The little boy kissed the little girl in the kindergarten and the result shocked everyone

The mother of a little girl named Yu Han went to the kindergarten to pick up her daughter from school. She was shocked by what she saw: she saw her daughter\’s hand being held tightly by a little boy, and the little boy rushed forward and kissed her daughter. The mother was so angry that she took her daughter home. Before leaving, he specially warned the little boy named Mingming not to kiss his daughter again. After returning home, Yuhan\’s mother became more and more angry. She quickly found the contact information of Mingming\’s mother in the parent group and took the initiative to contact Mingming\’s mother. At first, Mingming\’s mother was very happy to receive the contact, saying that her children often mentioned Yuhan at home, but Yuhan\’s mother said seriously that she was looking for her because of this: Mingming\’s mother was confused, and Yuhan\’s mother told her that she had personally seen her Seeing Mingming kissing his daughter again, judging from this \”again\”, it was not the first time for a boy to kiss a girl. Who knew that Mingming’s mother’s reaction would be to laugh and say that her son really liked little girls. This attitude made Yuhan\’s mother angry, but she still restrained herself and said that she felt this was not good and hoped that Mingming\’s mother would take good care of her children. Mingming\’s mother said with an indifferent attitude that it was normal for children to kiss and hug each other. Yuhan\’s mother was really angry, saying that if she was a boy, she would be fine with it, but her mother still downplayed it and said that the child was young and had no concept of male and female. Yuhan\’s mother was already very angry. After hearing Mingming\’s mother\’s reply, she became even more angry. She sent a series of voice messages and started talking directly. Only then did Mingming\’s mother realize the problem and advised her not to get excited. She said that she would tell her son not to kiss her son when she got back. Girl: But at this time, Yuhan\’s mother could no longer control her emotions, and the conflict escalated bit by bit. She directly replied that not only would she not let the boy kiss her, but she also wanted to stay away from her daughter. This attitude immediately aroused Mingming\’s mother\’s dissatisfaction. She criticized that adults should not restrict children from playing together. Such words just added fuel to the fire, and Yuhan\’s mother became even more angry. She directly replied that the other party was unreasonable, but Mingming\’s mother couldn\’t understand why she said that. Because the issues that both parties care about are completely different, they became increasingly angry with each other. Yuhan\’s mother started scolding her, saying that she would not let her daughter make friends who had been playing gangsters since she was a child. Mingming\’s mother also became furious instantly and did not show any signs of weakness. She scolded her back, and Yuhan\’s mother became even more angry, which showed that Ming\’s mother was not a good person, so she taught such low-quality children, and the two of them started to argue more and more fiercely… In the end, Yuhan\’s mother even found the kindergarten teacher and asked the teacher to promise Something like this will never happen again. Why does a child\’s behavior trigger such a big reaction from both parents? Because this child\’s behavior is not a minor problem, but the most sensitive topic for parents: sex education. As a mother, you are inherently sensitive to your child\’s behavior. A mother of a girl will naturally have more worries about her daughter. If a mother is conservative, she will be worried and anxious about her daughter, and panic about meeting unkind people. As she got taller, she naturally became more worried when she saw her daughter being hugged and kissed by a boy. The boy\’s mother is indeed much less panicked in this regard. It is said that the mother of a boy looks at everyone like a daughter-in-law, while the mother of a girl looks at everyone like a hooligan. There is indeed some truth to this statement. each otherDifferent mentality will lead to different ways of looking at problems. If the boy\’s mother sees the girl\’s mother panic, patiently explain and comfort her, and tell her why the children hug and kiss each other. When the girl\’s mother\’s panic is seen and her worries are accepted, the girl\’s mother will let go of her inner tension. , begin to understand the reasons for your child’s behavior. Maybe the two families will become good friends. It\’s a pity that the boy\’s mother didn\’t see the girl\’s mother\’s worries, and instead accused the girl\’s mother of being wrong. This directly angered the girl\’s mother, and the conflicts between them only grew. What does it mean when children hug and kiss each other? Is this what Yuhan’s mother understands as being a hooligan? Is it a sign of low quality and lack of education? Or is it like Mingming’s mother understands, it’s normal and no big