The head teacher’s tips for educating families with high emotional intelligence. I regret reading it too late.

This is the father of a first grader in junior high school and an excellent class teacher in high school. He shared his views on learning interests, precepts and deeds, scores, etc. What he mentioned at the end: What is the role of education? It is for parents to pay attention, expect and watch, and promptly remove weeds and pests next to the small trees. When the strong wind and rain blow the small trees to their sides, they can immediately remove them. To straighten him up, rather than to encourage him to thrive. Our country has never lacked educational theory or educational atmosphere. Parents’ enthusiasm for their children’s education is high and the whole people are in high spirits. There is half a wall of books on educational theory in the bookstore, and half of the WeChat Moments are about children’s education… We really don’t lack educational theory, we lack excellent educational operators. A must-read parenting book for parents, recommend Calvert’s Education Complete Book Collector’s Edition pdf. Children are born with differences. Unfortunately, our parents always want to take shortcuts, copy without thinking, hoping to make a profit from each book. This is not possible. Regarding democracy in the family, I agree with Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University: I do not believe that education is happy. Please stop giving in to your children in the name of love. The only child is a \”subspecies\” that has never appeared since the existence of the human species on the earth. In the history of mankind, there have never been so many people without brothers and sisters appearing in a planned way in such a short period of time. nation. Never think that they are the same as us, they are different from us, maybe even completely different. Nowadays, the ethics of many families are reversed. It is not my father who has the final say but his son who has the final say at home. Among my students, those whose parents have the final say at home generally have excellent academic performance and higher moral character. \”You eat my food, drink my food, and use mine, why don\’t you listen to me?\” The domineering father often scolds his children like this. Eventually, this parent becomes the father of a top student. Facts have proven that in families where one parent has the final say in family education, the child\’s success rate is extremely high. Democracy in the family must be cultivated slowly. When the child\’s cognitive level is close to that of the parents, consensus can be reached through discussion, so that the child understands that democracy is hard-won. Many parents use the guise of democracy and the banner of love to educate their children. This is indulgence. A minor defeats an adult, and the results are quite terrible. Regarding learning interest and happiness, don’t believe too much that learning is happiness. High-end learning is boring. If you don\’t hate it, it\’s just interesting. Very few people think that learning is happiness. If there is happiness, it is the happiness of getting high scores through learning. If a person can feel happy in learning, he is likely to become a master. Most people won\’t. Most people have to learn and learn for a certain purpose. Therefore, quality and will are truly good teachers. I believe our children belong to one of the majority of people. Why is learning happy? There must be an element of pain in learning. This is self-evident. Good grades basically come from students\’ good habits. They focus on doing something at any time. Over time, one day, he accidentally becomes the first. He didn\’t even think of it. In education, we always want to give children more happiness and more happiness.More play time and constant concessions to your children. How can there be such an education in the world? Don’t get hung up on some specious claims in society about quality education and exam-oriented education. Exam-taking is the most basic quality. About Encouragement in Education Nowadays, most of the education we give to children is encouragement, commonly known as \”wearing a high hat\”. Some experts have said this: Good children are all exaggerated. I really disagree. It is right to encourage children to be confident appropriately, but not excessively. When a child under this kind of education comes into society, the contrast he faces is enough to destroy him and push him into the abyss. Can education be provided without punishment? Encouragement alone completes education? I believe there is a price to pay for making mistakes. We should tell our children that this society is cruel and they should be prepared to suffer a lot of injustice. Regarding precepts and deeds, the purpose of education is to make the next generation surpass the previous generation, first surpass their parents, and then surpass the children themselves, so as to maximize the potential of the children. I am really touched by some parents who, in order to help their children learn a certain subject well, bought another set of teaching materials and worked hard with their children… I really admire some parents who, in order to set an example for their children, never watch TV, play with mobile phones or surf the Internet… …A child’s struggle must destroy his parents’ happiness? How far can such a child go? I believe that the role of parents should be to ignite the fire of positive passion in their children, rather than desperately burning themselves in an attempt to illuminate their children. How many parents burn their entire lives and turn it into ashes, while the future of their children is dark. Only a child with an extremely strong heart can be invincible, and evil spirits cannot affect him. Helping children surpass themselves and make new progress every day, strive to do better today than yesterday, plan to do better tomorrow than today, and plan a positive and beautiful vision full of positive energy is more important than anything else. I put the test scores at the end because I don’t want to talk about it, because I think it is too secondary compared to the first five points. But I have to talk about it. In China, it is so important. Most parents regard scores as the only goal of education. I think the only scores worthy of respect should be the college entrance examination scores. As a teacher in a provincial model high school, I have seen too many ups and downs of children\’s scores, and too many parents\’ helplessness. The child\’s face was filled with tears, so he could see more clearly the torment that scores bring to parents and children. Therefore, in the nine-year compulsory education stage, when children are still immature physically and mentally, do not sacrifice their healthy psychological and physical growth for scores. It’s a bit excessive to require double hundred points in elementary school. If a child gets 100 points, he will be given a bonus, and he will take photos and publicize it. 100 points means there are no shortcomings or loopholes? How far can a child who gets 100 points in primary school go? Mathematics master Chen Shengshen wrote an inscription for the junior class of the University of Science and Technology of China during his lifetime: Don’t get 100 points on the test. Zhu Qingshi explained that original students can generally score 70 or 80 points in the exam. If they want to score 100 points, they have to work several times harder. They must be very skilled in training to avoid making small mistakes. To compete for these 100 points, a lot of time and resources need to be wasted, which is equivalent to applying chemical fertilizers to the land 10 times. What is wasted is the passion and creativity of children in learning. In the face of scores, choosing to believe in your children without hesitation is your inexhaustible motivation, parents’ sarcastic words may be the last straw that weighs on their children. To be a far-sighted parent, the process is more important than the result. Only a perfect process can produce regret-free results. A child\’s desire to be number one is innate, just like a tree trying its best to grow into the sky in order to get more sunshine, rain and dew. This is not a function of education, it is a biological instinct. What is the role of education? I think it is for parents to pay attention, expect and watch, promptly clear the weeds and pests next to the small trees, and when the strong wind and rain blow the small trees to their sides, they will straighten them as soon as possible. It’s not about encouraging growth.