The harm of China’s exam-oriented education will erupt when children enter junior high school

Hello everyone, I am Teacher Li. The high school entrance examination will be held in a few dozen days, and I am as busy and nervous as the children. But today I still want to take advantage of my busy schedule to tell you some class news. I hope these two stories from the classroom can be helpful to everyone’s daily family education. In the third-year junior high school class, there are actually undercurrents surging every day. Just last week, Xiaoye, the top student in our class, did not come to school for three consecutive days. At first, her mother asked for leave because her child had a fever and was suspected of having influenza A. However, three days later, I received a call from Xiaoye’s mother. After just saying \”Hello, Teacher Li\”, the mother burst into tears. She told me that the child did not suffer from influenza A, but actually had a heart disease. The cause of the matter begins with several quizzes after the start of school. Xiaoye has always been the first in the class, and his total score in all subjects can exceed the second place by nearly 30 points every time. However, after the start of the third year of junior high school, this advantage was hit many times. The impact came from a boy, let’s call him Xiao Yan. Xiao Yan\’s grades were always fifth in the class in the first, second and third semesters of junior high school. Neither top nor bottom, it is very stable and not biased. However, when school started on the first day of the third year of junior high school, Xiao Yan\’s first three scores were better than Xiao Ye\’s in physics. At first, Xiaoye thought it was just an accident. However, slowly, Xiao Yan\’s scores in various subjects began to match hers, and even began to surpass hers. Moreover, Xiao Ye was sensitive to the fact that every time after the quiz results came out, Xiao Yan would ask her to borrow the test paper for analysis and study. Xiaoye asked him: \”What are you looking at?\” Xiaoyan said: \”Look at the difference in our problem-solving ideas and learn from you.\” In the past, Xiaoye had never regarded Xiaoyan as his opponent. However, she gradually discovered that Xiao Yan regarded herself as a benchmark. Just like Xiao Yan said to his classmates: \”If I want to go to the best high school, I have to surpass Xiao Ye.\” So, the two children began to compete overtly and covertly. All the classmates who knew about it initially laughed at Xiao Yan for \”overestimating his abilities.\” However, Xiao Yan kept overtaking in corners and gradually became a \”dark horse\” in the quiz. Xiao Ye is also a strong child. Xiao Yan clearly targets herself and starts to overtake her. She also directly seeks advice from Xiao Yan and asks him how he counterattacked. Xiao Yan said very directly: \”In the past, you won me by studying in advance. When I was in the first grade of junior high school, you had already learned the entire third grade course. Now that I am in the third grade of junior high school, I have also learned all the courses.\” After studying, we finally have the same starting line.\” Xiao Yan also told Xiao Ye that he knew that Xiao Ye had been making up lessons outside. He was also making up for it, but he only started taking it up in the second semester of his third year of junior high school. He did not take extra classes to make up for the basics, but to summarize his own shortcomings in each subject and ask the teacher to improve his shortcomings. Xiao Yan also said something that became the straw that broke Xiao Ye\’s back: \”In elementary school, in the first and second grades of junior high school, I played and learned. In the third grade of junior high school, I worked hard, and I won\’t lose this time.\” Moreover, in order to compete with each other, they rushed to help. Chao, Xiao Yan took the initiative to ask me to be my deskmate with Xiao Ye. I asked Xiaoye for her opinion at the time, and she agreed. The latest and most complete 2023 [Kindergarten, Junior High and High School] premium VIP course catalogs from famous teachers in various disciplines on the entire network, click to view now! Since then, I often see two children playingDuring class, we studied the exercises enthusiastically together. It also attracted several children in the class to join their research group. I was very pleased at that time. This was the scene that a junior high school teacher would most like to see. But unexpectedly, one month after school started, Xiaoye\’s mentality gradually collapsed under Xiao Yan\’s crushing pressure. When she was at school, she and Xiao Yan had a heated discussion about the topic. However, when she returned home, she cried countless times. She felt that Xiao Yan was much better than herself. Xiao Yan is good at sports and has already obtained the national second-level athlete qualification certificate. Xiao Yan had read through all the world classics that Xiao Ye was still cramming for in the high school entrance examination when he was in elementary school. Xiaoye never makes mistakes when memorizing ancient texts and adding Braille explanations. However, when faced with unfamiliar ancient texts and interpretations, she always lost to Xiao Yan. She asked Xiao Yan for advice, and Xiao Yan replied easily: \”This thing mainly depends on the sense of language.