The head teacher reminded: Most children with strong learning potential come from these four types of families.

I have heard more than one parent worry like this: When their children were in elementary school, their learning status was quite good and their test scores were not low. But as soon as I entered junior high school, I felt slack and my energy was not as good as before. It was like long-distance running. The more I ran, the less energy I had. I am worried that if things continue like this, the children will struggle to learn in the real sprint stage and will easily fall behind in the end. As the saying goes, \”horsepower can be seen from afar.\” Many children who are self-conscious about learning and have great stamina may not perform well at the beginning, but at the end they can leave others behind. Observing these energetic children carefully, it is not difficult to find that most of them come from the following four types of families. In the process of raising children in families who know how to control their emotions, most parents will feel anxious. Faced with an increasingly complex social environment, a highly competitive education system, and various challenges in children\’s growth, over time, we often become sensitive and irritable, unable to control our emotions, and lose our temper with our children. Why have my grades declined? How did you learn it? What’s the point of raising you! Going out to have fun again! If you just play around all day long, what can you do when you grow up? No one in the family can worry about it. Is it easy for me to work so hard every day? Have you said this to your children? If a family is filled with nagging and complaining every day, what will happen to the emotional state of a child who grows up in such an environment? Children are like a blank sheet of paper. Their words and deeds will be affected by the surrounding environment, especially the family environment, which has a huge impact on children. From a certain perspective, the reason why children develop problematic behaviors is not the result of the child\’s initiative, but the result of passive influence and accumulation. Many times, parents cannot control their emotions or vent their dissatisfaction in front of their children at will, which will only destroy the child\’s inner sense of security and affect their mental development, making them more and more depressed, negative, and have low self-esteem. When he needs to spend more energy to deal with the storms outside, how can he be expected to focus on study and life? After children arrive at school, their ability to accept knowledge will also decrease. If they cannot learn what the teacher teaches, their grades will naturally not improve. Parents\’ emotions determine the future of their children. Only when parents put away their bad tempers and emotions and control their anger can the family become warm and happy, and the children become more outstanding. No matter how depressed you are, as soon as you get home, you must put it all behind and give your children a positive and sunny image. When he learns to control his anger, complaints, and dissatisfaction, and how to express them rationally, no matter how big the difficulty is, he can easily solve it. Emotional stability is really the best gift parents can give their children. The calmer the parents are, the more relaxed and relaxed the children will be, and they will have enough strength to keep running hard and fast. Families with good communication once had a teacher who asked their children this question: When you are confused, who do you turn to first for help? The results surprised all parents: friends ranked first, followed by teachers, and parents only ranked third! When a child is confused, why not ask his parents for help? The main reason is that such families lack healthy communication and there is a deep gap between parents and children. What\’s the problem? If parents don’t usually pay attention toEmphasis is placed on communication skills, and communication with children is simple and crude, making the conversation not focused on methods and effects, but only on emotional catharsis, and children are prone to rejection and rebellious psychology. How can we have good communication? 1. Parents must learn to listen. This is the first step in communication. If a child is worried about something, parents may wish to stop what they are doing and listen quietly to what the child has to say. Excellent parents listen to their children\’s ideas and often communicate with their children on an equal footing during family interactions. 2. Find ways to solve problems together. When children seek help when they encounter problems, the more specific guidance parents give, the better. It is best to discuss and determine ways to solve problems with their children. Through joint discussion, the direction will be clearer and the problem itself will be clearer and clearer, which will help the problem to be truly solved, which will also give the child a greater sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. Families with good communication not only give children the opportunity to express their opinions, but also make them feel more trusted. Pay attention to the cultivation of study habits A few years ago, Jiangxi top student Qiu Zisheng was admitted to Tsinghua University with high scores. Many people came to learn from him and asked him how he did it. When he was in elementary school and junior high school, his grades were not top-notch, but after graduating from junior high school, he was admitted to a key local high school and won Tsinghua University in one fell swoop. Qiu Zisheng said: Thanks to my parents. Growing up, his parents neither forced nor urged him, but focused on cultivating his study habits. Even if his grades are not good, he will not be rude, but treat him as a friend. In most cases, he will give suggestions in a consultative tone. When he regresses in his studies, objectively analyze his strengths, point out his shortcomings, and give him encouragement and confidence. When he makes progress, help him summarize it and let him understand what he should do. In this way, he slowly developed good study and living habits. Listen carefully in class, complete your homework independently at home, and do not need parental supervision for anything you do. From reading your favorite comics and novels to immersing yourself in the fun of reading a wide range of books. Even if he is surfing the Internet, chatting, and playing games like other students, Qiu Zisheng will never get addicted to it and cannot extricate himself. Smart parents do not worry about their children\’s academic performance and are always hands-on for their children. Instead, they spend time and energy on cultivating their children\’s learning habits and abilities in advance. As a mother who is a top student said in her sharing: \”We have agreed on study rules since the children started going to school. It is more important to develop good study habits and not be a crutch for their children\’s study. The school teacher requires parents to check homework and sign , I just signed. Because learning is the child\’s task, it doesn\’t matter if the problem is not revealed, just ask the teacher for advice in time if you don\’t know what you don\’t understand. \”Although I watched the child study very hard and tired, I found that he encountered difficulties. I don\’t want to tell him the answer very much, and I am happy to do it for my child when I need to look up information. But learning is always a child\’s business. If you don\’t let him do it and let him develop good habits, it will be difficult for him to be self-disciplined when he is alone in the future. Only by paying attention to the cultivation of children\’s study habits from the beginning, when they study more subjects and have a larger workload in the future, they can cope with it on their own and make progress through their own efforts. Children with excellent families who know how to accompany them are \”accompanied\” by their parents. Real quality companionship does not depend on timeIt’s not about the length of time, but the quality of companionship. The first kind of attentive companionship is to accompany your children \”with your heart\” rather than \”with force\”. Pay attention, listen attentively, and help attentively. Only when parents are attentive can they help their children discover and solve problems. The second kind of respectful companionship is not to hit the children, not to blame blindly, not to be superior, but to give them the respect and trust they deserve. Real companionship is to be friends with children. We all need to lower our posture, respect each other, and tolerate each other. The third type is patient companionship. When communicating with your children, you must pay attention to your wording and attitude, explain the truth, and avoid getting angry or labeling your children. We all understand some truths, but children may not understand them, so we need to spend more patience to educate our children. The fourth kind of normal companionship: Not all children can score 100 points in the test. Scores do not mean everything. Children still have many possibilities. We need to help children understand themselves correctly and find the most appropriate growth path. The fifth kind of companionship in growing together is who you want your children to be, first of all, who you want them to be. The process of parents accompanying their children is the process of setting a good example for their children. Leading by example and teaching through words and deeds is the best education we can give our children. The best parents are constantly making progress while accompanying their children in learning, striving to keep up with their children\’s pace and be their children\’s guides. Creating a good family atmosphere is crucial to a child\’s growth. Parents should focus on communicating with their children, establishing a close relationship, providing sufficient time and companionship, setting expectations rationally and giving appropriate autonomy. In such a family environment, by cultivating positive behavioral habits in children, they can grow better.