling for the growth of his children. With a father who has a big picture at the helm and leads, the family and children will go smoother and more prosperous. wish you becomeA well-organized father brings silent nourishment and endless motivation to the family and children.