The head teacher reminds: \”Academic masters\” are not born, most outstanding children come from these four types of families

Many parents are either busy with their livelihood or busy with other things, and neglect to discipline their children; some parents think that educating children is the responsibility of teachers and schools. In fact, cultivating a child to become a talented child requires credit from teachers and schools, and what cannot be ignored is the hard work of parents behind the scenes. If family education is not in place, no matter how good the school education is, it will only achieve twice the result with half the effort. Behind every outstanding child, there are parents who value family education. Families with these four characteristics are more likely to raise outstanding children. I suggest parents read this. 01 In the process of raising children in families who know how to control their emotions, most parents will have anxiety and cannot control their emotions well. Over time, they will become sensitive and irritable, and often lose their temper with their children. Why have my grades declined? How did you learn it? What’s the point of raising you! Going out to have fun again! If you just play around all day long, what can you do when you grow up? No one in the family can worry about it. Is it easy for me to work so hard every day? Have you said this to your children? If so, then you need to learn to control your emotions, and your family must learn to control their emotions. What will happen to children who grow up in a complaining home if the only thing in the home is complaining? We all know that children are like a blank sheet of paper. Their words and deeds will be affected by the surrounding environment, especially the family environment, which has a huge impact on children. From a certain perspective, the reason why children develop problematic behaviors is not the result of the child\’s initiative, but the result of passive influence and accumulation over time. If the parent is a pessimist who loves to complain and often complains, the child\’s mental development will also be affected and the child will become more and more depressed and negative. If this continues, the child\’s mental state and learning enthusiasm will be affected. When they go to school, their ability to accept knowledge will also decrease. If they cannot learn what the teacher teaches, their grades will naturally not be good. At the same time, they will complain about the people and things around them without looking for the real reasons. If you want your children to be in a good learning state, parents should set an example and not complain to their children often. No matter how depressed you are, as soon as you get home, try to put it all behind you and give your children a positive and sunny image. If a family knows how to control its own emotions and allows its children to grow up in a positive environment, then this child must also be a person who is good at managing emotions and will be more self-disciplined and efficient in learning. 02 Families who know good communication once had a teacher who asked their children this question: When you are confused, who do you turn to first for help? The results were beyond the expectations of all parents: friends ranked first, followed by teachers, and parents only ranked third. When a child is confused, why not ask his parents for help? The main reason is that such families lack healthy communication and there is a deep gap between parents and children. What\’s the problem? In fact, in families that lack communication, the main problem lies with the parents. Parents usually do not pay attention to communication skills, and their communication with their children is simple and crude. The conversation does not pay attention to methods and effects, but only expresses emotions. This kind of communication can easily cause children to have a repulsive and rebellious mentality. Without healthy communication, parentsThey and their children do not understand each other. When problems arise, they cannot communicate deeply with each other, and the children cannot seek timely and effective solutions. Over time, their psychology, learning, and growth will be affected. How can we have good communication? 01 Parents must learn to listen and learn to listen. This is the first step in communication. If a child is worried about something, parents might as well stop what they are doing, sit down, and listen quietly to their child. Excellent parents listen to their children\’s ideas. Parents who often use a more equal model to communicate with their children in family relationships are much more likely to raise outstanding children. 02 Work together to find ways to solve problems. When children ask their parents for help when they encounter problems, the more specific guidance the parents give, the better. It is best to discuss and determine the way to solve the problem with the children. Through discussion, the direction will be clearer and the problem itself will appear clear and clear, which will help to truly solve the problem. At the same time, this kind of joint participation will also give children a greater sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. Families with good communication not only give children the opportunity to express their opinions, but also give them a greater sense of trust. Bringing this sense of trust to learning will turn it into the child\’s inner learning potential and motivation, making it easier to improve the child\’s academic performance. 03 A family that knows how to make rules will not be a family without rules. Some children\’s problems may seem like innocuous flaws, but the direct cause behind them is a lack of self-control. Parents should set good rules and let their children know the boundaries of everything. Only by being strict with yourself and improving your self-control ability can you adapt to school rules, and it will be easier to adapt to society in the future. The rules don\’t need to be too complicated. For example, homework must be done before a certain time, and you can play with your phone for up to 10 minutes during study breaks, etc. Let children develop the awareness of obeying rules from an early age, and they will naturally form self-behavior control in school. On the one hand, they will not be exposed to safety risks due to being too naughty. On the other hand, they can also develop regular and good habits in learning. The family is a haven for children. Only by creating a good family environment and an atmosphere of rules can we give children a good space to live, learn, and grow. 04 Families who know how to accompany us all know that it is important to cultivate children’s reading habits. But how to cultivate children\’s reading interest and habits? A class teacher with many years of experience said: \”If a child doesn\’t know how to read, then he must have a parent who doesn\’t know how to accompany him.\” After their children come back from school, many parents do their own things: cook, cook, Some watch TV, some play with their mobile phones… Generally, children are allowed to do their homework first. In fact, the period after the children come home from school and before the children go to bed is the golden period for parents to accompany their children. Parents should let their children know that they are not alone in learning. Parents should work with their children to practice \”lifelong learning\” to the end. During this time, parents accompany their children to do homework and play games, which can allow children to fully feel their own presence. This sense of security of being loved can cultivate children\’s cheerful and warm character. A “accompanying” family atmosphere canSubtly influence the children and play a correct guiding role in the children. Children will also be more cheerful and sunny in school, and their efficiency in acquiring knowledge will be greatly improved. \”Academic champion\” is never born. Through acquired efforts, every child has the potential to become an \”academic champion\”. However, this acquired effort is not only the child\’s own efforts, parents and families also play a decisive role.