deal? Before answering this question, let\’s first take a look at what hugging and kissing actually means to 3-4 year old children. If you think back to a person\’s growth process, you will find that hugs and kisses are a way for humans to express their liking and love. In each other\’s hugs and kisses, both parties can feel the flow of emotions and feel relaxed and spontaneous. Inner happiness. This emotion is ingrained in human genes. From the day a child is born, mother\’s hugs and kisses will make them feel extremely happy and relaxed. As a child grows up, he will gradually discover that not only hugs and kisses from his parents can make him happy, but hugging others can also make other people happy. Children gradually understand that hugs and kisses can express love and are a way to make each other happy. Therefore, babies will not hesitate to express love, kiss or hug to adults, which is an expression of love to them. When children grow up day by day and enter kindergarten, their mental development makes them start to explore outside and have the need to make friends. At this time, they will find that there are many children around them. They live and study together, and there will definitely be mutual understanding between the children. If they like each other, it will be easy for them to use the same method of expressing love and affection for their parents at home to treat their favorite children. At this time, children\’s gender awareness is not so clear. They do not have clear boundaries between boys and girls. They simply know that I like this child, so they will hug and kiss each other. If you observe children in kindergarten carefully, you will find that not only little boys hug and kiss the little girls they like, but also little girls hug and kiss the little boys they like. For them, this is just an expression of their own preference, a very pure and flawless emotion. Hugs and affection between children have no adult meaning. It is only after they enter puberty that they can completely differentiate between men and women in their hearts. Therefore, adults should not interfere roughly with children\’s behavior. Improper interference from adults will destroy the inner beauty of children. Just like Yuhan\’s mother, in her opinion, her daughter being kissed is obscene and dirty. When she saw her daughter being kissed, she felt like her daughter had lost her virginity, so she felt even more angry inside. If she can understand that the boy\’s behavior towards her daughter is different from what she understands, it will be easier for her to calm down.Most importantly, a mother’s attitude affects her daughter’s understanding of her own body. When the mother showed anger after her daughter was hugged and kissed, she told her daughter that such behavior was obscene and bad. The child will feel that she has once again provoked the parents\’ worries, and she will feel a sense of shame, especially if the child feels happy when being hugged and kissed. The child will wonder in his heart: Why do I feel completely different from my mother’s feelings? Why does mom think such behavior is obscene? When this happens repeatedly, the child will feel disgusted with his body and will have dirty thoughts about all hugs and kisses. This influence will last until they grow up. Many women cannot feel the joy of hugging and kissing during sex after falling in love. This is related to the feeling of being denied when they were young. Therefore, the mother\’s attitude has a great influence on the child. Some mothers may think, what if my daughter doesn’t like the other person’s hug? Does she have to accept if someone likes her? of course not. Whether a child wants to accept hugs from others depends on the child\’s own attitude. When seeing children hugging and kissing each other, parents should not rush to express their opinions. Instead, they should first ask the child how she feels when other children hug and kiss her. Is she happy or unhappy? Is it acceptable or more resistant? Mothers can patiently tell their children and respect their inner feelings. If both are happy, parents should not judge. If a girl feels uncomfortable inside, parents must teach her child how she can express rejection in a friendly way; for example, the daughter can directly tell the boy: \”You hug me and make me feel uncomfortable. I accept your liking, but also Please respect me and don’t hug me.” In the process of teaching their children, parents must also teach their children to learn to recognize the various positions of their own bodies, and teach their children which parts are private and cannot be used by anyone else except their parents. Feel free to look and touch. In this way, children will know each other\’s boundaries more clearly. The love between children is very short-lived. Even if they hug and kiss occasionally, if the adults don\’t remind them, the children will soon forget it. Constant reminders from parents and teachers will aggravate the child\’s behavior. When their children grow up, parents will find that all this will become a memory in their children\’s growth.