\” Xiao Ye did not understand the entire English reading comprehension article. She got four of the five multiple-choice questions wrong, and the correct one was still I was confused, but Xiao Yan was actually right. Xiaoye asked Xiaoyan how he did it, and Xiaoyan said: \”Because this reading is about the content of the book \”The Little Prince\”, which I happened to have read.\” These details defeated the superior Xiaoye . She denounced her mother: \”Since the third grade of elementary school, I have been either in school or in after-school classes every day. My grades have always been far ahead, and I thought I was really smart. Others praised me for being excellent, and I also thought I was really smart. Excellent. However, when I met Xiao Yan, I realized that I am not even as good as a nerd. I am actually nothing…\” At first, my mother thought that Xiao Ye just had to get used to it and couldn\’t bear to be overtaken, so she went to each other. This comfort encouraged her. However, Xiaoye\’s mood became worse and worse. At first I said I didn’t want to go to school. Later, as soon as she was asked to study, she complained that she had a headache. I reluctantly persuaded her to come to the desk, but she also cried while studying. Sometimes she couldn\’t solve a question, so she tore the test paper into pieces. She began to complain about her parents, saying that she had no childhood, no friends, and that she was trained by them to be a learning machine… Then she began to refuse to go to school. During the most critical sprint period in the third grade of junior high school, she began to fail. On the phone, Xiaoye\’s mother was crying so hard that she was out of breath. She said to me: \”Teacher Li, we as a couple not only put all our hopes on this child, we also put all our wealth on her education. To tell you the truth, just take the winter vacation that just ended. In order to hire the best general tutor for her, we spent all our money.\” \”When school starts this semester, I\’m afraid that she won\’t be able to keep up with her nutrition. She eats imported steak and oranges for breakfast, and her dad and I eat rice and vegetables for breakfast and dinner. , She rarely even eats meat or vegetables.\” \”This child is like a different person now. From childhood to adulthood, no one has praised her for being smart, sensible and loving to learn. However, she actually dropped the ball at the most critical time, isn\’t it us? Are you used to it?\” \”That Xiao Yan is not a good person either. He deliberately sat at the same table with Xiao Ye to annoy her and interfere with her studies. That kid is so scheming.\” I listened silently. I know that at this time, what this anxious mother needs first is to vent her emotions. When she finally stopped talking and asked me for help, I promised her that I would goLook at Xiaoye and ask her to relax a little. I went to Xiaoye\’s house after school the next day after receiving a call from Xiaoye\’s mother. After not seeing each other for a week, the child became as thin as a bolt of lightning. When he saw me, he burst into tears. He pulled at his clothes and lowered his head, looking like he was sorry for the whole world. I tied her hair into a ponytail, let her pick out a dress, and took her out for a walk. I told Xiaoye that the teachers and classmates missed her very much. When the teacher asked a difficult question and no one could answer it, some students said, \”It would be great if Xiaoye was here.\” When braised pork ribs were cooked in the cafeteria for lunch every Wednesday, some students said, \”This is Xiaoye\’s favorite.\” .\” When Sun Huihui went to get her physics homework alone (she and Xiaoye are both representatives of the physics department), she would sigh: \”When will this Xiaoye\’s fever go away? I think she is just pretending to be sick and escaping from work.\” When Quan Quan When classmate Li, the funniest student in the class, made another shocking statement that made the whole class burst into laughter, he added: \”Every time I tell a joke, Xiaoye laughs the most devilishly…\” When I stood on the podium, I looked at the empty seat. At that time, I felt like there were a lot of people missing in the classroom… Listening to this, Xiaoye shed tears silently. I asked her: \”Do you miss everyone?