The greatest sorrow for a child is not that the family has no money, but that the parents reveal three personal secrets to the public at will.

Parents always like to say to their children: \”What other people\’s children have, you also have.\” Sometimes they work hard just to provide a good family environment for their children so that they can have enough food and clothing. But in fact, whether the family has money or not does not have the greatest impact on the child\’s happiness index. I had a classmate like this when I was a child. He wore coarse linen clothes every day and his schoolbag was worn out after being used for several years. But he was cheerful every day and hummed a little tune on the way to and from school. Poverty will certainly cause many problems, but as long as the family works together and works together, life will get better day by day. Moreover, in this process, the children will also see the hard work of their parents, which is also a very good role model for the children. Therefore, for a child, whether he or she has a happy childhood has nothing to do with whether the family has money, but whether the parents respect themselves and are willing to protect their children\’s privacy. Parents who know how to respect their children will not disclose the privacy of the following three children to outsiders easily. 1. Children\’s shortcomings and problems are discussed in \”Holistic Parenting\”: Children are a constantly developing individual, and their growth is a process of continuous change. During this process, children will have various problems and shortcomings, but these are normal and part of their growth. In other words, a child may be careless in first grade and often write b as d, but by the third grade, these problems will no longer be seen at all. As a child develops and changes, so will his shortcomings. I believe every parent knows this. However, if parents talk about their children\’s shortcomings and problems at will to other parents or neighbors, it is likely to affect the child\’s image in the eyes of everyone, and in serious cases, it will damage the child\’s face and self-esteem. What\’s especially bad is to discuss the child\’s shortcomings and embarrassing things with others in front of the child. This is to throw the child\’s face on the ground and trample on it. When the child is sad, he will also lose respect and trust in his parents. The Bible says: People are born imperfect. As a parent, you must first accept your children\’s shortcomings, and only then can you help your children overcome their shortcomings step by step and become better people. 2. The ups and downs of children’s grades. Learning is a direct manifestation of a child’s ability. Whether children admit it or not, they will care about their grades. If a child\’s performance declines, the first thing parents should do is to comfort the child, and the second step is to help the child find the reason and improve his learning methods. The most taboo thing is to talk nonsense everywhere, complain to classmates, parents, and neighbors. Once children find out about this, the consequences will be serious. My neighbor Xiaogang is such a transparent person. Every time he takes a major test or a small test, his scores are known to all the grandparents in the community. When his grades slip, the children don\’t want to go home. When he walks into the community, he can get \”comfort\” from his grandparents. Although it was a comfort, Xiaogang felt extremely aggrieved! In fact, the ups and downs of children\’s grades are normal. Parents should not only not talk about it everywhere, but also behave calmly at home. If there are fluctuations, it means there is an opportunity to rise! Grades are only the last part of learning. We still have to focus on study habits, learning methods, and learning interests. If these aspects are done well, how can our children\’s grades not improve? 3, Small situations between classmates. Experienced parents all know that if their children have conflicts with classmates at school, parents must handle it carefully. If it involves school bullying, there must be zero tolerance and support for the children. But more often than not, it is a petty quarrel between classmates. Many children who were at odds with each other in the first grade became best friends in the second grade! One time, my best friend took a sticker from her diary, and she was very unhappy when she came home, so she told her mother. After thinking about it for two days, her mother always felt that this would not work, so she reported the situation to the teacher and the parents of her classmates, saying that It\’s petty theft and cannot be tolerated. But what my mother didn\’t know was that her best friend not only returned the sticker to Guan Guan the next day, but also apologized to her. In the past two days, the two of them became good best friends again. Luo Lu was embarrassed at school because her mother made such a fuss. After her best friend was criticized in front of the whole class, she completely ignored Lu Lu. Children are still very immature when it comes to controlling friendships and relationships, so parents must have a certain degree of flexibility and give their children room to handle small situations between them. Don\’t do everything to perfection, after all, we have to study together when we get to school tomorrow. In fact, truly wise parents will control their mouths, communicate more with their children at home, and know how to save face for their children outside the home and will not reveal everything about their children.