The importance of the best family education. The lazier the mother is on these three points, the better the child will be.

Yesterday, a parent complained that their child was very anxious after school started: urging him to get up in the morning, helping him pack his schoolbag, reading with him at night, checking homework, and tutoring him in homework. I was busy and worried about him, but the child did not accept the \”diligence\” of his parents and still went his own way, and his grades did not improve much. I was exhausted both physically and mentally, and my child\’s grades were not directly proportional to the hard work I put in. In fact, this is a problem that most families will encounter. The root cause lies with the parents themselves. Because his parents were too hard-working, he developed laziness. If this continues, it will be difficult to develop good study and living habits. Seeing so many parents working hard for their \”little emperors\” and \”little princesses\”, I did the opposite. Diligence and laziness are a pair of contradictions, which restrain and complement each other. If the adults are diligent, the children will be lazy; if the adults are \”lazy\”, the children will be diligent. Therefore, if parents are moderately lazy while accompanying them to study, their children will be more diligent in their studies and gain a lot! Too lazy to accompany him to study – to complete his own homework independently. I only remind my son when it is time to do his homework and report to me when he is done. Whenever there is a homework that needs to be checked, I always ask him to check it himself, and I am only responsible for signing. He said very unhappily: \”Other people\’s mothers have been checked, why are you so lazy?\” I reasoned with him: \”It\’s not that my mother is lazy. Do you think, if I check for you, will you still check? It\’s for the exam.\” If the time is wrong, who will help you check? If you make a small mistake in normal life, you will make a big mistake in the exam.\” He also told him that studying is his own business. When he encounters questions that he can\’t solve, I ask him to use his own brain, but he really can\’t do it. Tell him where to look for information. For example, if he doesn\’t know the meaning of a new word and he comes to ask me to save trouble, I ask him to look it up in the dictionary himself. In order to complete his homework, he has to look it up stroke by stroke. Afterwards, I was thinking about the reason why he didn’t like to look up words in the dictionary. It turned out that he was not proficient in looking up radicals in the dictionary. It often took him half a day to look up a word, and there were so many new words to look up. Not only children, but also adults found it boring. So I thought of a way to play a dictionary look-up competition with him, listing the new words to see who could look them up faster. I deliberately lost to him, but he was very interested when he won. After playing it a few times, the speed of looking up the dictionary has greatly improved, and I no longer think it is a trouble. Now, he even takes the initiative to help his classmates look up the dictionary. Tips for teaching children: Don’t be too diligent in guiding children in their studies, but learn to discover what the child can do and help independent thinking and can let go, and what he can’t reach and needs help. Lazy in nagging – do more and talk less to cultivate self-consciousness. Some parents nag like sparrows all day long in order to urge their children to study. As everyone knows, if a child hears repeated words too much, his ears will get calloused, but he will not take it seriously. On the weekend, he played games for a long time without doing any homework. I asked: \”What time are you going to play until?\” He looked at the clock and said: \”Ten minutes more.\” \”Okay, keep your word.\” Ten minutes passed. I came back and saw that he was still beating me. I suppressed my anger and said calmly, \”Don\’t you usually say that you should keep your word?\” He felt embarrassed, smiled apologetically, and immediately turned off the computer. Before that, I had instilled in him that he should keep his word when doing things.consciousness, so he could accept it happily this time. Just imagine, if I get very angry and nag for a while: \”Stop fighting, why don\’t you do your homework quickly? If you keep fighting like this, how will your grades get better? I won\’t be able to go to college…\” I\’m afraid he is unwilling to admit it and does his homework. At that time, he would still be \”in the Cao camp and his heart would be in the Han Dynasty\”. From now on, when he plays games, I want him to set his own time. When the time is up, he must turn off his computer immediately. At first, he wanted me to supervise him. Later, I secretly observed him and found that he had become self-aware and stopped beating when the time was up. It is said that playing games is not good, but as long as you grasp it well, you can turn disadvantages into advantages. He learned to control himself, restrain his desires, and developed control, endurance, willpower, etc. And these are important learning qualities. Teaching children diligently may not necessarily be effective, it depends on what aspect they are diligent in. If you are diligent in nagging and making excuses, the results will be ineffective; if you are diligent in finding methods and countermeasures, and they can be effectively implemented, it is worth learning. Lazy in doing things – not doing everything to cultivate independence in doing things. Parents can try not to help with anything that is within the child\’s ability. For example, when my son’s room is messy, I remind him that it’s time to tidy it up, but I happily watch him tidy it up. My children often have to go home and prepare various materials for science and technology classes, and I ask him to prepare them by himself. I give him money to go to the store to buy what he wants to practice his ability to deal with people. When he wants to collect specimens, I take him to the wild and see them. Let him do it. When school just started, the teacher asked him to put a book cover on his new schoolbag. He couldn\’t wrap it, but I asked him to learn how to wrap it with me. After the first cover was wrapped (of course it was very poor), I let him go and asked him to wrap it himself. He found it troublesome and showed an impatient look. I ignored him and just \”pointed my fingers\” and gave some guidance. Seeing that I was like a gentleman, \”talking but not using my hands\”, he had no choice but to be patient. If I wrap it up for him in order to save time and speed, then he will never be able to wrap it up with a second, better book cover. If you are diligent in helping children do things, or even do everything for them, the children will become dependent and passive, and the sense of responsibility cannot be cultivated. Let the children jump and pick fruits. Because of my various \”laziness\”, he has contributed to his good study and living habits. In terms of study, I have got rid of my carelessness and carelessness. When encountering difficulties, I can think independently and actively seek solutions. In terms of life, I have strong independence and can take care of myself. It can be seen that parents should let go when they should let go, be cruel when they should be cruel, and be lazy when they should be lazy, and keep their worries and attention silently in their hearts. Consciously cultivate children\’s independence so that they can be responsible for their own affairs and become diligent, whether it is in life or in study! Remove the protective wings and let him fly on his own. Only in this way can the pheasant swallow develop a pair of strong wings and form good study habits and independent ability in life.