The head teacher said frankly: A child’s good grades are only 1% related to his talent, the other 99% is here

People often ask: In the same class, the same teacher, the same teaching materials and study time at school, why are the children taught so different? The reason lies in family education. As the educator Fonnarsky said: \”What a child becomes is shaped by his parents.\” Behind every academic leader, there are excellent and fierce parents. A senior head teacher said frankly: If parents pay close attention to these four things, it is easier to raise children who are academic leaders. All parents should know this! Why do self-disciplined people need to be self-disciplined? A short film that heals 200 million people around the world gives the answer: because life will not give you what you want, but what you deserve. Progress bar, 24% Super inspirational short film: \”Maintain Self-Discipline\” If you want to win the college entrance examination with thousands of troops, you must first achieve self-discipline, practice, summarize, and reflect day after day, and temper yourself in boring repetitions . Andreyev once said: \”A person\’s greatest victory is to defeat himself.\” Only self-discipline can make you stand out. Guangdong Satellite TV\’s \”Social Aspects\” column once produced a program – the secret of \”Test Master\”. What is the Primary School Mathematical Olympiad? 24 math lessons on how to effectively improve your grades? The program invited the Hengshui squad leader Li Song who shouted \”get one more point and kill a thousand people\”. Now he has become a diplomat in the United Nations delegation. The program mentioned the tight schedule of Hengshui Middle School. Several observers expressed a strong sense of oppression after watching the program, which made people breathless. They do morning exercises at 6 o\’clock, and when the wake-up bell rings, they have no time to wash up and rush to the playground; for morning reading at 7 o\’clock, many students stand up to read to avoid getting sleepy; classes start at 8 o\’clock, and some students can only use their spare time to brush their teeth and wash their faces; 12 During lunch time, many students were queuing up and memorizing words;… ▼ \”Hengzhong 24 Hours\” video source: Tencent Video Li Song explained: \”I only experienced this sense of oppression during military training in the first year of high school. After the military training, I adapted to the self-disciplined life in Hengzhong. I feel that the rhythm of Hengzhong is my own rhythm, and I live a very fulfilling life every day.\” At the show, children who had graduated from Hengzhong also expressed their opinions He said: What Hengzhong brings them the most is not depression and pain, but the beauty of everyone working together for youth. Only by making self-discipline a habit will you encounter a better version of yourself. Self-disciplined children can cherish the present and distinguish what is most important. They will not spend a lot of time on entertainment, but will study hard and improve themselves. Many unself-disciplined children are addicted to junk happiness, constrained by Internet addiction, and lose interest in learning. When others are admitted to high school, they choose to drop out of school early to work; when others are admitted to college and move towards a new stage of life. , they are still stuck in the status quo, living day by day, wasting their youth in smoky Internet cafes. The gap between people is gradually widened by time in subtle changes. Although self-discipline is painful, you will only grow if you overcome the pain. So how to cultivate a self-disciplined and conscious child? Education expert Qian Zhiliang once put forward two very practical suggestions: parental supervision should be in place in the early stage; in the later stage, children should rely on their internal drive. The secret to stimulating internal drive is to give children a certain amount of initiative and graspLet go of the big and let the small go, as long as parents grasp the direction on issues of principle. On the road of education, parents should be good guides for their children. Please tell their children: Those who are self-disciplined will be outstanding, and those who are lazy will be eliminated. There was a popular post on Reading Zhihu: What is the difference between people who often read books and people who don’t? A high praise reply in the comments said: If you read too many books, when you see the sunset and the soaring geese, what comes to your mind is: \”The falling clouds and the solitary geese fly together, and the autumn water makes the sky one color\” instead of \” It’s so beautiful”, “So many birds, so many big birds”. From a test-taking perspective, children who read regularly will have more knowledge reserves and stronger language expression skills than their peers, which will help improve children\’s writing skills. Dou Guimei, a special teacher at the Primary School Affiliated to Tsinghua University, pays special attention to reading accumulation. Her students have accumulated at least more than 100 fables, more than 200 ancient and modern famous sayings, more than 300 ancient and modern poems, and more than 1,000 idioms. Therefore, her students can speak well. From a long-term perspective, I very much agree with this passage: the \”use\” of reading is not in front of you, not in the moment, but like the fresh, fresh, and vibrant vitality that all things show after the rain and dew nourish all things. Invisible and intangible. It is an invisible function and a subtle influence. It can be integrated into your blood, spirit, and actions. It can quietly affect your life and environment, and it will change the trajectory of your life unconsciously. For example, Dong Yuhui, a popularly searched New Oriental English teacher. His performance in the live broadcast room allowed us to see the charm of a scholar. When introducing children\’s books, he was able to casually talk about Genghis Khan\’s economic and political background. During the live broadcast, he frequently came up with golden quotes. When someone questioned whether New Oriental would prepare copywriting in advance for its live broadcast sales, Dong Yuhui said confidently: \”No need, what comes out of our mouths depends on the books we have read over the years.