\” She nodded vigorously. That day, Xiaoye and I counted her advantages together. Have good grades, be popular, and be honest. I later added another one: \”I know, there are several boys in the class who have a crush on you.\” Xiaoye smiled shyly. Then, she said to me in a low voice: \”However, compared with Xiao Yan, I feel that I am useless, just a bookworm.\” \”Well, it seems a little bit.\” Xiao Ye did not expect that I would be like this. echoed her. But I told her equally honestly: \”When a person is 15 years old, he is full of advantages and has no shortcomings. Then he is not a human, but a god. The teacher thinks that you can realize your own strengths at this age. If you are not good enough, see the strengths of others. This is your pattern and the space for your future growth.\” \”Believe in the teacher, the world is there and you can learn at any time. This is a big lesson in life, for everyone who is motivated \”Those who love learning will give a beautiful report card. A true academic master is not to always be the first, but to learn all his life and learn from anyone, anything, and any knowledge.\” Xiaoye is Xiaoye after all. She understood everything I said. She promised me to go to school the next day. I asked her: \”Do you still want to sit at the same table with Xiao Yan?\” She thought seriously and said: \”Teacher, let\’s move us apart. I know Xiao Yan has no ill intentions towards me, but my mental endurance is limited. , I still can’t accept being completely crushed by him.” After hearing this, I was inexplicably moved. My eyes were getting hot again and again. I tried to calm down my emotions and said to Xiaoye very seriously: \”Thank you for telling the teacher your truest thoughts and for being able to adjust yourself during this most critical period.\” . You made the teacher feel that once you have this endurance, your life will be invincible.\” In this way, Xiaoye \”cured from the influenza A\” and returned to campus. To be honest, I was very happy when I saw her listening to the class seriously and doing the questions actively as usual.On the other hand, I was deeply afraid. Having taught so many high school entrance examination classes, there are always children who develop psychological problems of one kind or another during this most critical period. These psychological problems are actually the result of the accumulation of daily problems. Moreover, not everyone is like Xiaoye and can eventually return to class in good health. For this reason, I talk to Xiaoye’s mother on the phone almost every day, reporting on Xiaoye’s performance in school, calming her emotions, and trying to make her realize that even if the child cannot remain first, or even cannot be promoted to a key high school in the end, she is still the same. Excellent and brave. Parents can no longer help their children academically. However, parents should be able to provide their children with a pleasant and relaxed family atmosphere and tell them that the high school entrance examination is not the end of life. Fortunately, after Xiaoye almost dropped out of school, Xiaoye\’s parents were forced to lower their demands on her. According to Xiaoye\’s feedback to me: \”Teacher, for the first time last night, my mother asked me to go to bed at 10:30 and let me have a good rest. Are you surprised? Are you surprised?\” Surprise, really surprise. But my biggest surprise is that Xiaoye can return to class in such a state and continue to prepare for the high school entrance examination. Really, every time I see her telling jokes with her classmates and laughing the loudest, I say \”thank you\” to this child again and again in my heart. I know very well that not all children with psychological problems will eventually have the opportunity to \”turn around\” like Xiaoye. Therefore, I urgently spoke about this \”big incident\” that happened in my classroom. Yes, I want to remind all parents not to spend all their children\’s time \”taking exams.\” Becoming a \”student master\” may not be a happy thing. Life is so long, and those who jump ahead may not have the last laugh. I hope that all children can, like Xiao Yan, read more, exercise more, and have more various connections with nature. Be able to have your own hobbies and become a person with comprehensive abilities, a person who is mentally and physically tough, a person who is always full of desire for the unknown, and a person who is always full of love and curiosity about the world. Of course, after I finish this busy period, I will have an in-depth talk with Xiao Yan’s parents. Learn from them and help everyone learn from them.