\” He read just one copy of \”The Ordinary World\” After reading it six or seven times, Dong Yuhui, who used to read a lot of books and read encyclopedias, has become a confident and intelligent Dong Yuhui today. You can\’t help but sigh: he has poetry and calligraphy in him. \”Birds that want to fly high first flutter their wings; people who want to make progress first read.\” If parents want to educate their children well, they should start by reading with them. Over time, children will fall in love with reading. Raising a child who loves reading is a sure-fire investment for a family. Just like the popular saying on the Internet: \”I always believe that all the books I have read will not be in vain. They will always help me perform better on some occasion in the future.\” I am used to having an educator. A family member once said: \”Family is a school of habits, and parents are teachers of habits.\” Bad habits delay children\’s life; good habits allow children to go further and more steadily. I still remember that in the college entrance examination the year before last, Meng Ruijun, a top student in Guangxi, calmly checked his scores and was called \”Mengshen\” by netizens. Chinese 133, Mathematics 150, Foreign Language 147, Comprehensive 293, total score 723. People can’t help but wonder what his usual learning secret is? When he was asked about his learning experience, Meng Ruijun said: \”I am not a genius. My magic weapon for success is these three good habits cultivated by my parents since childhood – self-study, insisting on previewing, and independent thinking.\” Research shows that most of studyBullying is not born, it is cultivated, and primary school is the key. If parents want their children to walk a bright road in the future, they must take precautions and pay attention to their children\’s habit formation early. If parents pay close attention to the habit of previewing before class, children will learn more easily; if parents pay close attention to the habit of reviewing after class, children will remember knowledge firmly; if parents pay close attention to the habit of cherishing time, children will not procrastinate in doing things; if parents pay close attention to the habit of planning in advance, children will The goals are clearer; parents pay close attention to the habit of independent living, and children have strong adaptability. There is a saying that goes well: Good parents are learned, good children are taught, good habits are cultivated, and good grades are helped. Behind every outstanding child is the hard work and wisdom of his parents. The most important thing is to adhere to the above three points. As the speaker Anthony Robin said: \”What shapes your life is not the one or two things you occasionally do, but the things you always insist on doing.\” Only by insisting on getting up early, insisting on reading, and always maintaining a serious attitude, Only then can your life undergo substantial changes. If parents want their children to persevere, setting an example is the best way. Previously, the college entrance examination results of the triplets from Hengyang, Hunan were a hot topic. They got good scores of 664, 674, and 654 respectively, and they have all been admitted to their target colleges. Outstanding children are inseparable from the hard work of their parents, and the three brothers are no exception. Their mother, Ms. Tan, insisted on checking the three brothers\’ homework every night when they were in primary school, and even personally tutored the children\’s extracurricular studies through self-study. Speaking of their mother, the three brothers lamented: \”It is rare to find a mother like our mother who forces herself to become an education expert for the sake of her children\’s education—my mother, an engineer, has obtained a teacher qualification certificate.\” Only by constantly making progress can parents gain the admiration and respect of their children through the strength of their personality. You are playing mahjong and watching short videos, but you shout at your children: Don’t study yet. But other parents insist on reading with their children for half an hour every day. If things go on like this, which family can better educate outstanding children, the results are self-evident. Teacher Wu Zhihong said: \”The most ineffective effort in the world is to speak truth to children from the bottom of your heart. The more truths you speak, the more disgusted the children will be and the less willing they will be to communicate with you.\” We can\’t change children, but we can. themselves, thus affecting their children. It is a compulsory course for contemporary parents to not tie up children with words and insist on educating them with actions. The philosopher Plato said: \”Where a person\’s education from childhood guides him will determine where he will go later.\” Parents are the greatest destiny of their children, and their children\’s future is deeply hidden in family education. Self-discipline is the magic weapon for children to become talented; reading is the wealth of children\’s life; habits are the golden key to children\’s growth; persistence is the ladder for children to realize their ideals. On the road of education, if you don\’t be \”cruel\” to your child, others will be \”cruel\” to him. If parents pay close attention to the above four points, it will be difficult for their children to become talented even if they don\’t want to be successful. Children\’s habits are the habits of their parents. In the final analysis, family education is about parents educating themselves by example. Light up [Like], I hope all parents can be a good role model for their children, so that their children can gain continuous growth from us.Energy, fly higher and farther!